well there is more to it. we have been going out for over a month and we have never really had a first date. I don't mind that much but i feel like he is really detached from me. So this week I said to him this weekend that i really wanted to see this new movie with him and that it was a 7:30 today, cause he is busy before then. I thought he might take a hint since i told him the movie and the time. and today he tells me can't. I am going to be gone next weekend so we can't do anything then. Even now after all that i still wouldn't have minded that much but i feel like he might not really like me and that the only reason he asked me out was cause he was on the rebound. i told him all this and how I felt and he said he felt sick and didn't even say good bye. i really like him but because of that response i don't know what to think. what should I do I am so confused.
2007-01-27 11:23:10 · 10 answers · asked by kddg2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well let me start by saying what kind of guy was he when he asked you out? If you say he's on the rebound, that's the first thing that isn't good. People on the rebound are feeling desperate and wanting to try to replace that person they were involved with so they don't have to go through the pain of being alone. It usually isn't a good idea to find a rebounding person to try and start a relationship with because of the baggage they are carrying from the previous relationship. By the way he acted when you brought up this subject to him means that he doesn't want to deal with it, which is bad for you.
Bottom line is this. You may still like him which is fine, however he's not giving you the kind of attention you deserve. It isn't fair to you. What you need to do is try to talk to him again about this situation. If he gives you another excuse instead of trying to fix it, thsi relationship is not worth trying until you both are able to comprimise. That is the God honest truth.
2007-01-27 11:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kenny F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having sex I would say thats all he hanging around for. If he really liked you he would be trying to spend as much time as he can with you. You might want to start thinking about that. Im sure you deserve better.
2007-01-27 11:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by paul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't good and you DO NOT deserve that. You need to tall him to make the commitment of actually BEING TOGETHER or it just isn't working out. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life waiting? But also, make sure you give him a fair chance.
-Shae
2007-01-27 11:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Shae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it doesn't sound like he's into you at all. I think you should end it and find someone else while you haven't invested too much time into things. It may hurt but it won't be as bad as staying with him for months (or years) and then realizing you should've left.
2007-01-27 11:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Luvly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'he was on the rebound'
never a good sign. If you two haven't even had a first date then how could you have been 'together'? a relationship requires both people's cooperation. If he's not doing his part, is it really worth it?
2007-01-27 11:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by sephyangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow girl,dats sum stuff!it sounds like he bein selfish,u should find sumeone new if its not workin out how u want it too,sound like he makin up excuses to me,hoped i helped
2007-01-27 11:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. make him listen. he needs to hear it. ask him if he really likes you. if he doesnt give you a straight answer, he doesnt. im sorry, i know what its like... one more thing, if you dont go on dates, you arent really going out, you are just together.
2007-01-27 11:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him.
its clear he lacks interest in you and didnt accept your attempt in trying to do something. so end it before you like him more, try before you leave.
2007-01-27 11:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he really wants you he will follow.
2007-01-27 11:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If he doesn't care about you why hold on to him?
2007-01-27 11:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋