Im just wondering if that would have any effect on your decision whether to go out with them or not if they asked you? Genuine answers only please
2007-01-27 10:57:11 · 38 answers · asked by sportsfan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since I started having the seizures, it has affected my confidence a bit, as I dont know whether to mention it straight away or not, in case 1 happens & they dont know whats going on
2007-01-27 11:14:09 · update #1
This answer is coming from an epileptic woman-and I've never had a problem with epilepsy putting someone off me! If it did,I would consider it a lucky escape from a very shallow and unintelligent person!
I've always been upfront about my condition-anybody you're going to spend a lot of time with should be informed.
Would I personally date someone with epilepsy? Of course I would! It doesn't have anything to do with your personality or how attractive you are! So please don't let epilepsy hold you back-it doesn't define you. Take pride in who YOU are.
2007-01-27 22:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I am a female, and i have had epilepsy for 26 years. I have had to be very dependent on everyone since I never learned to drive. I met a man in 1994 and he knew my situation.. He knew that more than likely I would never be able to drive. And I haven't. He has been very tolerable of my life. We never thought that I would be able to have children, and he accepted that.
He works 12 hrs a day 5 days a week. On his only 2 days off, he will take me wherever I want to go, and do whatever I want since I have been cooped up in the house for those 5 days.
My husband is a genuine man. He loves me. and he understands my needs. He takes care of me when I am in "seizure mode" Please don't be put off by him. He may have a lot to offer than just his seizures. Love him for who he is, and not what he has.
2007-02-01 06:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I wasn't a least bit surprised about them experimenting on drugs and smoking pot. I thought everyone already knew that. Hmmm, maybe its my Pisces intution hehe. Anyways. That was back then anyways. Wowww. I bet the so called "fans" that are saying they are dissapointed are just ignorant yuppy lil kids that like Disney bands. Aka Miley skank Cyrus and Jonas Brothers. A real fan who is part of the international and close bonded Tokio Hotel family understands these kind of things and love the band no less. The Kaulitz twins aren't perfect, they made some small mistakes. Bill is still Bill and Tom is Tom. Always was, always will. They have beautiful souls and experimenting doesn't make one a posessed demon. For ppl who are considered perfect know nothing about life. Perfect means something different to everyone. And Bill is perfection in my eyes. Not cuz of his flawless features, but how strong he is. Hes an inspiration and a hero to me. I know no one who has gone through the exact shitt hes had to go through and still stand strong and not go all Britney Spears & Lyndsey Lohan nutss. Ich liebe TH und Billy fur immer und ein Tag!!! ;)
2016-05-24 06:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it depends on how far we have gone before knowing it. If we have just started and my feelings towards him are not deep, it will certainly make me have second thoughts. It sounds horrible but it is also true to a lot of women. But if I have a lot of admiration in this man and I adore him, nothing can stop me. So I think if a man is unlucky to suffer from this disease, he has the same chance of winning a girl's heart as other normal healthy guys, provided that he doesn't feel inferior and has got a positive and charming character. Once he can win the admiration of a woman, he can win her heart easily. All he needs is just a bit more patience.
2007-02-02 12:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by mcmug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not - but the guy should tell you straight away as it can be a frightening experience if you haven't seen someone having an epileptic fit before. I dated a guy years ago with epilepsy and he didn't tell me - I found out when he had a fit in a supermarket and it scared the life out of me - once he told me how to help him and handle the situation it was fine. We were together for 6 years in all and it only ended when I had to move back to Wales for family reasons
2007-01-27 11:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would be a factor in the decision on whether or not to move the relationship forward but it wouldn't stop me from giving me the guy a chance. It depends on the person and if he can help me understand epilepsy and know what to do in an emergency. Also his attitude towards his condition would be a MAJOR factor.
2007-01-27 11:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by KitterKat2310 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
with the exception of that freak comment (not funny by the way) these are all very mature answers.
I am partially epileptic and sometimes these overtly pc reactions are the most annoying. to be honest – I think a lot of them are a bit fake. a lot of people (and i get whiffs of it in some of the above) are forcedly 'cool' about it - even take pride in their 'hey lets talk about it because im so damn open-minded' attitude.
i think its these ones youve got to watch. some people, well, enjoy the idea of a bit of drama in their lives. some people like to boast about just how good they are at coping with issues and just how moral they are, and they end up kind of using you to authenticate their own self-righteousness
mostly these kind of people work in human resources.
I think its only natural that others are a bit put off – but the good ones don’t try and hide it, they just learn to ignore that feeling because they like you.
2007-02-01 11:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by jojo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basicly i wouldnt metion it on the first date as this is a time to see if you like the person or not. i would defenatly mention it on the second date as it is important that the other person knows...
also if they are bothered about then there not worth dating in the first place so your better off without them...
they wouldnt bother me... i have experiance with epilepsy form a young age, my sister has it..
good luck and try not to let it get you down...
2007-02-02 01:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is part of you and if she really likes you it doesn't matter. I think you should tell her when you get to know her a bit better as i'm sure you will charm her that it is you she would like to get to know even better with or without the epilepsy.
2007-02-02 03:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner has it and we now have a 4 year old son.It did not put me off but it is destressing when they have a fit and they get really down afterwards mainly because of losing driving license.
We have it down to a fine art now and he eats well and takes his medication every day and he has not had one for 5 years! (touch wood)
Drinking does not help but once you meet someone then you will not be on the piss every night so the really helps.
You have to get on with life and not let it effect you.
How often do you have them?
email me jodiewallace77@btinternet.com
2007-01-27 12:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by mylittlekitty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋