family ties can it be fixed?

Question

About 7 years ago, I sent my daughter to Detroit to visit my family for Christmas during school break. Here in La she had 3 months off. My mom and sister stole her form me and went to court and got guardianship during her visit. they never called me or contacted me about any court dates. they just said they did notknow where I lived.

My daughter stayed a little longer cause of a winter storm. she was 13 at the time. during her time there in Detroit. she starting using drugs my youngest sister got her stated on weed. My daughter started using weed and cocaine, having sex and hanging out of motels and with other crackheads teens and adults.
They enrolled her in a school where gangs were where they beat her up with shoes and otther objects now she has seizures.
Today my daughter is 19 and pregnant still leaving in Detroit they made her lie on me but because she did things she would never do with me the judge granted her stay cause of her age. should I cut the lost?

Answer 1

First I can't understand why you allowed 6 years to pass with all this going on with your daughter.O.K you didn't get to hear of the court dates but why weren't you more pro-active in getting your daughter back?.
I don't know what the age of majority is in U.S.but at 19 the girl should be in a position to make up her own mind as to her future as well as to determine her family relationships and any court -if it has jurisdiction over her at 19,will take her views into account.
You don't mention her mother so I can only assume that you have been the sole parent involved.
You have an almighty job on your hands if you are to undo all the harm and abuse she's experienced in your absence.But no,it can never be too late.Take time and reason with her if she will listen to you.Lead by example and offer her a more positive outlook and if she has any intelligence she will look for a better life and a better future.
But don't be surprised if she blames much of her state on you not being there for her when it all went wrong.
Good Luck

Answer 2

How could you even consider your daughter as a loss. You actually ask people on her should you cut your loss. Your child is never a loss. She is 19 and it is her decision to do what she pleases. If she is pregnant then you do need to offer her help for her drug problem and offer to help her with her child. If she says no then you must wait in the wings for her to ask for help or wait until she has no choice but to seek you out for help, but regardless a child is never a loss.