Is it right for your mother to charge you to keep her own grand children?

Question

I have a 13 yr old son and a 18mth old girl and every time i ask her to watch them for me she will but she charges me $60.00 a day is this right?

Answer 1

Is it right that you see your mother as a source of unpaid labour?

If you didnt have family members you would have to pay someone so why not pay your mother.

Answer 2

We need more info really for this to be answered the right way. Unless all you are wanting to hear is yes she is evil for charging to see her grandchildrn. Dogzilla was right though if she asks to watch them then yes it is wrong to pay but if you are asking then why not pay?? I understand that she is your mother and their grand mother but she raised you with out being paid why does she have to raise your children too?? Now if it is every once in a while then the price is a bit high but next time you ask a question and want a good answer back you need to give a bit more info.

Answer 3

I think your Mother is trying to tell you something. GET a different baby sitter. Is it wrong for you to expect your Mother to watch your children? DID your Grandma watch you all the time? I dont know the answer but.

Now, I think your Mother is terrible for not wanting to help her daughter. I guess I need to know why you want her to watch your children. MY wife, LOVES to keep her grand daughter, She drove her grand daughter 3.5 hrs to see her Mommie, who was out of town all week working. She never charges to keep the baby but everyone is different. The daughter has a full time baby sitter and Grandma only helps now and then. You did not give all the facts or enought facts for me to really give a good answer. If you are a doctor and make $1000 a day, then by all means pay your mother. If you make 100 a day, ouch. You have a bad Mother your self. Maybe you need to get a different baby sitter and not even let your Mother see them. I mean tell her that you can not afford for her to see your kids. She charges to much, just keep them away from her.

I did that to my Mother and Dad a very long time ago. Mother did not want to baby sit at all. I lived 12 hrs from them, so a couple time when we went home, for a vacation, I left my kids with their other grandma who loved seeing them.

Answer 4

I do not agree withthe price.. Day cares around me only charge 25 dollars a day... for two.. With one in diapers... However about paying her, I do agree that if it is a regualar occurance, you should pay, but it would not kill her to want to spend time with her grandkids free of charge, every once in while to give you a break... I would make a change to the pay though.. Seeing as how she is family I would make an hourly rate, and keep it an agreeable rate.. If she is not willing to budge, put the youngest in daycare, and leave the 13 year old at home, and pay a neighbor like 20 a day ( on a non-school day) or 10 a day (on a school day after school) to run next door once or twice to check on him.. At 13 Depending on mentality, it is ok to leave them by theirselves.... However they cannot be left with a small child until I believe the age of 15... This will save you a ton of money, and then maybe your mom will want to watch them on her own... It would be nice of your to give her money for her services, but I think she is taking advantage of it... Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

WOW

$60 is a lot to ask. The 13 year old could watch out for the 18 month old with supervision.

I've offered in the past, even when it was full time and my parents REFUSED money. They even offered to buy bottles, formula, diapers, etc to keep at their house. I REFUSED to allow them to do that, but that is just the way parents should be.

I am blessed with my parents and inlaws.

Answer 6

That seems pretty steep, especially if you ask her to watch them often. While my mother would NEVER charge me, it IS rude to take advantage of them. If you're going to work, it's understandable to ask her to watch them, but if you're wanting a sitter so you can go out and get drunk and party it up, you need to GROW UP and raise your own kids.

Her reasons for the steep price are most likely because she's trying to teach you to take responsibility for your own kids. She's already raised her kids, and it is NOT her job to raise yours as well.

If my mother was watching my children often, though, we'd probably take her out to eat on one of our days off each week or two. Showing appreciation and responsibility is probably what your mother wants from you. Do this, and the price might come down.

Answer 7

I dont know if it is right, but we pay my Mom to watch my son every week. We pay her $70 a week and she watches him while we are at work. She didn't ask for it though, but if your Mom is dedicating all of her time to taking care of your children while you are away, don't you think she deserves a little something?

Answer 8

Its kind of unusual and the cost seems a little high but if its only $30 per child that covers food and some other expenses so its not totally outrageous. Your mom probably has expenses, too, and the extra money helps her. Its probably less than a day care center would charge and if she is working for you (and she is in this case), doesn't she deserve some pay?

Answer 9

Yes because there is a difference between visiting and babysitting however i think she is charging too much especially if she is watching them everyday.

Answer 10

I think $60 a day is a little extreme but yes I do think she should be able to get paid for her services. She's obviously done taking care of her children so why should she have to take care of yours without getting something in return?