Do I need help? How?

Question

okay so this is what is happenning with my life:
For the past years of my life ive been secretely depressed. (I just walk in school with a smile pasted on my face). With a mixture of being alone, being made fun of, and with a terrible relationship with my folks, I've been having breakdowns, violent mental images, and i guess you can say that ive been abusing my body (cut). The other night was one of the worst nights of my life, and then i cracked. now, i have no emotion at all. I cant feel. What should i do? I'm afraid to tell my parents
Only one of my friends knows about this and i feel terrible and feel like i am jeopardizing him...

i also haven't been getting much sleep..

Answer 1

You absolutely need help!!! I think it would be better to discuss these issues with a counselor first but i think it would be better to talk to your parents about this in a controled environment. Like have a meeting with your counselor, yourself, and your parents, this way you can talk to them and have someone there to help you mediate. I have found with my parents that i have always done better with discussing issues with them if i have someone to mediate. All you need is confidence...you can get through this!!!

Answer 2

Good news - even though it might not seem like it - you've taken the first step - you've asked what to do.

Now the harder stuff...

You might be afraid to tell your parents, but you really should. They care about you and will be the ones who can best help you. It is hard, I know - I've been there and even though I'm in my thirties now, I still have a hard time telling my folks and even my husband when I'm having a hard time. BUT - they are the people who can help you... they love you and they care.

If that doesn't quite work for you, try talking to a school counsellor. If you can't do this alone, how about asking your friend to go with you?

During those really critical times, if you get to where you want to cut, try reaching out to the Crisis lines that most cities have. Check your phone book out... usually in the front they list the number of the crisis line in your city.

You don't have to go through life feeling depressed. If you take the time to reach out, then people will help you. You just have to do the first bit. Please do it...

After you talk to your parents or your counsellor, they might suggest that you go see your doctor. That's okay too. Your doctor might talk with you to find out if you are depressed. You need to be completely honest with him or her. Tell him how you feel, what you've been doing. They can help. They might suggest some medications to help; they might want you to see a counsellor or a therapist - this is okay too - think of it as a place where you can go and just tell it like it is. You won't have to "paste the smile on your face." You can let it all hang out.

Please talk to somebody .. it's important... you deserve more in life.

I have included a couple links for you... one on cutting and one on depression that are specifically for teens. I hope they help.

Answer 3

YES, YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY SEEK SOME MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES- THERE ARE COUNSELORS AVAILABLE TO TALK WITH YOU AND HELP YOU OUT WHEN THINGS GET OVERWHELMING IN YOUR LIFE. you HAVE HAD PROBLEMS FOR A YEAR NOW, AND COULD BENEFIT FROM SOME INTERVENTION. GOD KNOWS, I HATED SCHOOL GROWING UP. I WOULDN'T GO BACK FOR A MILLION DOLLARS. BEING A TEENAGER SUCKS AND IS QUITE DIFFICULT, ESPECIALLY THESE DAYS. A COUNSELOR CAN ALSO GIVE YOU HELP TO FIND OTHER COPING METHODS RATHER THAN CUTTING ON YOURSELF. YOU CAN TRY A "CRISIS" CENTER, IF YOU FEEL LIKE HARMING YOURSELF OR "CRACKING" AGAIN IN THE FUTURE. THEY HAVE STAFF THAT HELP MANY PEOPLE OF ALL AGES WITH ALL DIFFERENT TYPES OF PROBLEMS, AND MAY BE ABLE TO HELP YOU GET OVER THE HUMP. TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. YOU CAN DO IT.

Answer 4

Ok everyone's going to tell you, "go to your parents, go to your school." I think people forget you may not be able to do that. If you can more power to you, otherwise you gotta work for your help. You can't tell school officials, even teachers, about your cutting without the risk of them calling home, and you should be aware of that before you make your choice, but you should be able to tell them other things. Use your own judgement on it cuz I don't know the details in order to tell you. If you call around hospitals in your area, they should be able to give you numbers for counseling, but again, there may be problems with that. At least in Texas, and probably other states, a minor under 18 can't recieve counseling from one of those agencies, even "youth shelters" without at least one parent's consent. Or you can forge the signature, but I beg you not to do that because you'd be starting off a relationship with a therapist with a lie that you'd have to keep. Also, some agencies may "bend the rules" for you but, most won't because of the liability issue. You should know that they probably won't but you may ask if you're close to 18 (within 1-2 years.) And if you're religious and your parents don't attend the same church you should try there. Just ask what they are required to inform your parents about first. I'm not advocating lying to your parents for everything, but if you are in a dire situation you have to. You can't let your parents' opinions affect your health. Just consider it really carefully first. And if you can only tell one, then do it, because you only need one signature. Just don't talk to the school then if you think the other parent will find out. And don't worry (easier said than done, I know). At some point, it'll be ok. Just try to hang on to that, and I think you'll be fine. But until you can hang onto that, just hang on, you'll get there even if you don't think so right now. I hope this helps, and remember consider your options. And Planned Parenthood too. You can get confidential weekly-biweekly-monthly meetings with a counselor and that doesn't need your parents at all. P.P. is actually prohibited from informing your parents unless you say you're having sex with someone 4 yrs older than you. And you don't have to be having sex to go talk to them about what you say is going wrong in life. So, when all else fails, go talk to them about getting a counselor for anything.

Answer 5

Friends can come in handy in these type of cases. Maybe you should just let your parents find out you cut and go from there. You will feel much better once more people know and start to help out. You may even find a doctor that is really nice and helpful! Good luck, if you want please try www.psychcentral.com for more support and plenty of information.

Answer 6

No, you don't need help. In this world and at this age you'll need to learn to cope by your self. So, get a grip, make a plan for happiness and work on it. It is your decision to cut yourself. Yóu make the choices and yóu live with the consequences. You are responsible for your well being, no one else. It is time you get back in control. And I do understand it is difficult sometimes. But life is equally fun as it is hard and you can really have fun too, OK? Trust me. It 'll all work out.

Answer 7

You do need help. What you're feeling is pretty common, and you need to talk to someone to help you through it. Talk to your school counselor or school nurse, and he or she will put you in touch with people who can help you. You also might try talking with your parents about what's going on, but it might be better for you to tell the counselor or nurse first, and let them tell your parents. Some parents can freak out a bit when they hear what you are going through, and you don't need to deal with that, too.

Hope this helps...you can get through this!

Answer 8

U just need to think more positively, dont let this negative
charge take over and never harm your body cause a doc
may have to cut ya one day for some trauma.
Be good to yourself and forget them bullies at school
U are in control and u just need to get a grip and mature your
mind into positive, good thoughts.
Read proverbs in the bible when u feel down, does miracles.

Answer 9

Please please talk to someone I went through the same thing if you don't get help it will get no better, you my need a low dose of anti depressant. You will be surprise how many people who are going through the same thing. You are not alone if you are a member of a church talk to your pastor if not go to your school nurse or counselor. I don't know if you can talk to your parents alone but maybe one of the sources can talk to them on your behalf after you go to them. And if you don't belong to a church get in one this is great therapy also along with counseling you will be amazed, By all means please pray and read your bible. This is good but get professional help. I will keep you covered in my prayers. I know what you are going through. the older you get with no help the worse this will become, been there done that please get help.

Answer 10

you should really get some help. tell your parents. and if you don't think they will take you seriously, tell a counselor at your school. they can talk to your parents and tell them how serious this is, because this is serious. wouldn't you rather get this out in the open and deal with it and be happy? you are worth that.