My girlfriend likes to hang out next door at her neighbords. They are a young married couple. We have been together for a year. I know that she and her neighbord (male) hook up once (2-3 years ago) while his wife was out of town. She told me. And I always wonder about if is someting going on still there. And she knows i wonder. One day I came from work late at nite (5 months ago) and while this guy wife was out of town, my g/f and him were in the backyard drinking in the dark and hanging out. When I got there they were both accting weird. anyway I told her that I dont want her to hang out next door cause they smoke together and his wife until today does not know and they became good friends. I dont like and i think is wrong that she goes next door all the time and she gets mad at me when i ask her to change clothes (not wear anything tight) or not to be there if the guy is there. she thinks I am silly and gets mad at me and will go no matter what.
It is me or I am doing wrong?
2007-01-27 11:18:33 · 24 answers · asked by enriqueflorida1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you could be overreacting, just keep a watch out.
2007-01-27 11:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by paul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much about wrong or right here. It's about telling your partner what bothers you, and you've done that. Have you sat her down and explained this to her? I'd be skeptical on telling her how to dress when she's over there (don't worry, if your neighbor and your girl hooked up years ago, then he doesn't need her to wear tight clothes for the mental image). Just talk with her about it, and if she can't respect your wishes or explain herself (because they apparently are friends, whether you like it or not), maybe you should consider a new relationship. After all, I'm assuming from your question that your neighbor cheated on his wife with your girl, and given that "once a cheater, always a cheater" holds pretty well, I'd consider leaving. What's a relationship if you can't compromise on something like this anyways?
2007-01-27 19:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI THERE your right she has no respect for you or this guy wife. if she does this now don't wait 9 years too late stop it now if she does not listen to you or respect u it does sound as if something is going on . when i was 19 with one child my ex huband and his brother hang out with these ladies but I never seen anything wrong but the drinking and hanging out not till 13 years later I found out he was having an afair with this lady and she was with my step dad and most of my ex husband friends . so u see don't wait and i'm sure u can find better don't need the pain or tears. be wise do not do anything foolish ok . hey why not go over everytime she does spoil thier fun . i think it's time to put a spy cam in the your home proof is better then words.
2007-01-27 19:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by sugarlove_one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're totally in the right. First of all...if she had any respect for you as her love interest, she would listen to you if there was a problem and she was part of the solution.
Your girlfriend sounds like she's pretty selfish wanting to do her own thing without considering how you feel about that. If you don't like that she goes over there by herself...tell her, "I want you to invite me when you go visit your friends...I don't like that you and "Steven" hang out together alone all the time. It's just not proper for a married man to be alone with an unmarried woman...there's always room for temptation."
2007-01-27 19:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your more right than she is.... hanging out, and drinking with a married man while she knows that you dont approve, is definatly wrong. Talk to her about it and try to see her side of the story... ask her why she likes going over there.... if she cant give you a good answer, or she keeps doing what shes doing, then she doesnt seem like the best choice for a girlfriend.
2007-01-27 19:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are totally right !! Cause if the roles were reversed she would feel the same way that you do. You have every right to be concerned because she did hook with the dude.
She needs to decide if she wants to be with you or the neighbor.
She is totally disrespecting you and doesn't care about your feelings at all. If she did she wouldn't be acting like she is single.
2007-01-27 19:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong she is. I think you should run not walk out the door because obviously she is still humping around with the neighbor. And if she is consistently wearing tight clothes and going over to there house she is looking for his attention when she should be attempting for yours instead.
2007-01-27 19:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be paranoid and suspicious, she is hanging out with the guy that she had a "thing" with!! What shes doing is playing on your emotions, and you need to tell her exactly how you feel!! She became sexually involved with this guy, and now shes best friends with him... its virtually impossible for a guy and a girl to remain good friends after being sexually involved, especially after an affair!!
Confront her with not only what you want... (she owes you after he affair with this man) but with how you feel. She deserves to know. Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable, and that you would no longer be happy with her seeing this guy. Please get this sorted otherwise you will end up destroying your self-confidence. Ask yourself one question... this guy next door... do you really believe his intentions are just to be friends with your girlfriend? and do you think your g/f's intentions are to just remain friends with this guy?
2007-01-27 19:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dare Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are definitely right why the hell does she think it's cute to be all in that womans face when she's fuc*** her husband and not to mention her hanging around with this man like they never screwed, and if his wife isn't always there who's to say that they aren't still fuc++++. If you ask me there is some sneaky shi* going on and didn't you say they were wearing the dumb face the other day. YOU BETTER WATCH HER
2007-01-27 19:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by T.T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinik she's a freak and u need to ask her wat you could do to knock her freakin' socks off and if u both hit on something that can re-establish the bond between u 2, u may not be feeling so worried about what she's up 2. But if you aren't willing to go out of your way for her extreme pleasure u may just have to learn to deal with her catty behaviours.
2007-01-27 19:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your side. How would she feel if you hung out with this guy's wife if you had hooked up with her in the past? Out of respect for your feelings, she shouldn't be hanging out alone with this guy.
2007-01-27 19:24:13 · answer #11 · answered by singleagain062005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋