is it right to rebel against your parents if they dont let you do what you want?

Question

they dont let me or my sister let us spend our money how we want, listen to the music we like or wear want we want,etc.

Answer 1

I feel your parents are in the wrong for not letting you spend your own money or listen to your music. I don't really care what my daughter listens too or what she buys with her money.
It depends on what you want to wear, if it shows too much skin then I understand their concern but if it is just in the goth or punk scene then you should be able to express yourselves.
You should just sit down and talk with your parents and tell them why you want some of your own freedom and show how responsible you can be.

Answer 2

It depends on how old you are really. I say anything over 12-14. In all actuality your parents probably think they have your best interest in hand, BUT there is a line. I think as long as you arent dressing slutty or provocative then you should be able to dress how you want. If you earn your allowance or your own money then you should be able to spend it how you want, and maybe ask them to help you learn to budget, and as far as music.....society likes to say music and movies makes kids act a certain way but people act how they want no matter what they listen to or watch. Everyone is responsible for their own actions. Music is an expression or release of emotion and I dont think you should put a hold on that as long as you dont really take it in as serious. Lighten up on them and dont rebel youll regret some of the decisions you make now later and realize you were just trying to get back at them and all it did was hurt you. Ive been there. My parents were strict so when I turned 18 I went CRAZY and now I regret a lot of what I did.

Answer 3

We all rebelled a bit, though it would be better if you did not! Some teens parents do not care what they do, allowing them to spend their money how they want, go out and stay out all night etc. These kids do not (at least deep inside) think that is great and cool, they grow up feeling unimportant because no one is creating rules for them. Give your parents a little break (just suprise them by respecting their wishes every once in a while). They care a lot about you...This is something that you will understand completely when you have a child one day!

Answer 4

Yes and no. You should try and talk to your parents and understand why they do not want you to spend your money the way you see fit.

The music issue could be an age difference or they do not like the message it sends out, try and tell them that it does not affect who you are.

The clothes issue is a bit harder, what you might see as trendy your parents might see as trashy. They are just trying to protect you from the wrong attention (you do not want some creepy 40 year old guy eying or hitting on you in front of mom and dad right? ) My suggestion, take MOM or DAD with you and see what they pick, my mom always had great taste.

Enjoy your wonder years!

Answer 5

A certain degree of rebellion is pretty much required when you're a teenager. But there's a simple way to judge what you should rebel about. Take it case by case, and ask yourself if this is the battle you are willing to cheat to win. In other words, are you willing to sacrifice your credibility with your parents over music and clothes, or do you want to keep some cards in the deck for a more important issue later?

Answer 6

At 15 you have the right to choose to live with your father. You can get a pro bono attorney who specializes in child custody cases to represent you and petition the court for a change of custody. It will take some effort on your part, but the best rebellions usually do. If you just want to torque them off, just respond with a "yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am - you're quite correct" (or some such) and continue to get your good grades and have your own opinions. It'll work, and you won't cut off your nose to spite your face. I rebelled against my dad by becoming a vegetarian and a dog groomer. Drove him nuts. And I never did anything bad.

Answer 7

No, it is not right to rebel. You live under their roof. You need to follow their rules. However, you CAN open a line of conversation that allows you to discuss why you want to spend your money a certain way, why you like certain types of music, and why you want to wear a certain style of clothing.

I went through this with my daughters. As far as money, we worked it out like this. They had to give away 10% of their money to church or a charity (because others are in need), they had to save 50% of their money for the big items they wanted to work for (iPod, video games, etc), and they could spend 40% on anything they wanted within the frameworks of the house rules (i.e. no cigarettes, vulgar clothes, offensive CDs, etc) BUT when their money was gone, we did not contribute ANY additional money until their next "payday". If they wanted a big item and they were keeping up their grades, following the house rules, dressing respectably, etc we would, as a reward, cover 50% of the expense for the big item, dollar for dollar saved by them.

Things worked out fine when we talked. We could always come to a compromise within defined boundaries. . . and did.

Answer 8

I'll put it to you real simple, as a mother myself:
It's my duty, as a mother, to do anything in my power to make sure that when my children leave me, they will be ready to deal with any situation that might come up. And trust me, that's a full time job, you have to be on top of everyting, all the time. If I didn't really love my kids, I wouldn't bother. It's SOOO much easier to just say: OK when the kids are whining about something. But it's wrong. So you're a lucky girl because youre parents actually care about you, they love you so much that they will go through misery and hell with you, just to make sure that they send you off, ready for the world. Respect your parents and just do what you're told. You'll have plenty of time to do things your way when youre grown up.

Answer 9

It's not RIGHT per se, but it IS natural to rebel. That is tough when you are not allowed to be a free thinker. Remember your parents LOVE you and are trying to look out for your's and their best interest. This is a tough tough world, but eventually you will do whatever you want anyways. How old are you? Thats a big factor as well. You'll get your time to shine. How about you write a journal about what you WANT to do versus what you are allowed to do. It can put things in perspective.

Answer 10

oh man... sounds like me and my dad!
i would get money and he would take it from me and put it in the bank for college. i couldnt spend a penny of my own money (even when i got a job). he would check everything i wore before i walked out the door, and he hated to hear my rap music!
now that im older, and understanding... i know why he did it.
he didnt want other guys starting at me, or me getting the wrong influence from music or tv. he even told me to change my group of friends because he heard how they like to have parties. deep down, they have good reason, and are just trying to protect you. rebeling really is not a good idea. try to talk to them to compromise. my dad wouldnt let me be out late, so we worked it out to have about 5 of my girlfriends spend the night at my house (while parents were home). just try to think their way... if you give a little, they will too!