help what do we do hes been gone for 4 days the call to his wife was only 3 minutes and he was very upset!!!!!! how do we get thru this? he has 9 more weeks till graduation at ft benning ga..... he also left behind a 2 month old little girl
2007-01-27 09:19:03 · 21 answers · asked by Dave B 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Dave ... You didn't give a lot of details. You only said your son was upset. Without knowing more, I'd have to guess that basic training turned out to be a shock to him.
I suspect like the millions who served before your son, that he'll turn out okay. The service is no picnic and it's certainly not as rosy-looking as recruiters make it seem.
The training is rigorous, of course, but if he's distressed from the harassment, he'll just have to tough it out. They harass recruits not for the fun of it; part of this is to instill discipline, to remind them that they're part of a team, and perhaps most of all, to help prepare them for what might happen if they're captured, God forbid.
Let me confess ... For a short time, I cried like a little baby when I first joined the Army at the height of the Vietnam war. However, what the drill instructors did was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Good luck and wish Godspeed to your son. He'll be okay in basic, I'm sure.
2007-01-27 09:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
He'll only get 3 mins on the phone initially, it's required. As the weeks move along he'll get more time to call home for longer periods. The first 2-3 weeks are the strictest & he'll be under complete supervision from his Drill Sgts from the moment he's awake till he goes to sleep at night.
I am a Drill Sgt. (obviously) He's in good hands, don't worry. Basic Training is a lot easier than it was & that's unfortunate in my eyes. He'll come out a better man than before but because the Army is "hurting" for recruits they don't want to make it too hard or stressfull. God forbid. Some have said it's like summer camp with guns. No one can stop him from writing home either. Good Luck
2007-01-27 10:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how is he going to deal with it when he is sent to Iraq for months on end?
Did he just wake and think he would join the army today because his calender was empty ...or did he actually give it some thought and talk to his wife and family about this decision first?
He got a three minute phone call, that is better than some. He has a job to do , he is not at summer camp.
Right now he will be in a world of shheet, he needs to know he has you guys behind him and supporting him and you have to support each other ...thats how you will get throught it.
ever tried writing a letter,, and old concept but it still works
2007-01-27 09:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Give him 2 weeks. He is being torn down from the civilian way of doing things and will be trained in the military way. After two weeks they let up a lot. They also start BRM at that time and I think the drills don't want to get "accidently" shot or something...He will be just fine. Right now he can't do anything right but he will get tougher as the time progresses and then he will carry himself proud for having made it through this.
2007-01-27 10:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♥fluffybunnyears 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do "we" get through this? He is an adult and made an adult decision, which he is responsible for making and abiding by. Surprised he was able to call at all. Many times in boot camp, the eight weeks you are cut off from all outside contact as they mentally and physically imprint the military life on you. Once he is out of the boot camp he will be able to contact his family and also see them. You lost your parental rights to him when he got married and had a kid and joined the military. Tough break. It will be up to him to get himself out of this situation, if he actually wants to do so or can legally do so. Some guys do wash out and are discharged. On the other hand, in 9 weeks he may come out full of piss and vinegar, ready to head off to get killed in the stupid Bush war. Again, nothin you can do about it.
2007-01-27 10:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A phone call after only 4 days? What kind of crap is that? In Marine Corps boot camp (Parris Island '95) I got to make a phone call after 5 weeks, and I had to earn it. Only 4 of us in the platoon got the priviledge.
2007-01-27 10:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by The Maestro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I understand but 9 weeks is not a year or more defending the country she will have to learn how to cope with out her husband because he will not be always serving inland he will be called to duty and will be gone for more than a few weeks.
2007-01-27 09:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first 2-3 weeks are the hardest, everything is new and he is homesick. Trust me he will get over it and be glad he did after his 9 weeks are over.
2007-01-27 10:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course he is upset.. Its hard and emotionally trying. The best thing you can do is just maintain good support for him and just listen to him when he needs to vent. 9 weeks will go by fast and then he will go to AIT, which is dependant on his MOS, Its a hard adjustment for some.
2007-01-27 09:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by mpwife_99 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's BOOT CAMP not Club Med!!
It sounds like getting out from under the wing of his overprotective mother is going to be the best thing that ever happened to him.
2007-01-27 10:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Larry R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋