How to Deal With Your Child's Temper Tantrums?

Answer 1

The key is to remember that when we give our attention to something, we get more of it. When we ignore a thing, we get less of it. Unless we ignore it awhile, then give it our attention. Then, we get lots and lots of it!

So, if your child is safe, you ignore the tantrum. When your child calms down, you say - wow, you're really frustrated. I can see you're really angry about this.

What you are doing is teaching your child to use his words. It's one thing to forbid a behavior, or try to punish it away, but giving your child the skills he/she needs to deal with frustration and disappointement is what's actually called for in the temper tantrum stage.

Some kids are so frustrated, they are not safe during tantrums. In this case, you should hold your child and say soothingly, "I know you want to calm down. I will hold you until you calm down. I know you want to be strong and in control. I will keep you safe until you can do that for yourself."

Your child feels completely out of control when tantruming. They don't like it - but will use tantrums if they work to get them attention or the other thing they originally wanted. They want you to teach them coping skills. And, they want to feel understood.

You can also help avoid tantrums by saying things like "We'll be leaving the playground in ten minutes." then "We'll be leaving the playground in 5 mnutes." Then, "We are leaving now. Say bye bye to the playground. Bye Bye swing, ...."
You can help avoid them by limiting your child's choices - do you want the red shirt or the blue shirt? And by giving them their wish in imagination - "Oh, I wish I could let you have chocolate cake for breakfast. I wish I could make you a cake bigger than the house and we'd sit on it and eat it."

Out in public, always tell the child before you go in a store what your expectations are. It was always very effective for me to tell my children that stores were where people worked, and we needed to be quiet and respectful so they could think. Slightly different twist on restuarants.

Answer 2

I would start by figuring out why the child is having the tantrum. Sometimes it could be remedied by fixing that problem instead of trying to stop the kid from carrying on. If thats not possible then you look directly in that childs face and yell stop it right now or I am going to spank your behind. Make sure you do it though because if you don't the child will take you as a joke.

Answer 3

in case you at the on the spot are not in a public position you should walk remote from them and verify out now to not boost the habit. when you're in a public area they must be taken to a relax room and lectured quietly why their habit is unacceptable. This has a chilled result on both the parent and new child. I go with vacation to spanking, it take more desirable persistence and time to be a good parent even though it will pay off. the youngster's mattress ought to under no circumstances be used as a visit area or punishment area because it makes bedtime look like punishment. The bedroom, and the youngster's mattress, must be seen as non violent position of tranquility. Corporal punishment teaches a baby a thanks to be violent and act aggressively. I see it as a annoyed human being performing out on a much smaller sufferer. Sitting on the floor in a hallway, or different boring area makes a good timeout area. vacation must be particularly short, fifteen minutes or until eventually the youngster quiets down.

Answer 4

Honestly, I just try to ignore them. I feel like the reason a tantrum comes on is to get attention and I don't want to reward him. If we are out in public I pick him up and move out to an area where he can throw his fit and not annoy everyone!

Answer 5

you don't. you show positive reinforcement to the child when they are behaving by saying " that was really great you listen to me " " good job" you may even want to have a good chart and let he child put X's or check on it for good behavior . you should let them know if they want to have a tantrum or any other bad behavior they should go to their room or if the child is to small to go to the room then they need a special time out or quite place to go so they can pull their self together. then you need to talk with the child ( not reason) and let them know you will not put up with this behavior .and if it continues they will not have TV or what ever they really like or bed time will be earlier or what ever . you need to to be consistent and so does any one else who watches your child ( daddy ,mommy, grandparents, sitters etc.) you need to be firm and calm when you talk to your child . you need to set an example .

Answer 6

We always basically ignored them, then reminded our son after he was done that crying doesn't get him anything. Now, at 3 1/2, he'll catch himself and admit he's frustrated but he won't get anything if he cries. If the child is in danger of hurting themself or others, they should be restrained in a loving hold.

Answer 7

It's their way of getting what they want so you have to teach them it won't work. You have to ignore it. The long answer above is good, as some preventative things can be done, managing their expectations and letting them know yours.

Answer 8

Simple send him to boot camp

Answer 9

A pat on the back as long as it is administerd often enough hard enough and low enough

Answer 10

You gotz to beat da **** out of dows littl basterds. Close fisted upside da grill and yell"Bitcch u best sit down an shut yo mouth cause i be about redy to unhinge dat jaw. Den u make em some cookies and clean up da pee fo da popo *** a nockin.