Alright, my first question! I'm interested in a girl and really want to pursue her for a relationship. But, I have a lot of school loans and all my money goes towards paying debt and rent. I have a good job with lots of potential for advancement but for right now I could not afford to talk her out to a lot of dinners or outings. What should I do. Should I what until I have more money to spend on her? or be honest to her to see if that's even a problem with her?
2007-01-27 09:53:58 · 31 answers · asked by yaabro 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Money shouldn't matter in a new relationship. It shouldn't be about what you buy but about who you are.
2007-01-27 09:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is communicate with her. Tell her your goals right now are to pay off debt and school loans. You can be very creative with a girl without having to spend a lot of money. If she doesn't like you not having money, you find another girl who likes you for you.
2007-01-27 17:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by seif970 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should pursue her for a relationship with or without money.
There are a lot of ways to make your lady happy without money.
For first 3 months, instead of impressing her with lot of material stuffs, impress her with your heart. Write her a letter everyday, call her every day,..you know. those things that really show how you think of her.
Trust me, Girls don't like it when guys brag and try to buy stuffs in the beginning of relationships. We know exactly what that kind of guys want.
When I first dated my boyfriend, Money was never an issue. We were both just so happy to be with each other. And only thing that required money was when we were hungry, but if we are together, Mcdonald $1 menu tasted like gourmet meal!
What's important is your heart.
2007-01-27 18:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by daisyleemie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, be up front with her about your money situation. If she doesn't like you after that then you know what kind of a person she is NOW instead of down the road. A lot of girls need men with money for whatever reason. It's quite pathetic. Your best bet is to be honest with her, and take her to a park and go on a hike or a museum. The best way to get to know someone is being in nature with them.
One of the most romantic things anyone ever did for me was to buy me a plastic ring out of a candy machine. It's the simple things in life that are cool like that. Be creative and ask her what she'd like to do. :)
Good luck.
2007-01-27 18:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by madjennyvane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to wait until you have alot of money... believe it or not, not all girls are all about the money. You could just as easily invite her over for dinner. Prepare something cheap and quick. Watch an old movie that you both haven't seen in years. Play a game and chat for a bit. Maybe walk around your college campus. There are lots of things you can do that are not that costly. I'm sure she will relieze that you have responsibilies as an adult an understand...
2007-01-27 18:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Annoy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with her..If she cares about you for you..She will understand..
There are lots of things you can do that take very little to no money..Taking walks together..At home movie nights..I love nothing more than to sit on the couch with my hubby, a big ole' bowl of popcorn, watching a movie together..
Picnicing in the summer time..If you have a state park near you..grilling out there and then walking through the park..
There's lots of things you can do..But, that doesn't mean you shouldn't save your nickles and dimes and take her to a nice dinner at least once a month..
Then after things begin to look up..A night out once a week would be nice..
Good luck....
2007-01-27 18:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationships we tend to try to impress the person right off the bat to get them to like us. Its called Peacocking. You show all your beautiful feathers and dance around like an idiot. But thats not how life should be if you dont have the means to do so. What will happen when you dont have any money left to play with. All of a sudden you seem like the guy thats pulled the wool over her eyes and didn't let her know the real you.
Let her know what you are all about, how you like her, what your goals are. Get to know her. Then if it doesnt seem like a threat to let her know your financial situation. Let her in. If she cant handle life not always being perfect then forget about it. Life is not all glamour. There is other ways to have fun low budget.
Condoms are not that expensive.
2007-01-27 18:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly mate it would be a good way to find out if she really likes you, money isnt everything so ask her out and explain your situation. If she isnt interested then i would say that it speaks volumes. Dont wait until you sort your cash flow problem out, it might be too late by then and you may have missed out. Not all girls are interested in the size of a mans wallet. Many women, like myself, seek more simple qualities. Since when was money more important than love?! Ask her out and good luck x
2007-01-27 18:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her, tell her whats going on and your situation. If she really wants to be with you, she wouldn't judge you on that and would understand. There are plenty of things that don't cost a lot or dont cost at all, that you could do. Things as simple as going to the movies, on a picnic, something simple yet sweet. It shouldn't be about the money in the first place.
2007-01-27 17:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be honest. I would take her out to a nice inexpensive cafe for a first date and then bring the subject up. Dating doesn't have to be too terribly expensive if you try and it's fun to do things yourself sometimes. I'm going into a MARRIAGE with no money so I know how you feel :)
2007-01-27 17:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by kaitlyn.roberts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her. You never know, maybe later on will be to late and she'll be with another man. If she's a understandable person who knows that sometimes studies puts you in though circumstances, you'll be ok. If she rejects you because of the financial burden your going through, that should send up red flags. You don't want a girl just in it for the dough
2007-01-27 17:59:52 · answer #11 · answered by La Princesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋