we were big time fighting.. the cops were knocking on the door..i dont rly remember what happened but my bf smacked me in the face 3 times
i knw i hit him sometimes and i was acting crazy because im scared of the cops but im 5'3 97 lbs and i was just wondering if its ever okay for a guy to do that?
heres a picture of my eye
http://img259.imageshack.us/img259/7041/dscf7459as7.jpg
2007-01-27 08:37:38 · 81 answers · asked by shannon b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Do you wanna marry that guy?
2. Do you love him hitting you like that?
3. Do you want your future kids to see that?
If all no... then go ahead and DUMP HIM!!!!
2007-01-27 08:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear Shannon,
It is NEVER okay for your boyfriend to abuse you in any way, mentally or physical. I don't care how upset the two of you get, it should never escalate to a situation of violence. Do you have children? If so, do you want them to grow up thinking that this is okay or at least normal? Well, that's exactly what's going to happen if the two of you don't put an end to this abusive situation. And by the way, even if it happens one time, it's too many. BOTH of you need to either keep your hands (or abusive words) to yourself or walk away from the situation. If you can't imagine life without him, both of you need to seek counseling. If that's not an option for you or if it doesn't work, like I said before, leave. Yes, the separation will hurt, but believe me, you will eventually get over him. All things in time. Good luck to you and remember, abusing someone is the ultimate lack of respect. Never, ever confuse it with love.
Peace
2007-01-27 08:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!!!!!!He is not a man not even a boy!!!!!!This is ALWAYS HOW IT STARTS!!!!If you value your life you better kick him to the curb.There are so many guys or men out there.Do not belittle yourself with this type of behavior It does not mater what you did to him a Man should NEVER HIT A WOMEN OR GIRL.Now look at you where are your parents? what do they say?My Dad would never waist his time going after him but he sure would met the 20/20 if he came near my home ever again .Do not lie to them for him you will regret it the rest of your life.Don't become a statistic or a movie on crime.Oh he will tell you all sorts of things now and try to make you believe it .Don't Run!!!!!!!!!If you have any self-esteem you will be ashamed of ever caring for such a coward and heartless person.Accident ????I don't think so!!!!Wake up and find someone with scruples,manors,respect and true love.Someone who wants the same things out of life.Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-27 08:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by mcnatt c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no it's not alright. The only thing worse than a man who hits a woman is a man who would stick his penis in a child. You need to move on and get away from that idiot, and if you choose a fight with a man, then you are also wrong. You shouldn't hit anyone and expect not to get hit back. Everyone has the right to defend themselves, but no one has the right to assault another human being.
P.S. I looked at the picture. HE HAS GOT TO GO!
2007-01-27 08:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never ok for either of you to hit each other..If I were you I would leave.If he hit you once then chances are he will hit again and do alot more than just a black eye.And if you have to press charges against him and a restraining order so he can't come near you to do it again out of revenge.Don't stay with someone cause you're scared of what might happen if you leave.
2007-01-27 08:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never OK for a partner to lay hands on another like that. Sorry, but if you hit him too then both of you are wrong. Get some anger management counseling. Seriously. Now, because he hit you in the eye you could charge him, but since you hit him too he could charge you back. Sounds like a pretty destructive relationship on both sides.
2007-01-27 08:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out of that relationship right now. this is not healthy for you. next time it may be more than a black eye. no one deserves to be treated like that. no one. if he really cared about you he would not do this. he is not worth your time and it is never ever ok to hit someone. you need to press charges against him for doing that to you. get as far away from him as you possibly can. find someone who will love and respect you not mistreat and abuse you. you deserve better. don't waste your life on someone who is lower than a snake can crawl. get out of there now.
on an ending note. it takes a real big man to beat up on a 5'3 97 pound woman doesn't it? maybe he needs to pick on someone his own size and see how it feels. hope this encourages you to get away and soon. good luck.
2007-01-27 08:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is never ok for a guy to hit you. Didnt your mother ever tell you that. Dont be fooled into thinking that you are in the wrong or even that you deserve any thing like this. I know you dont want to hear this but Get out of There!!!!
2007-01-27 08:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never OK for anyone to hit in a relationship. It's not OK for him to hit you and it's still not OK for you to hit him. I've been with my wife for over 21 years. We were once young and stupid. We've gotten in arguments and she hit me once and it took everything me to stop myself from hitting her back. I made a decision that this is not acceptable behavior in a relationship and we both communicated clearly that this will not ever happen again and that neither of us will tolerate it. If you can't assure each other of that in this relationship, then it's time to move on. Keep in mind that this is a 2-way street. Violence has absolutely no place in a healthy, loving relationship.
2007-01-27 08:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by Wijssegger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is a serious question? I'll answer seriously.
NO it is not. First of all you need to leave him. Second you need to figure out why you would be with a person like this? Usually abuse involves two people not just one. You should never allow yourself to be with anyone that would ever think about doing that. Usually their are signs before when you're just starting to meet them that should give you some hints.
2007-01-27 08:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting you is one thing. Self defense is something else entirely. I'm a bit surprised that he couldn't restrain you because you're so small. That's what I would have done, but maybe he doesn't have that much self control. In any case, a relationship where anyone is hitting anyone else is not a healthy relationship to be a part of.
2007-01-27 08:43:09 · answer #11 · answered by robtheman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋