We had one friendly conversation where he told me a little about himself and mentioned a few times that he had an ex-girlfriend.He asked me for the time telling me his cell phone was dead. We soon said our goodbyes, and when I see him next he won't look at me while I'm talking to my guy friend. After that, the next time I saw him staring at me. I didn't get to say hello because it was a bad time. Then the next time he makes all of these noises and keeps clearing his throat in the seat close to mine while I'm studying for a test in the library. The last time I saw him, he wouldn't look at me at all, but stared for a long time the minute I walked away. He never says anything, but stares without shame. What do you really think? This has happened over the course of a year.
2007-01-27 10:25:17 · 7 answers · asked by Do_As_Infinity 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He seems to be an extremely shy and diffident man, and I don't think he's ever had a girlfriend. He has no confidence in himself, and the brief conversation he had with you was, to him, a mighty conquest. I think he is desperate for female company, and wants to be friends with you. Maybe he has seen something attractive about you, your appearance, personality, etc.
You have two options.
1. Do you want to make friends with him, or
2. do you want him to stay away?
I don't think you can wish him away. He is hoping you might break the ice for him, for he knows he lacks the courage and confidence to come up to you. The thing you might do in this case is to ignore him altogether. Just move away from him, and if he doesn't get the message (which he probably won't) , tell him firmly you'll take action which he will regret.
On the other hand, it appears that you notice him a lot too, and you seem to be "attracted" to him, though in a somewhat negative way. Are you sure you're not sending him signals by "finding yourself" in his vicinity? Are you sure you don't enjoy the staring bit? I think you do, and moreover, I think you want to open a friendship with him too. Looks like you're shy too, little girl, though perhaps to a lesser extent.
It might be in both your interests if YOU get over your initial hesitancy and make the first move towards him saying you seem to be bumping into each other a lot, and maybe you might get to know each other better. You might if you wish apologise (though an apology is not really needed) for giving him the feeling you've been ignoring him. You might concoct some reasonably plausible story by way of explanation. Offer to make up with him by treating him to a coffee, or something. You never know, he might just turn out to be the best guy you've met yet. A little shy perhaps, but just your type.
I say take the latter option. In your heart, I think you want to do it too. Go ahead and good luck. May he turn out to be your dream man.
2007-01-27 10:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used to like you, but knows you don't like him back. Now he hates you.
I think it started the time you saw him but did not say hello. And was reinforced in the library when he was trying to get your attention by clearing his throat, but you did not talk to him.
2007-01-27 12:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by zotzotzot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of he's shy and afraid to make the flow. in line with danger he's been harm interior the previous and terrified of having that happen lower back. Like while he observed you conversing on your guy pal. i think of he would desire to have an interest yet very careful. If he stares at you, stare lower back. :)
2016-11-01 10:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are idiots! I probably really really really likes you and doesn't know how to tell you or ask you out! If you really like him you should ask him out and see how it goes!
2007-01-27 10:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he really likes you and doesnt know what to do. if you like him and you have the guts do him a favor and make the first move...he'll be very greatful for it.
2007-01-27 10:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Meg said was good...of course, he could be crazy too.
2007-01-27 10:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Brian D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes secretly obsessed with you.. but it sounds like he has some social disorders so i donno if u want to get involved with him..
2007-01-27 10:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by balla24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋