All I want to do is stay home, but she says she doesnt trust me. I have done nothing to not be trusted, and I want to stay home so I wont get grounded at my grandmothers. PLease help!
2007-01-27 08:17:52 · 27 answers · asked by vegaskillsv2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am 13 years old
2007-01-27 08:33:01 · update #1
The best approach would probably be asking your mom if it would be ok to give you trial runs. My parents did this with my younger sibling and it worked really well.
My mom would leave her alone for an hour or two while she was running errands...that turned into 3 or 4 hours while my parents went to dinner and after school, and then eventually there was no reason for them to not trust her.
You have to also give in a little and agree that you will call your mom when you get home from school, always be honest with her about where you're going and who you'll be with. If she says she doesn't want you to leave the house or have friends over, or use the computer or whatever...while you're alone, then don't.
The fastest way to break the trust and get sent back to your grandmothers is to break a rule. The fastest way to get your mom to say no is to push it too hard and refuse to meet any of her requests. It's not necessarily that you've given her any reason to not trust you, you are her 13 year old 'baby' and she's afraid that you can't take care of yourself or that something will happen to you while you're alone.
Good luck.
2007-02-03 17:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by aceswyf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter wanted the same thing at 13 & I finally gave in. I sure wish that I hadn't. She let her friends in the house & they had parties. She always called me when she was supposed to but she betrayed my trust & I am sorry but she proved she was not mature enough to follow the rules & be trusted at 13. You may be, but I"m sure your mom knows what's best for you. So give your mom some credit for caring about you. And the time you can stay home alone will come. When your home alone, you can get bored & with boredom comes trouble. Your mom knows best.
2007-02-03 15:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give your age. That has a lot to do with whether you're ready to stay alone or not. A parent might trust YOU but not trust those who might harm you while you were alone. I'm sure your mother has a reason and after all, she is the parent. It would help to know your age, the kind of neighborhood you live in, how long you would be alone, whether it would involve overnight or daylight hours only. However, if she says "no", then NO it is!
2007-01-27 08:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u afraid of getting grounded at your grandmothers?
are there something that u are not telling us?
i would trust my 13 year old home alone,because he know what to do and what not to do while im not at home,but for some reason i just feel like u r not telling the full story.
2007-02-02 14:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Buttafree23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Mom about letting you stay home for a half hour and she can check up on you and build your trust up with her. Parents are afraid you will have your friends come over when they are gone. She needs to be able to trust you Good Luck
2007-02-02 06:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Gina D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple - go to the bathroom leave the door open and stick your fingers down your throat, make yourself retch - but be quick about it in case she comes flying up the stairs and see's not vomit. Go down and then faint dead at her feet (pretend like). Go on, you'd get away with it I am sure. When she says ' well you never told me you felt physically sick'' say '' I did not want to worry you, but Mom I feel awful''. You think I am joking but I am not, plus being a mother and grandmother now myself, its awful naughty of me to advise you to do this, but its a real good one to do now and then, just don't over do how many times you use this one as an excuse, we mothers have a habit of getting wise to things. But You have to pay the price, its back to bed and pretend to be sick for the rest of the day. I wonder which you will choose. Happy New Year by the way.
2016-05-24 06:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to show to her that you are mature enough to stay home by yourself. Maybe she thinks you'll do something stupid if you're left alone.
Trust is what you earn, you don't just ask for trust by your mom, you need to work on yourself she has every reason to trust you if you do right. So I will say, make her to trust you by changing your attitude if you were on the wrong.
2007-02-04 07:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by redeemedmikel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law allows your mother to leave you at home alone AFTER 12 years old. HOWEVER, perhaps she doesn't feel you're ready. Ask her what you can do to prove yourself responsible enough. Understand this might mean new chores or responsibilities. Just have an honest talk with her- explain why you can't do much at your grandmother's (hey, I know- I was living with mine at age 17 and she wouldn't let me walk six blocks to the post office by myself without a fight!!) house. Explain why you feel you are responsible enough, ask why she doesn't feel you are. Sometimes moms don't notice how much their kids have grown up without it being pointed out to them. One last key word for this talk: CALM.
2007-01-27 08:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it's a matter of trust on her part, rather your mothers protective nature. You should trust more and allow your mother to make the proper decision for you as a family.. When you have children of your own, you will look back and understand the reasons for a lot of things.
2007-02-02 00:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done nothing wrong why would you get grounded at your grandmothers, You really don't need to be home alone.
2007-01-27 08:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋