She's been drinking heavily for at least 15yrs. In the last month she's gotten in serious trouble with the law and is now on house arrest. She can't leave to go to any kind of rehab. I need to know the things that would help to say or have her do. I have a family of my own now and can't put forth all the time I would like, but wish I could do something to make this end up with her sober and happy.
2007-01-27 07:26:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't force her to be sober that's a decision she has to come to. All you can do is encourage her to see the benefits of not drinking, as in living longer, not getting arrested, being there for you and your family, etc. With any addiction its a day to day process, the feeling won't ever go away. Call her everyday and tell her that whenever she gets the urge to drink to call you. Maybe after her house arrest is over she can join AA.
2007-01-27 07:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Michael K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be hard to hear, but it's all up to your Mom not you. Your Mom can recover only if she is wiling to recover.
You should talk to your Mom's parole officer and find out what kind of rehab home treatment plans they may have to offer her while she is under house arrest. Maybe they have a social worker that could help with this.
You should let your Mom know how much you love her and that you want her to be sober and to spend time with you and your family when she's sober and has her life back together.
It sounds like you need support to get through this. You might want to contact AA and see if they have a family support group.
2007-01-27 07:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by kindness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm So Sorry ! However, Mom will need to ask for the help and she would need to really want the assistance the court can order rehab as apart of the conditions of her release . all things in life are based on a choice right or wrong and mom has to determine what is next not you, take care of yourself and your family mom
will have to weather her conditions until she wants to change.
2007-01-27 09:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the judge had known that she had alchol problems he would have made AA or another treatment center part of her sentence.That would have been the best thing that could have happened. If you can cantact the ada that prosecuted her and explain I am sure that the conditions of her house arrest can be changed so she can get help but it will only work when she is ready to accept it.I wish you well with helping her.
2007-01-27 07:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope this will help.
Your mother made a choice.
She can leave where she is at to go to a rehab. I do not want or need to read your woeful pleas. I am connected with a lot of people who can help.
I am turning the tables on you.
The help is there for your asking. Without much effort, help can be found. Why did you make the choice not to try to find this help?
You, in my opinion are playing a pity party on those of us who try to help.
2007-01-27 07:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by stevko1901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, check with the people in charge of her house arrest and discuss the need for rehab with them. House arrest will not keep her from seeking help when needed.
Second, she is lucky to have you to worry about her.
Good luck.
2007-01-27 07:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stage an intervention. Have everyone important in her life there: her family, neighbors, employer, etc. Each one needs to tell her that she is making them unhappy because of her drinking and that she is killing herself. Wait until she is off house arrest and have the name of a rehab and admission info for her. If she still refuses, you will have to walk away. No one can save her but herself. Perhaps she hasn't hit rock bottom yet.
2007-01-27 07:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only she can help herself to get sober and happy. You can help by not enabling her. Do not in any way help her get booze or escape the consequences of her actions. She got herself under house arrest and she can get herself out of house arrest. If you feel like it and she needs food, you might get some food and drop it off for her. BUT, she can also order it and have it delivered. DO NOTHING to help her escape the consequences of her drinking. NOTHING. Get yourself to an AlAnon meetings--it'll be the best thing you ever did.
2007-01-27 07:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
List of things to do.... if you haven't already.
1. Get her admitted for rehab. Yes she can go.... just need to get it ok'd by the court/judge,
2. Empty her house of all alcohol.
3. Take her car keys.
4. Don't allow her alcoholic frinds to come to the house.
She has to change everything about her life...to include the people she knows.
2007-01-27 08:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No but she can attend alcoholics annonymous meeting in the day time. She will find all the fellowship and support there. She will get a sponsor, who will be there for her anytime she needs someone to talk to, or help her to keep straight. She can make it if she wants to. Give her support when she needs it. Get her to AA immediately if not sooner.
2007-01-27 07:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋