I am 28 years old and I have been married for a little over a year. I also have a 12-year old son from a previous relationship. My husband and I have good paying jobs and our family is well off. We do not struggle financially but I have been feeling very unhappy lately. I feel like there is something missing in my life. There are times where I want to hang out with friends and drink but my husband doesn't like to do that. He is very conserative and likes to stay home. I often feel bored with nothing to do. I work full time and go to college part time. I do have a very busy schedule but I feel like my life is just routine. I want to do something different and get out of my routine schedule. My husband thinks there is nothing wrong with our lives and I should be happy that we have a wonderful life. My husband and my son are both great. They give me no problems but there is still something missing. I just don't know what is wrong with me. Can someone give me some insight?
2007-01-27 08:18:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think I went through something like that a few years ago. Does it seem like you are doing everything because you HAVE TO. I think you need to find things to do that you WANT TO do. It is wonderful being a mom, wife, a student, and a career woman. But maybe what you seek is to be something more personal to yourself. If your husband doesn't object, and he is understanding to your concerns, then go do something without him. If he isn't understanding, you'll need to explain it and keep his feelings in mind as you choose what to do. But do something for yourself. It is important to share experiences in marriage, but it's also important to have a part of your life that's just for you. Find that part and go for it! Good luck!
2007-01-27 08:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_wretch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your first child when you were very young and missed out on some of the freedoms that teens enjoy. Now you have settled down and you're maintaining a home, working, going to school so your future will be better. That doesn't leave much time for leisure activities and all of a sudden you feel life has passed you by and you've got itchy feet. If you have a great husband and a great son and a wonderful life, you need to be careful that you don't jeopardize any of that. However, it's so important that married couples continue to have quality time for just the two of them. Hopefully you can find something your husband would enjoy doing with you once a week such as dinner and a movie, a quiet moonlight walk together, going out for pizza, or going to a flea market. You need to schedule time together and MAKE TIME for each other. It's not what you choose to do that matters but it matters greatly that you find something to enjoy together besides the routine stuff.
2007-01-27 08:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are feeling anything unusual. I think most if not all people have the thought that something is missing in our lives. Take the bull by the horns and make your life happy with your family. Be creative and come up with things to do with your husband and son. If that doesn't work, take up a new hobby or challenge in life. For instance, I started swim lessons at the age of 44. I hated the water and now 2 months later I am training for triathalons. Remember, life is what you make of it. Control your life and don't let it control you. Good luck.
2007-01-27 08:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by creative_risk_t8r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling of unhappiness may be due to you having to mature
earlier than some, because of changing priorities, such as motherhood, marriage, ect. putting your needs last . However you have made good decisions concerning what is important.
you just need some personal time for you to have a Little R/R changing the routine just a little with some compromise from your hubby your life can still be grand, accomplishing your goals
fulfilling your 5yr plan, maintaining life balance all will be good
2007-01-27 08:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not jeopardize your marriage by going out with friends and drinking. Please do not do that. Keep the lines of communication open with your husband. You two need to get away and spend some quality time together and make a compromise. Do you have mutual friends/couples you could go out with together? Try to find an activity you both like - - - maybe go to a gym, get involved in church activities, go to a concert or something.
Do you really enjoy your job? Could it be you need more of a challenge in your life? Look into a different career choice.
2007-01-27 08:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like you think you are trapped. this is something that you should speak over with your husband. you are saying you are unhappy - there is a difference. if it's more of a trapped feeling than an unhappy feeling, explain it to your husband that way. he feels you have no reason to be unhappy because you have it all, and you are probably happy - but, it's the trapped feeling that's scaring you. let him know by his saying there is nothing wrong with your lives is what is giving you that trapped feeling and if he could just see your side it would help - you're not looking for a lot of things to change - but, if the both of you could just do some fun things to brighten up your world - it doesn't have to be often - but, just occasionally so that it makes me feel understood. i hope he'll understand your feelings and respect them enough to do something about them.
2007-01-27 09:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I wish I could, but I am married and have children so I can't do the following (too much protesting). I would like to get rid of the TV and video games, we do this for a day or two on occasion and we find that everyone is happier. I would move to a cheaper, smaller house which would get rid of a lot of debt, therefore relieving a lot of stress. I would also push to quit eating out so much which would save more stress on spending money on the food, and the negative nutritional value the food contains. I would also consider reducing my hours because of the lack of debt and having more time with the family. I've stayed home a few days, and loved it.
2016-05-24 06:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you invite some friends over for a cook out, and see how it goes. Maybe in return your friends will invite your family over to their homes and this is one way you and your hubby and son can do something and once your husband sees you are enjoying yourself then maybe he will decide there is nothing wrong with doing some things once in a blue moon. I never had to answer to my better 1/2 nor visa versa---we had our friends together, I had mine etc . We ""completely" trusted one another as we knew we had nothing to worry about. Too if we went somwhere and the other one was not home at the time one of us were leaving we left each other a note as to where we went and with whom and approximated the time we thought we would be home just in case there happend to be an emergency.
2007-01-27 09:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like routine (like your husbands) others don't (like you). Find activities that you can join that you would like to do. Its just a matter of what you want. If your hubby doesn't like to socialize as much you get out there and make friends.
2007-01-27 08:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie its alright you are not alone i know the feeling but you have to do what is going to make you happy with or with out the hubbie you have that right as long as it is not going to ruin your family me personal Jesus found me and thats what was missing for me but hey just do what it is that you feel like you ahve to .. Good luck and God bless
2007-01-27 08:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋