Banging your head against a brick wall?....by this i mean, trying to keep the peace with a certain someone only to feel asthough you're making some kind of head way then realise you're right back to where you srtarted?....if so what do you do turn your back on this person forever, or keep trying..... i think i have had quite enough of it to last me a life time...... what would you do?
2007-01-27 07:07:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we get the same lesson in life until we change something in our reactions to it. so, we get the brick wall syndrome, until we finally say ENOUGH, and let it go.
sometimes we have to let go of a person for awhile to heal whatever wounds they trigger in us. maybe once the healing is done, the person can come back into your life in a healthier way. it requires establishing boundaries and sticking to them. it also requires not expecting blood from a stone. people are who they are and as much as we all try, we cant change another person.
sometimes life has a way of removing unhealthy people for us, without any work on our part. relationships start and end for a reason, and you'll instinctively know when you have had enough, and who you want in your life and who no longer is a positive influence.
good luck!
2007-01-27 07:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by maggiemae821 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pain is a strange thing. Burning a finger or stubbing a toe can hurt all night, but when I shattered my wrist into 20 pieces (bones sticking out), I didn't feel anything at all. I guess I was just into "operation mode," and I realized that pain would be a disability in getting necessary medical help. I do not think the worst physical pain can come close to the mental anguish many of us have suffered. Merry Christmas, and all the best to you and your loved ones. And be careful!
2016-05-24 05:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Andra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do I ever feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall. You bet I do, the person is my husband, he can't handle the typical stresses in life every thing is a major catastophy. I recomend you put distance between you and that person. I now wish I had.
2007-01-27 07:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was in the Marines that I dated several times. I considered him my best friend, and I have known him for several years. He was crazy for me, but he told a lot of lies and was very self-centered. I couldn't see it- or I refused to see it. No one could understand why I would date this guy. I guess he just always made me feel guilty, and I was emotionally attached to him
One night, as I was writing in my journal, it hit me. What was I thinking? I can't date him. That same night, I literally told him, "I can't put up with this. No more. Good bye." It was bittersweet. I cried, then I laughed because I knew I made the right decision.
Just do it. Even if your situation is different from mine, just let go of whatever it is that's eating you inside. After it's all said and done, you'll feel powerful.
2007-01-27 07:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is realize that no matter what you do or say you cant change this person. The only thing you can do is change the way you respond to this person and their behavior.
Sometimes the person knows what your saying is true but they are just not willing, ready or want to change.
Just let that person know you care about them, and step back and keep your sanity so you dont end up dragging yourself down as well. good luck.
2007-01-27 07:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give up and move on!! If you have to make all that effort without the other person trying as well, it is not worth it. If it is a boy friend, kick him free or a husband, get a divorce!!
2007-01-27 07:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are describing exactly what I just went threw, and believe me the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to close the door and walk away. Of course it is very painful, but time does help. I played his game for about 3 months, figured I had wasted enough time and shut the door. It's not worth it, they will never change. Good luck!! It's there loss.................
2007-01-27 07:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, of all you need to think about your self, whatever you are trying to give to this other person make sure that you have it and live it. you cannot transmit something that you havent got. second, dont wase your time on someone if their not going to talke direction. you can lead the horse to the water but you cant make him drink. third, if its that bad to where you have to ask someone else on the internet about how to fix your problem thats not even yours to begen w/ then maybe you shouldnt be helping them in the first place.
2007-01-27 07:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN girl RUN. If you talking about a man, your really not going to get any where. If you've tried then you've done more then its worth. Keep you head up and try something new. It's good to change.
2007-01-27 07:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Midwest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me with a sister in law. She always talked bad about me and her sisters(who are not related to me) always lied about me to her so I just finally had it and I don't talk to her at all. I am better off that way. She only brought misery into my life and was always critizicing me. About everything. Like they say if you feel worse after you leave their presence then it's not worth it. They earn the right to be in your life.
2007-01-27 07:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by V8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋