Okay, I'm in love with a female coworker that I must be with everyday at work. The problem is she is seeing another guy and it appears to be getting serious. She really likes this guy alot and I think the feeling is mutual. The only problem is out of 60
coworkers, I am the only person to know about their relationship. The girl slipped upone night while drinking a few too many martinis and spilled the beans. I wish she didn't tell me this because it bothers me to know she is always thinking about him. She constantlytext messages him at work in front of me and talks about him with me because I am the only coworker that knows about them. I don't want to destroy their relationship, however I don't want to continue to carry on a friendship with a girl that I have deeper feelings for. Should I just tell her that I can't be friendly with her because of how I feel, or continue to supress my feelings,ride the storm out and hope my feelings change? She's a really great person
2007-01-27 11:25:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since this girl has no idea how you feel about her it might cause both of you a great deal of discomfort if you tell her the truth. Just remain reasonably friendly while gradually backing away, and spend less time with her so that you can protect your own sense of well-being. You also would not want her special guy looking at you strangely so try to find someone else to fill that empty place in your heart, no matter how difficult this may be.
I believe there is someone very special waiting to connect with you when the time is right. You need to believe this, too.
Good luck!
2007-01-27 11:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok just tell her how u feel and hope that she dont stop talking to u unless u just wait and see if they break up and if they do give her a few to heal and then just pop the question and see what happpens and if she says yea then ur problem is solved but if she says right now is not a good time then ask when would be a good time and if she says in a few weeks then wait 3 weeks and ask again and she just might say yes
2007-01-27 11:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't place all your hope on the feelings changing unless you think they actually might.
Maybe you should tell her how you feel and then back off the relationship until you feel comfortable listening to her talk about him (which might never happen). Going on like you are now probably won't get much better.
2007-01-27 11:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say leave the two of them alone. If she felt the same way about you, she obviously would have chosen to be with you and not him. Men can seem all interested, but the woman makes the choice of whether or not they will be together. Find a job on the second floor where she doesn't work.
2007-01-27 11:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's that great and you're that sure of your feeling then I suggest you wait it out.
You never know when she'll need a shoulder to cry on. Plus texting him all the time will piss him off at one point, so be patient.
2007-01-27 11:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET HER if shes married but if shes not then b friends with her first, if shes not interested in you and is happy in her relationship then leave her alone
2007-01-27 11:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pathetic, you shud have jumped on dat ho and now u missed dat train.
2007-01-27 11:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by returnofbuckwheat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's unavailable...she's unavailable.
No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
2007-01-27 11:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i think u should let her know how u feel.
2007-01-27 11:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by naye77041 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋