2007-01-27 11:30:01 · 23 answers · asked by Desiree J 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I personally do not think that we will get an answer from God about every little thing in life. We have a level of judgment, and we're expected to use it.
2007-01-27 11:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
True Christians do ask God what His will is in choosing a marriage partner. They trust Him to send a godly mate - someone that will help them in their walk with Christ - not someone that the Christian may have to "drag" along in serving the Savior - not someone they may be infatuated with but shows little evidence of belonging to Christ other than in profession only.
This means they need to use their own good judgment AND trust God if they are "sincerely" praying and seeking His will.
The Bible tells us there is wisdom in many counselors. Young Christians, especially, should seek godly advice from at least their parents, their pastor, and mature Christian friends that they can trust.
The statistics for Christian marriages failing tells me that either God is not being sought in these concerns or that there are a lot of so-called Christians out there that need saving.
2007-01-27 12:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by faithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should trust in God, but I'm afraid that most of the time they use their own judgment. Look at the divorce rate in the Christian community.
2007-01-27 11:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by humbleone02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They must use their judgment, given by God, if the partner would strengthen them in the Lord or distract them. If not, they should not marry. If it would be beneficial, the believer must, as always, have faith in God that He will help them and guide them.
A 'Christian' is a follower of Christ. If a Christian chooses a partner, it should not be as the world does and sees whether they 'love' him/her, as we should love all people with purity. If a believer desires to marry another in the name of the Lord, they must first see that it would be beneficial and not distract or lessen their relationship with the Lord. It should be a union glorifying God, showing Christ's relationship with the Church, as He, the source of the Church, cleanses and makes her holy should the husband, a man--the source of woman--do the same for her. They should love, encourage, and submit to one another, carrying each other's burdens.
2007-01-27 11:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by ij 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to do both. In addition to trusting God. Note that trusting while good is also passive. God calls us to pray which is active. In this respect we should pray for two things, one that God would lead us to the right mate and show us that and also we should pray that the enemy would not deceive us and lead us to the wrong mate.
When you begin to receive some indications from your prayer, don't stop praying. Ask God to show you more to make it even clearer what is right and what is wrong. In addition, recall that the Lord's prayer shows us to pray for His will to be done on earth as it is in heaven. We should always pray for God's will in our life especially with such an important thing as a mate.
2007-01-27 11:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most don't use much judgment nor do they trust in God.
What they should do is ask God to show them who to select for a lifetime partner, then sit back and wait.
Not very many do that.
I did.
grace2u
2007-01-27 11:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Theophilus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both because this world isn't perfect, mens are not every time onest,
must understand the real feelings of the partner. A partner which loves God, have learned to love.
2007-01-27 11:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by mirna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because being married is a lot more advantageous than merely sex. sex is area of being married, and loving one yet another, certain. authentic love thinks about acceptable the different better 1/2- no longer merely themselves. Lust says please ME! strong sex comes all for the time of a strong LOVING marriage, even at the same time as the bodies change from infant-bearing and age! And have self belief me NONE human beings imagine- oh i receives fat and dishevelled! LOL yet no one dodges that bullet. no one. the most acceptable sex comes once you actually love and look after another, because you may enable your protect down. And with one yet another continuously searching for the different- how are you going to lose? besides, there is so a lot extra to marriage than sex. The sex isn't as major as authentic love and cherishing. merely imagine- what in case you've been injured finally, or your husband had some ailment and can want to no longer have sex anymore? might want to you go away them? Is that love?
2016-12-03 03:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by mrotek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trusting in God means using the intelligence He has given us to choose what is the best for us.
2007-01-27 11:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by edcaimo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both.
Actually this fact is not limited to Christians.
Everyone (except for those with arranged marriages) uses their Judgement and then has to trust in whatever god they have.
(The go could be money, employment, or the religious type, etc.)
2007-01-27 11:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 47 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋