how do you beat it, I'm all right during the day 'cause I have obligations but at night...it gets really lonely I want to have someone by my side. i'm so romantic and I don't like that, it makes want to have something I don't.
thanx
2007-01-27 07:46:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do socialize but i cant be with someone i don't like that much, you know what i mean, we're not compatible with everyone
2007-01-27 07:52:05 · update #1
Having been single in the past I understand where you are coming from. No matter how many work and social engagements you make, its not enough to fill the gap of being alone, as you have already figured out.
Life and circumstances help those who help themselves. I would suggest you get moving and start searching for that special someone who will complete your life. You say you are unhappily single, but nothing about whether you are looking out for someone or not...
Life is NOT meant to be spent alone and solitary, not as a permanent solution anyway. We are meant to have a meaningful relationship with a significant other that is central to our lives. A partner, family and all that it entails is a whole and complete picture, and a very fulifilling way to live.
Being single, working late, spending weekends and major holidays as a single person not only pales in comparison, it is also bad for your overall state of mind, health and well-being in general.
I would dissauade you however, from finding a partner just for the sake of not being alone any more.
Its not a good enough reason, you may rush through things, and you may fit pieces in just to complete the puzzle without realising, the pieces dont actually fit. I hope you get what I am trying to say.
I've made those mistakes, and had to start all over again.
Along the way I learnt some things, about being single, and how its different to being with someone, what that difference means in a person's life, what my requirements are and how I would choose the person suitable to ME.
I think its very important to be not an unhappy single, but a SMART one. That way, you realise your status is only temporary, you have no qualms about it because you know what type of person will suit you and are going to do something to find such a person.
Until such time, meet with other singles, get to know them, if they seem sensible (as do you, may I add), grounded, fun and looking for a stable mature and kind partner, you could pursue it. If you find the chemistry lacking or nothing much in common, then dont pursue it, dont force it simply beacuse he/she is there and available. Believe me, in the end, you will save yourself a lot of effort pursuing what you already knew is not your cup of tea.
Because when you DO bump into the right person you will be glad you waited for it.
Being a romantic is not a negative, its something wonderful and natural, to crave spending time, love and affection with another person who comes very close to you and becomes the special person of your life. Its a wonderful thing to have, and I urge you to find it for yourself, because there is someone else out there, also single and waiting to meet someone like you...
I wish you lots of luck.
2007-01-27 08:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by RealChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best way to do it is to stop thinking about it... the only reason it's killing you now is because you keep thinking that it's the most important thing in your life...
IT'S NOT... if you stop believing it is... then it won't bother you as much...
I don't care if you're really romantic or not, theres more important things in life... if you forget about it and think about other things that are more important then it won't bother you and much, and you'll probably end up finding a nice person who you can be with much more easily...
2007-01-28 00:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by vigorousjammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out, get friends to take you to clubs and bars where you have the chance to meet people and maybe get the relationship you want so much.
2007-01-27 15:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out a few weekends to the bars/clubs. flirt a little get some numbers and set up some dates
2007-01-27 15:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation but thanx god i have my close friend and we go out at a club and it help to dont feel lonely but its hard
i wish you good luck
2007-01-27 15:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly? i am unhappily single cuz im crushin, but my advice is to just forget bout it. it sounds hard but it isnt. giv it a try, if it dont work then im ssoorryy!!
2007-01-27 15:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by *~*flyleaf rocks out loud*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and find a date.
2007-01-27 15:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by justice_is_hott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling. Try talking to friends to work through it, and try to keep busy to keep your mind off it.
2007-01-27 15:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by consumingfire783 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find stuff to do enjoy being independent when you look for someone they might not be the one for you
2007-01-27 15:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by rednsweet4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋