when should we have sex?

Question

im 14. i wanna have sex. i'd use a condom. my boyfreind loves me. i love him. we still have that same "lovey" feeling that was there when he first asked me out. were in love and i wanna show it. im not waiting until marriage. ♥

hes fingered me, he ate me out, i gave him head, hand, i really liked all that, but when should i give him all of me?

oh yeah and is doing all that other stuff i just wrote above bad? as bad as all the way??

oh yeah and is doing all that other stuff i just wrote above bad? as bad as all the way??

Answer 1

You are to young, love at that age is not real true love....
boys at that age will tell you anything to get between your legs. Respect yourself and don't do it...
one day will come that you are older and really in love and then you will know when its right...
Please listen to the older generation...
been there done that

Answer 2

Sex is a HUGE responsibility, and even though you'd use a condom, are you really ready for it? Whether you love each other or not, you are 14. Sex should not be a priority in your life. When you're 14, you're still figuring out the world. I'm 17, and my boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We still haven't had sex; in fact we're waiting until he's AT LEAST 18 (he's only two months older than me). Sex has many emotional repercussions. What happens after you sleep together? How do you KNOW he'll still feel the same way about you? How do you KNOW your relationship will last? How do you KNOW you won't regret it afterwards? You DON'T know, and chances are you won't for several more years. If the relationship doesn't work out, you'll be sitting there wishing you had waited for the right guy.

Condoms do not fully protect against pregnancy. Data show that if a condom is used correctly with every act of sexual intercourse for one year, about three out of every 100 women are expected to get pregnant. Not only are they not 100% guaranteed forms of birth control, they also do not protect you OR him from STDs like HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, herpes infection, and genital ulcers. Do you know if he's been sexually active before? And if he has, does he know that he was safe? The girls he might have slept with could have had an STD or STI and passed it on to him. If you want to have sex with him, you need to know.

If you're adamant about having sex, this is what you should do. First, tell a parent, close neighbor, doctor, or another RESPONSIBLE ADULT about your decision. Discuss it with them, and get their advice on the subject. Then, if you decided to go through with your decision, discuss sex with your boyfriend. Make sure you are on the same page with emotions and safe-sex practices. Then, talk to a gynocologist about some form of birth control that is right for you. It is very important to be on birth control. Also, make sure that you use a condom EVERY SINGLE TIME. There are other ways of being safe while being sexually active, and you should explore all your options with a doctor.

If you need more information, you can go to:
webmd.com or http://www.cedu.niu.edu/~shernoff/djs2/pamela_jones/Teen%20Talk%20Sex.htm.

I really suggest researching before you have sex. It sounds silly, but you don't want to end up a mother at 16 or with serious medical problems because you weren't careful, do you?

Answer 3

Babe you are way too young to even be THINKING about sex. You need to have a childhood first, there is so much you are giving up, Play is an important part of growing up. Having Tea Parties, Sleep-overs with girl friends, Collecting Dolls, and making outfits for them, Joining Grils Scouts, and a million ot ther activities like Dance, and Band, and Gymnastics.

Just because you are plumbed for the act dose'nt mean you have to be using the equipment yet. How old is you BF? Is this Genius aware that he would likely be commiting a crime if you two were to have proceeded with this nonsense? He could probably be charged with Rape, and his age, (I'm too young to be charged with a crime, - I wouldn't bet on it slick).

And as far as LOVE goes, L-O-V-E at you are should be reserved for your momma. your daddy, and your brothers & sisters & Nana & other relatives and Jesus. You don't have the slightest Idea of what love is at 14, about the love between a man and a woman, your just a child. So keep that kids privates out of your mouth, and your hands, and stop pleasuring that boy, your neighborhood dosen't need another pregnant 14 year old , yeah you say you gonna use a condum now, but theres going to that one time when he's going to want to go" bare back" , and promise to pull out before he comes, and then you are going to be jusdt one more little dumb welfare mother, or one more two dollar whore.

So pull up you panties, hit those books, stay in school, leave the boys alone til your about 30, ( ask your dad if that isn't too early to start dating), get you HS diploma, and then go on to college. These things can feel better than sex with a moron - trust me, and you will feel a heck of a lot bettter about yourself. Good Luck.

I'm pulling for you.

Answer 4

Oh my GOD!!! I have a 16 year old daughter and she is sexually active also. First of all a condom is not all you need. What you need to do is talk to your parents first and let them get you some birth control as well as condoms. You need to really slow down and get a conversation going with your parents and find out how they feel about all the stuff that you have already done. I'm 36 and some of that stuff you just mentioned I have not done until my late 20's. So for your sake and mines please slow down. You have a lot of time to express your feelings to this young man. Do the right thing and get some help before you regret it. Trust me your parents will understand, they were young once also. By the way my daughter tells me everything and I appreciate her for that. We have a great relationship.

Answer 5

Alright,
This is going to suck hearing this alright?
I am 16 now. I have a boyfriend and we've been together for about two years. Yes we have had sex. I lost my virginity at 14 to my boyfriend at the time Gary. I thought I really loved him. I regret doing that so horribly much. It wasn't love and I was way to young to know that. I'm still firguing out the depths of love. Me and my boyfriend now Robbie waited untill we'd been together for a year to have sex. And it made it not even having sex. We made love. It was amazing. And that's because we WAITED and we really were in love. Now, we're closer then ever. How long have you guys even been together? Just don't rush into anything. Later down the line, you'll regret it.

Answer 6

Be good she says. OK, here's something to shove into your head, and think about. There is a correlation between cervical cancer and sexual behavior in females, at apparently an early age, as in before 16. If I wuz you, I'd suspend all forms of sexual behavior until your 17, for your own health, and also, all boys talk, as in, every one of them, and being known as "easy" will not help your time in High School. I personally craved sex from 9 on to now, and I'm 56. The desire doesn't go away. Relax, you have time. Educate yourself in every aspect of sexuality, and learn to withhold the goods from everyone. It is valuable, not to be wasted. Be picky. Learn how to supercharge sexuality with something called sensuality. Be more spiritual, sex can be a source of great power. A doorway to the spirit if you will. Be very careful my lovely. Do your homework.

Answer 7

14 is awfully young. I suggest waiting to see if you are with this guy for year. If in a year you guys are till together and in love, the you can make that decision. Don't be in a rush to lose your virginity, you'll never get it back. Just make sure it's love and not infatuation. at this age it is mostly infatuation not love.

This day in age, almost no one waits until marriage. I was only 16 and trust me we were "so in love", but that love eventally did fade away...I could have saved my virginity and given it to someone a whole lot more special and deserving.

Answer 8

first of all you are only 14 you really don't know what love is at all.ask your self do you really know what love is. why do you love him why do him why do he love you. would he still fell the same if you do have sex with him of course he is going to say yes but is he really. don't do it not yet because when you do or if you do. when you are about 18 or whatever and you really do know what love is and you do meet your men you are going to wish that you waited. because that is how i feel now. then you have to think condoms are not 100%. just wait and make sure that you are really ready.

Answer 9

if you are truelly in love, you will wait because sex doesn't mean that much to you and if it does then it isn't love it is just another form of being horny or just plainly wanting to have sex. You don't necessarilly HAVE to wait BUT I would strongly suggest because now it may feel like something good but later on it won't feel the same. Be wise and stick with what your gut and your heart tells you, if you don't you will never know what it is trying to say.

Answer 10

girl, i'm the same age and i have the same feelings too. my friend had sex when she was 13, and he said it was a bad idea. she wished she waited until she was at least 17. thats when i want to do it. not to young, but not to old. just make sure hes the right person and make sure you love each other. my friend didn't use a condom and almost got pregnant. so if you do it, make sure you do it safely. just be careful, and what the hell...have fun..good luck!

Answer 11

You are way too young whether you want to hear it or not. You're playing with fire & you may get hurt. You better hope your boyfriend who loves you so much, doesn't have loose lips when he's around his friends. That's how girls get bad reputations!!! Grow up some more & add a few more years on, then make mature choices when it comes to sex, etc.