Okay, I'm 13 years old and I always get looked at by waaay older men with those glossy, nasty eyes that they give women... I don't know but I feel sooo violated and I was wondering what other people do? Like I tried dressing baggy but they still stare at my body and it makes me sick... I don't want to tell my mom because she'll freak out. Any help please?? I'm really sick and tired of having to go through this with not just people of my own age group, but people that are 3-5 times my age :(
2007-01-27 10:24:44 · 10 answers · asked by infallible_wench 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
Well I always knew guys could be pervs but I don't think it's fair for me to have to deal with it at 13 :/ I don't want to say anything to them. I'm soo scared that they might do something. I want to live normally but I mean...just now I went to the store with my dad and I was sitting in the back of my car and decided to get out just to take a breather and some a**hole just looked me up and down with these naaasty eyes. It makes me sick and sad.
2007-01-27 10:34:41 · update #1
U R right. That is sick. It will continue to happen. So keep in mind that you will not be able to change what other people do, but can can change what YOU do and how you feel. Don't let anyone make you feel uncomfortable. If you do, then you are giving them permission to affect you. Change how you deal with those pervs. I have always just ignored them because it seemed to be that if I gave them any idea that I noticed them, or somehow showed that they made me feel bad in any way... they had won. By choosing to ignore them and not to let them see how uncomfortable I felt, I was in control and not them.
So take charge girly!
2007-01-28 11:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by Monkeygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but that's what happens when you turn around 11-13 and your body starts changing into a woman's. They don't care how old you are, they see someone pretty and they look. It gets worse as you get older, I'm afraid.
I don't think changing your clothes will help. My mother used to dress me in really "kid" clothes, like striped tee shirts and dungarees, trying to get the guys to see I was still just a child despite having C cup breasts, but she was very naive, because this just encouraged their paedophile fantasies I expect. She also tried cutting my hair really short like a boy but this didn't work either.
Anyway, don't do what I did and try to change the way you look, because it messed with my self-esteem and now I've got no idea what to wear or how to do my hair - I spent so many years trying to be un-noticed.
2007-01-27 10:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by porterii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hunny, but if you're a pretty girl those things are going to happen. And trust me,they don't get better when you get to be about 15-19.
2007-01-27 10:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Space Cadet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, as long as you're a pretty girl its going to happen. Its definitely different when you're 13... If its continually done..Id say something. You don't deserve to be disrepected.
2007-01-27 10:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Shannon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, that's the price you pay for being pretty. As you get older they get worse. Don't let it get to you. I've learned to ignore most of them. You'll learn how to deal with it as you get older.
2007-01-27 12:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get really fat! and fart a lot. a runny nose would help. Maybe lose a front tooth.
2007-01-27 10:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by fabrat1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell me where they'll usually at ill take care of them for u
2007-01-27 13:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by G WeeziE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't get any better
2007-01-27 10:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by connie sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a stun gun and flip them off!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-27 10:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by i hate undies! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋