I am now 19 years old and never had a relationship and i envy those people who are in it. Even younger girls like me are in a relationship. I am even thinking of pretending of something that I am not so that I can get one because i think it is the problem. My sister is just like that.She is preety and can get guys anytime.She always get a realtionship after two months of dating the other one.She said I cant help it that they approach me.I am totally differnt on my sister.She got style she is a high maintenace and socially active which I am not.It seems to work because she got 6 boyfriends in a year. What do you guys think Do I have to be like her to get a relationship. I am definitely ready for a relationship and dating but Im not confidence approching guys.I dont know what to do when they approach me either.I want a advice please!!
2007-01-27 09:36:01 · 9 answers · asked by marsh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when you are ready,the chance will come
2007-01-27 09:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying so hard. Join groups and activities that you are interested in. Further your education. From your other questions it looks like you blame your lack of dating on being short. Stop blaming your shortness, stop comparing your sister (she sounds like a tease and a flirt, both are not qualities good men are interested in). Some short people have high pitched voices that put others off. If this is problem you have it can be corrected with voice lessons. You have a long way to go before you are an old maid.
2007-01-27 17:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well all you do is be yourself.If you aren't yourself and you are in a relationship, they'll be angry at you for lying to them.All you do is approach whom ever you like and talk for a lil.Start out by forgetting their name and asking for it again,if you knew that person.If not then just approach with a hi how you doin thing.Go along and dont act nervous because that's what doesn't get their attention.Give them their attention at all times when you're together.Just go along with the conversation and get to know,and let them get to know you as well.
2007-01-27 17:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by tflgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't pretend to be someone your not cuz in the end your going to end up doing things you might regret and you don't want to do that. maybe the problem is that your not putting your self out there i don't mean like dressing like a slut or anything like that i mean by going out and talking more and try new things but that you like for example lets say you have always had your hair down and never put it up well why don't you mess around with it.like trying new things but you feeling comfortable. like if there are some stuff that your sis does that you would like to do but thing YOU can't just try but only to the point in were you feel comfortable. i hope i help out a lil...^_^
2007-01-27 17:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by err. . . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't EVER be anything but YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!
I am 37.5, married twice, and I was 29 when I met my husband now. He is the ONLY man I have been 100% real with.
I was in MANY relationships, that doesn't make you any better or worse.
Join A group, at a church, book group, where ever YOU have interests, NOT your sister.
Trust me when I say....you can be in a relationship and Still be LONELY!!!!!!
Work on You!!!!!!!!!!!! You have your whole life to be in a relationship!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-27 17:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spent the whole question talking about your sisters qualitys...what about yours? Use your strengths to your advantange.
When/if a guy approaches you just act normal, there is no secret to being in a relationship, just be yourself. It doesnt hurt to approach guys either.
2007-01-27 17:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pretend,because eventually the truth will ALWAYS come out.Be who you are.And if your sister is getting guys ask her to help you out.Fix yourself up;if you realize that you're looking good.That would boost your confidence,get out there and work it!Just be YOU.
2007-01-27 17:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by XOXO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys hate it when a girl seem obsessed with him (i find it to be a turn off) but let them know you care. if a guy approaches you try to keep the conversation going with things like your interests...different guys like different things...i hoped i helped a little and good luck
2007-01-27 17:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by mike p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could always hire a little freshman to take you out
2007-01-27 17:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋