my boyfriend works, goes to school, comes home and study's, has no time for me what do i do?

Question

my boyfriend decided to go back to school and get his degree, he has just two years left. before he went back we use to do alot of things, im glad he is getting his degree, but im just not use to him doing this, he will go to work, then school, then come home and study, i just find myself more alone thats all, he stay's up late now studying so we don't even have that now, i tell him all the time he could find time but he just says he has to study. what can i do so that he can study, and be with me to sometimes,

Answer 1

There are two issues at hand here:

1) He wants to do well in his degree and that's very important to him. It's so important that you need to realize that it's about his own sense of accomplishment and is not intended to push you out.

2) You want some more time out of him. Since you are in a relationship, that's not an unreasonable request. Tell him that you care about him and support his desire to do well, and because you care about him and this relationship is important to you, you'd really like to make at least some time every week to do something. You can also go out of your way to surprise him with dinner or something. Consider, too, that you may just need to spend a different kind of time with him for the time being and that being with him when he studies might be the most you can do.

Answer 2

If you feel alone, why don't you find things to do for yourself? Being in love doesn't mean sacrificing everything you are and all that you like in the interest of being with someone. School is tough, and he needs this time. if you can't sacrifice for him, then where's the love? If he feels like all you care about is yourself and not supporting him, it won't be long before the relationship is gone. Reevaluate your priorities, and leave now if you can't handle it.

Why don't you work more hours, try school, or do some volunteer work? It'll fill up your time, and help you wait the two years until he's finished. Of course, then he'll have a job, and need to work that, but that's what real life is like. We all miss those days of not having requirements for our time and energy, but that's not a feasible way to live life.

I'm not entirely sure why this is in homeschooling, but whatever.

Answer 3

It's a busy life. And him going back to school means you both will have to make changes. Maybe that means being more supportive of him. He's not choosing his schooling over you, so don't think anything of the sort.

It's sad to say but you probably won't see each other as much. Talk to him about it. Tell him your concerns. If it's something that you don't want to be apart of because you feel like you need more time in a relationship, let him know.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Have patience, if the worse he is doing is studying, u should be proud. He is only doing this to get better and ahead. Have u thought of taking a class, then u could study together.

Answer 5

well he is trying to get his degree it takes a lot of work
don't worry
1 day just set up a little picnic and tell him he find a little bit more time to spend with you

Answer 6

Dating students is tough. Make or bring him dinner sometime when he is studying and have a little picnic.

Answer 7

Good for him, his and your future will be better than had he not. You don't mention if you have children, if you work or if you attend classes. It would be very helpful if you would edit and add that information.

Answer 8

lets look at this long term: he will have his degree because he want to have a furture, and you will have nothing. he will be smart and you will be dumb, how long do you think he will be with you after he makes it big. so go to school and study with him, maybe he will hire you as his coffee girl.

Answer 9

Move out! He does not have time for you, find someone who does.I'll bet the only time he has is when he wants to have sex? Am I rite?