im a guy and 18 year-old , i have never had a gf and im virgin, well sometimes i feel like people around me make fun of me because i even havent kissed a girl , well i always try to be handsome and stuff, but the way people treat me makes me sick, i always treat girls very well...i feel like a loser, cause they way i treat them is not the way they treat me...im sick of this life ! i wish i had a gf , so i could show those people that im not a loser !
2007-01-27 07:19:06 · 38 answers · asked by Ali 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the simple fact that you haven't dropped you boxers before you were ready is soooo commendable. it always seems backwards in your teenage years. the people who dont respect themselves or other seem to be the cool ones and the people who do respect themselves are the outsiders. You will be thankful that you have waited and that ms. right will be thankful to be with you. make sure you are not out of your own league, deal with girls that are as mindful and down to earth as you are. Those are the girls that will appreciate who you are. CONGRATS! keep up the good work. Its easy to lose your virginity it is not so easy to keeping it.
2007-01-27 07:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jan l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not a loser! But as hard as some people try, they just lack certain social skills. I have a friend in the same situation but he’s 20. A good looking guy! Has a lot going for him. Its had to explain, but he just lacks confidence and in turn you can see him making jokes, and saying just kidding A LOT. Or simply a fake laugh/inhale that he uses as a was to retract what he just said as if no to be judged. It comes down to body language! People can tell a lot about another person by the way they stand , and talk. You could be doing everything right! But you just seem so unsure, and passive. Don’t be so eager to get a girl friend. Getting a GF isn’t going to make you less of a “loser” (I’m not saying you are one) improving on your self image, become more confident. that’s what’s going to help you! it’s a tough battle. Women are cruel! (I’m a 20/F)
2007-01-27 07:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look outside your current circle to find a gf. Try a coffehouse on the other side of town, even if you live at home go to a laundry mat, or just go wal-mart and ask pretty girl about ways to cook things. I always get asked how to make pasta. It's a cute non-threatening way to met girls. Good luck and by the way If you meet a girl more experienced than you just remember how much fun it is to teach someone something new. By the way screw your friends, if they weren't so jealous that they threw away their virginity they be nicer!
2007-01-27 07:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Reepete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely NOT a loser!!!! Dont pressure urself...just because everybody else is doing something doesnt mean you have to...and those ppl who treat u badly are the losers...Being a virgin t says a lot about your character and type of person you are, that you have strong values which are lacking in society today...Any girl who cannot appreciate that is not worth it...believe me...why? coz i'm a 22 yr old virgin and it feels GOOD!!!!
2007-01-27 07:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooo! You are definitely not a loser! I am sure there is someone out there right for you...You can try to meet new people, join a sports team, or any other hobby you have, but try to do so in an environment where you don't know too many people. This could be a fresh start for you!
2007-01-27 07:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by ALLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't let other people fill your head with peer pressure. You are a man and you're a great guy, people are used to seeing what's around them and nothing else - they're accustomed to a certain way of thinking. You're not a loser and I think that you need to keep doing what you're doing, stay strong, and wait for the right one to come along. As long as you're patient and understanding great things will follow.
2007-01-27 07:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a loser! My son will be 17 in March & he doesnt have a g/f that doesnt make him a loser.And as far as I know he is also a virgin.As far as people treating you like ****,you shouldnt have to put up with it,but sweetheart there are some really cruel ignorant beings in this ****** up world!But dont you worry,"KARMA" is out there waiting for those jerks! So just try to ignore their ignorance they will get there just reward!
2007-01-27 07:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by swt-bby-gl-69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course you are not a loser, the right person just hasn't come along yet. Sometimes the harder we look, the more unsure of ourselves we become. Your so young, just be patient, I know it's easier said than done, but the right girl will come along, just try and keep a positive attituse, and don't let what others say about you, hurt you. Your a good person. Good Luck.....
2007-01-27 07:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey...just because you don't have a GF doesn't make you a loser. Lonely perhaps. Don't try to get a GF just to show your friends...likely she'll dump you because the friendship won't be sincere. Just be yourself and you'll find someone for you that will really make you happy.
If people make fun of you....say...I'm not a loser, I'm just picky.
2007-01-27 07:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, stop it, man. It took me too a while to figure out the way to get to women (I was 17), but after that, it was a smooth trip. Use your "spare time" to read and learn more about women, the way they think and the way they work, even sexually. It will all pay out soon. And try to act cool about it, because if you look desperate, they'll most lilely stay away. You have to behave like you don't need them. It takes a little practice but you'll get there. And work out what you can on your looks. That works too. As to the jerks, life will teach them a lesson. It works out that way. Stay cool.
2007-01-27 07:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by disintegrationisthebestalbumever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋