My friend wanted me to ask this a third time. PLEASE HELP!!!?

Question

My friend is making me ask again.
I asked this before and I got 42 positive answers. I can't believe it because good things don't really happen to me all that much or evere actually. Here is the story...He is always staring at me aimlessly and picks me first for everything. We never really liked eachother as friends. I seriously liked him in 5th grade. But that is it. He is my neighbor and he is always outside when I am. I am a cheerleader and he is a basketball player. I wonder what wil happen next? What should I do? What is going on? I really like him as well! I am too afraid to do anything and I am not allowed to date until I am older. I know that it is a lot, but your help is greatly appreciated.

Also, he is on the top of the food chain I am on the bottom. The only reason that I am a cheerleader is because my friend dared me to do it.

More to come...

There is this guy in my grade that I really like that is on the basketball team. I am a cheerleader. I think that he likes me, too. But at dances, he asks my cousin ALL the time. My friends were like high on soda and they asked him if he wanted to dance with me and he said that I would not say yes. He stares at me sometimes and he was concerned that I might become annorexic (just because I don't eat chocolate *gasp* yes I know). He is nice to me, but can someone please help me and tell me what is going on. I seriously have no idea. It bothers me. He is REALLY shy. Is he just doing it because he knows that she will say yes? I think that I am more of a threat to him than my cousin is because she is a such a girly girl that even is she is dancing with someone else, if someone cute asks her, she will say yes and whatnot.
I know it is long. But I really need your help.

I don't think that you get it. My friend wants hard proof. She advises me to ask again. This is MY situation.

Answer 1

You wouldn't have made cheerleader if you weren't good enough to be one.

Going by what you say he has started to notice you as girl he would like to be with. If you can group date, where a few friends get together to go somewhere, then see if you can set something up like this with him.

Edit: You're not going to get "hard proof". There is no way for you to know absolutely for certain how someone else feels. Even if you were to ask the person you wouldn't "know" for certain that they were telling you the truth, or the entire truth. So you just have to take what you do know for certain and make a best guess and go with that. Or do nothing at all.

Answer 2

You asked What's going to happen next and "What's goin on?" Well, only you can decide those things. If you really like him then i would so say GO FOR IT. I was in a similar situation and i never "went for it" and now i regret it a lot because now i like the girl. If you two have a very strong friendship that could possibly mean a very strong relationship.

You talked about not being old enough. Explain that to him. If he really likes you or is a nice senseible guy he'll wait till you can. And if it is your parents or someone that won't let you date him, then explain that to them. Tell them all of the POSITIVE things about him and maybe make a deal with them. "I promise to be in the house before [insert time here] at night if you allow me to date him, and my school grades won't drop." Make it clear to them that you are ready and responsible enough to start dating. If they still say no then just refer to him as a "close friend" to your parents so that way you aren't dating and you aren't just friends.

Who cares if you're at the bottom and he's at the top. If he likes you and you like him then that shouldn't matter.

If you like him and he likes you, then i would let whatever happens, happen. Only you can decide what to do and only you can let things "happen".

NOTE: the best way to solve any problem/situation is to look at all angles first before acting.
(that was a little corny. .but true. .lol.)

Answer 3

thought about it.... first your parents want you to wait til you are older. So if in your shoes would wait at least til he asks you. My impression if he is on the top of the "food chain" chances are he may use you if you approach him. (coming from a guy). I do not like to think the worse, sorry. Also keep in mind he is your neighbor and if any issue breaks you up you will have to face him. I liked a girl a few houses down from me and we went out a few times. Ended very badly. My fault but still hurt for a long time. We still do not talk. Keep it friends til he approaches you. GL

Answer 4

so are you saying you need direction? because if 42 answers didn't do it what will. Your friend has to find her self confidence and start to do for herself, and not get others to do the work for her, Advise her she will never get over being shy if she doesn't learn to speak up and for herself, and trust me no one pays the least bit of attentions to an invisible person, No one is a mind reader and her sitting i n the back ground is not going to get the person she wants the most, , This has nothing to do with dating, it is never to late to make FRIENDS, no one was born knowing everything, they all had to get off their butts and learn the same as she will. and If you hear one more excuse that she can't tell her she is dead on she can't until she trys and does, time to stop pussy footing around, the work starts here and now

Answer 5

Sounds like he likes you.If you really like him, you should talk to him. Play it cool for a little while, then see what happens. If he doesn't make a move, you do. Ask him if he would be interested in being more than friends. Hope i could help. Good luck!
And it doesn't matter how popular you are, if he likes you, he likes you, he obviously doesn't care.

Answer 6

THAT IS SOOO WEIRD!!! There's this guy at school who I'm not really friends with, but he liked me in 5th grade and I liked him then he moved to Ohio in 6th grade then he moved back and we liked each other in 7th grade but now we're in 8th grade and he doesn't like me anymore...I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until I'm 16, but he's really popular and I'm not really...I have lots of friends but I'm not on the "in" group...He always talks to me though...sorry i'm not really helping w/ the advice part but at least you know ur not alone! :)

Answer 7

just go and tell him how u feel. u need to let him know. good luck

Answer 8

girl go 4 it, its better to take chances than, well u no what i mean

Answer 9

tell him how you feel about him....who cares if your not aloud to date....follow your heart...do what feels right....dont be afraid....well good luck and i pretty sure he likes you :-)

Answer 10

you are really in a delima