i stoped cutting and doing drugs for about 2 months now. My mom is going through a divorce and my boyfriend keeps pushing me away and his mom is trying to hook him up with this other girl. i dont know what to do. I feel very alone and i need help to stop cutting. any answers?
2007-01-27 07:37:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
calm down..dont worry about what's going on in life(yes i know its hard) but you got to deal with it yourself..its life..life is hard..try thinking of the good of things and not the bad, think about friends who are close to you, who are there for you, dont think about friends who treat you like crap, or backstabbers, if you dont love your boyfriend, and he is pushing you away, dump him, if he is gonna do that to you, then obviously he isnt interested nymore, or he has his own problems..see if he has problems, or if they are with you, because nobody needs to feel or be treated like crap. cutting isnt a good answer, neither are drugs, not to make you relieve pain, or feel better. you need to seek for friends...dont listen to ppl if they say 'psychiatrist'...the only help you need to seek is someone who is close to you to help you out, friends/ for some ppl family, is the best way out, someone who you know to talk to, now if you want someone to talk to you dont know then go somewhere, but seriously, think of the positives in life, although its very hard, but you wanna be happy dont you? thats the only answer....
2007-01-27 07:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by ღ❤Crystal❤ღ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First... Wow! Good for you for stopping cutting. That takes a lot of strength and courage.
I think that you probably have the answer on how to stop cutting because of the fact that you have already stopped once before. You are strong! Think back... how did you stop? Did you talk with someone? Did you have a counsellor?
The bottom line... whatever you did before - as long as it wasn't resorting to some other type of harmful behaviour - could be the answer to stopping now.
Whatever you do... reach out. You are experiencing some very difficult events in your life - your mom going through a divorce is really tough. I don't know what to suggest about your boyfriend, but no matter what - no-one is worth cutting yourself over... you need to respect and love yourself.
You can do it! You've done it before... you can do it again.
Talk to someone... now... not later... reach out.
2007-01-27 07:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by barbieisthe1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call (800) DONT-CUT. It's a hot line for excatly you.
Talk to someone... don't hestitate to walk into a church and say, "I'm not part of your church, and I probably don't want to be, but I need someone to talk to." They will have someone who can listen or they can point you in the right direction. If you don't like the church option, try a school counselor, a sucide hotline (even if you don't feel suicidal, they'll point you to someone you can talk to.)
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
This link can help you figure out the reasons you do this. It IS understandable why you do it. It isn't good for you, and you know that and you've been doing a GREAT JOB trying to stop!
Make a CD or have a friend make a CD of songs that are going to encourage you, lift you up, and keep you going. You probably don't like country, and you could probably find your own songs, but here is a short list of Country Songs that I think would be great to keep you going.
Some People Change by Montgomery Gentry
If you are going through Hell, by Rodney Atkins
My Wish, by Rascel Flatts
In the Rock Genre:
Superchick, Beauty From Pain
Superchick, Courage
Superchick, Hero
(Hero even talks directly about overcoming cutting)
Superchick, Suddenly
Superchick, Stories (Down to the Bottom) (Sort of a rap/rock)
If you want more song suggestions, just email me.
Lastly, if you slip up, all that means is you are human. It doesn't mean you can't keep trying to overcome what burdens you. You can do it, but it will mean reaching out for some support. There are folks who are WANT to help. Many of them have been through similiar things. They want to help because they know what it is like to hurt and they know what it's like to feel better and they want you to feel better too. You are more than welcome to email me.
2007-01-27 08:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by AleksMama 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cutting yourself isn't going to help anything that your going through, and doing drugs is one of the most horrible things you could do to your body, i know it probably feels better than when all that stuff is happening but doing these things can kill you, maybe you can try keeping a journal, it might help alittle, you can write down all your thoughts a feelings into it and get them out on paper instead of having to talk to anyone directly, also you wont have to worry about the journal judging u or talking back like when you've probably talked to people about this stuff...i could never in a million years understand what your probably going through, and even tho i don't know you, I'd be horrible if something happened to you because of drugs and cutting, hopefully it would take alot more than those awful things to beat you...don't give up!( D , Good Luck!
2007-01-27 07:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow thats a verry sensitive subject. I never cut, but I have friends who did. And I understand that it can be verry hard to quit. Some people take comfort in their faith. And some have friends that help them through it. If your boyfriend is mistreating you in any way, then drop him. It may not be easy but it may be whats best. Just remember it may sound cliche( sp? ) but that divorce is not your fault. My mother divorced when I was three. But she and my father are happily married once again. Don't let the emotional pain leave scars on you. Leave it behind. I dont know your faith. But try to find a church somewhere. You can make really great friends, and it will really bless your life. It did mine. God can heal all your pain, emotionally and physically. He did for me. I hope and pray things improve for you. Please take this advice to thought. There are people who love and care for you no matter what.
Have a blessed life.
a friend in Christ :)
2007-01-27 07:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to a professional and find things that keep you happy. Maybe instead of taking anger/sadness out on your body find a hobby. I honestly couldn't get through some days w/o music. I also laugh at myself a lot...just to brush things off. I would also stay away from drugs just because you won't be able to focus on staying happy. As much as the drugs feel like they help they really just make it harder on yourself. Im or e-mail if you wanna chat!
2007-01-27 13:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by hypnotic_wht_grl_21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with any adult other than your mother about this. That can be your doctor, your clergy person (if that's a part of your life), a teacher whom you trust, etc.
There is help available to you, and lots of it. There is also help available to you in working things out between yourself and your mother. Just ask any of the people I've listed above and they can help you. In fact, in many places, they are legally obligated to help you.
You've already done the hardest part of this - admitting you have a problem and asking how to help yourself. You're on the right track. Don't be embarrassed to talk to any of the people I've listed above. They'll each have heard similar stuff in the past. You won't shock any of them.
This will still be hard work for you, but you can do it.
2007-01-27 07:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i had the exact same problem!
what i found was a better boyfriend that helped me out with my addiction and so i haven't been cutting or drugging myself 4 about 2 years. maybe if u found a friend whom u could talk 2 who was similar 2 u and talked with them. if all hell breaks out and u re-re-start, then u need 2 get into rehab.
good luck with cutting the addictions
2007-01-27 07:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by gambit_zero_tolerance 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well the last thing you want is to look more helpless then you seem now. I know what our talking about and its never easy not being depressed, but trust me...in the long run if you dont get out of it and suck it up, everyone else will be in a better place but you. Dont worry about your parents they can take care of themselves, and your boyfriend...he's not good enough for you if he cant control his own life and his mother is trying to hook him up with someone whos not doing drungs and cutting. so you need to take care of yourself and make a life for yourself before you start worrying about other people. No one should feel bad for you. people should want to be with you and look up to you. not down. Take a deep breath stop crying and start over again. goodluck sweety.
2007-01-27 07:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by Dee W 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're punishing yourself for the faults and weaknesses of the important people in your life. Don't let their behavior control you.
And forget that "cutting is my way to let myself know that I can still feel pain" bullsh*t. You're cutting yourself because you think that's the only aspect of your life that you feel you have control over.
Cutting is not a way of asserting control of your life. All you are doing is suffering more than your mom and boyfriend are.
Show the weak people around you that you are the sane one, the one in control. You do not need to mutilate yourself to prove to yourself that you're in control of yourself. Cutting is a sign of defeat, a sign that the weak people around you who have screwed up their own lives are screwing up your life too. Stop that self destructive crap. Screw them! Show them what a person who has her sh*t together is like!
2007-01-27 08:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by Veronica Almighty 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋