I asked her to move out of the house with her 3 kids because I knew moving him in was their next step,& since we'd been down that road before& I wasn't about to repeat it. Now she won't call me & doesn't answer my calls. It's been 6mos. & I've only seen my grandkids 2x. This has been hard for me since I was the one who provided childcare for them since birth & also my daughter & I had a pretty close relationship. I don't know how to fix this. She's never stayed angry at me this long. I tried to tell her I would not interfere in her relationship with her ex & would accept whatever she wants. I just want her to be happy & safe & my grand kids also. I really want to have some sort of relationship with my daughter. She's my only child & I miss her. PS. We had been discussing moving to seperate households in the near future anyway.
2007-01-27 10:44:46 · 10 answers · asked by Sandi Beach 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are several reasons this could be happening. For one, the ex could be keeping your daughter from reconnecting with you. Are these his children? Another reason could be that she has made a mistake and doesn't know how to admit it. The last reason I can think of is your daughter blames you for her situation. Being a grandmother of two beautiful daughters, and I call them my daughters, as I have raised them since birth. My son, their father was killed when they were just babies. I would just die if either one of them cut me out of their lives. I live for them, as I know you do. The love of your grandchildren is so special, isn't it!I would take the initiative and go personally and visit them. Act as though no time has passed, make it at Valentines' and you have an excellent reason. Take small gifts for the grandchildren. Take a "loving gift" for your daughter. Put something "cute" together for the ex! Be cool, now mom. I can tell you now that all will go well, as I know your daughter is sad and your grandchildren miss you. Follow my advice, and go for it, you have absolutely nothing to loose! Good Luck...
2007-01-27 11:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sandi Beach if your daughter refuses to answer or return you calls then perhaps you could write her a letter. In it you could tell her how you still love her and the kids unconditionally and are supporting her decision to reunite with her ex. As you are probably more than aware history will probably end up repeating itself again but there is no need to mention this. She may respond but she may not but at least you'll know that you have done all you can to try and repair this relationship. It at least will be an attempt to break the ice and hopefully you two can meet and have a good conversation over a coffee or something. It is very difficult trying to cut the apron strings at the same time as inform the kids what you think is best. And trust me you are not alone with this situation, but hopefully you will have a happy ending also. Good luck.
2007-01-27 18:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have said you just want her happy, your her mum of cause you do. All you can do is be there for her if/when anything happens. I took my EX husband back twice i did not listen to my mother/farther when i took him back- I made my mistakes and have now Lent by them! I feel as though you may have put a little pressure on her, she may feel that she torn by lots of things in her life, her mum her kids, she wants the best for her kids and at the same time is taking things out on you! You need to stop being a friend at the moment and be her mum, strong and faithful as you have been for such a Long time, so when she does realize she will want to come to you to share the love that you have given her for the lat 27 years. You are going to have to make the first move, you Need to call her and ask to meet up,tell her that you do want the best for her and that what ever makes her happy makes you happy, even if it through gritted teeth, and like i have said if/when she falls all you have to do is open your arms to ease the pain of the fall. This is only my opinion, i have always been close to my parents but more so now than ever! Good luck i am sure all will come out in the wash, keep strong and don't forget, good friends are nice but sometimes you need your mum. x
2007-01-27 19:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you need to let your daughter live her life on her own. she's grown and she needs to do this, just make sure she knows that you will always be there for her. in time things will come down, and she will call you. the other thing you could do is stop by her house and ask to have the grandchildren for a few hours. when you go there tho, ask that and nothing else... show her that it's about the grandchildren, and that should start to open a door for you two... If things are that bad and really believe your grandchildren are not safe, then you need to make big decisions on what you want to do, to keep them protected.
Have a little trust in your daughter tho, I'm sure she will know what to do. Best of luck to you!!!
2007-01-27 19:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by dthsmx5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since trying to talk to her isnt working I would just stop trying. Leave her alone long enough and she will start to miss you eventually. If you keep bugging her it wont change. Find other things to do. Develop some interests and do those things. After awhile she will wonder where you went and she will call you.
2007-01-27 18:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time to cool off and when she does and realizes that you only want the best for her and her children she'll call you and when she does just don't mention the situation act as if it never happened.
2007-01-27 18:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never ever let my children know that they may be getting to me by them trying to teach me a lesson by staying away. she will come back around, give her time. sure you miss them all but dont let her do that to you. you can call and talk but dont mention any of it.
2007-01-27 20:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by crystal b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep phoning her and asking to talk with the children.
2007-01-27 18:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give up...Keep trying to reach out to her.
Good~Luck.
2007-01-27 18:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she needs alittle more time
2007-01-27 18:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋