ok, i'm 16 and there's this girl that i've seen around in my youth group and so i never actually went up to her in person and met her, which is a really stupid move and ended up finding her myspace and aim, so i talked to her on that and i know she doesn't know me because she's never actually met me in person, but i know she knows who i am and i can understand why she doesn't wanna talk to me on AIM because she's never met me in person. What happened today is i saw her at the gym, she was with her family and stuff, and i was with like a trainer person and i was thinking about saying hi but didn't as she walked out the door, so when i got home i said "was that u at the gym?" and she blocked me... all i wanted was to be friends and i dunno what to do, i'm not a weird person or anything, i'm a little shy, but not like extremely shy. i just have a hard time meeting someone, but once i talk to them i can talk i guess.. :( can anyone help? i don't want her to think i'm a stalker :(
2007-01-27 07:40:29 · 16 answers · asked by bonto 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s: the reason this is in singles and dating is because i do like her, but if she doesn't wanna go out with me then i just wanna be friends
2007-01-27 07:41:22 · update #1
If you don't want her to think you're a stalker, then stop acting like a stalker! It's creepy the way you won't talk to her in person, but ask strange questions like, "was that u at the gym?"
2007-01-27 07:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by wally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're first mistake would probably have to be not going up to her and talking to her. Everyone makes friends that way. And, frankly nobody wants to really talk to a total stranger through the Internet. But now that you have revealed to her that you saw her at the gym, she probably thinks you are stalking her and pressuring to talk to her through the Internet. Its not that bad once you start talking to a person face to face and frankly making friends through the Internet is a bit dodgy, there is nothing like making friends the proper way. What i suggest is that next time you see her, give her a warm smile and see if she responds. Try slowly going up to her and saying hi. Once you have her attention. Try and explain that you just want to be friends and admit that you made a mistake. Soon, you will find everything really funny because you did bugger it up in a way. Maybe it won't hurt to look and acting shy, that way she will know you are really harmless. Good luck
2007-01-27 22:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I can understand why she flipped, it SEEMS like you are a stalker, the best thing you can do is go over and talk to her and explain in FULL honesty that you really liked her and because you were nervous you found her on myspace instead of going over to her and just being honest. Apologise, say you never meant to scare her and you are sorry. Then say if she wants to talk to you again, you'd love to, but its up to her. Then walk away. Best you can hope for dude, and just learn the lesson for another time. Good luck.
2007-01-27 15:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to try and talk to her at the Youth Group instead of online all the time. Most girls prefer that instead of AIM really, and it would make you friends, at least.
You can't really pressure her to like you or to be her friend though. But most people would really appreciate the gesture to become closer. I hope you become good friends at least.
2007-01-27 15:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by ☼lola☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, coming from a girl's point of view, i would have blocked you too. she probably thinks you are a stocker. well i can understand why you didn't want to say hi maybe in front of her family but you need to stop AIM-ing her because she probably thinks your a creep! but, what you should do is definetly say hi and soory for maybe scaring her online and at the gym. she will forgive you and ya'll will laugh about it later
-hehe.guys like you are so cute. =] learn from your mistakes.
2007-01-27 15:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by madina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her what you just told me and everyone else on Yahoo! Answers. Seriously, if you just go up to her in person and tell her the truth she may forgive you for what seems to her as stalker material. She's in your youth group so talk to her then, she can't possibly think you have ill will if you talk to her at church.
2007-01-27 15:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to the girl talk to her and tell her that it was you at the gym and tell her that it was you on myspace and that it was you on AIM then see how things go from there.
2007-01-27 15:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by bbjbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok the next time you see her introduce yourself, tell her that hey i know you kinda and you kinda know me, I am sorry i haven't talk to you before in person, i am just alil shy and didn't know exactly what to say, but now that we met i hope we can be friends..
If it works talk hang out then after she sees that you aren't a stalker.lol. maybe it will a good time to tell her how you feel....
2007-01-27 16:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by kylie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she didn't block you on myspace i'd say write her and explain how your feeling and what happened. Otherwise if you see her at youth group i'd say you better get your guts up and try talking to her!!
2007-01-27 15:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by littlemiss55746 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go up and introduce yourself at youth group....dont try totalk to her on aim or myspace....just talk casually at youth group and get to know each other a little.....and go from there...good luck....ill be praying for you c:
2007-01-27 15:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by Colie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋