how would I ensure the person I am meeting is genuine and not someone pretending to be something they are not, what security measures do I take in order to know who I am meeting is not decieving me for any reason? I am an adult meeting an adult who is 32 but looks younger, this is playing on my mind as I think she is really nice but I feel a certain amount of deception or paranoia. serious answers will be appreciated, funny answers will be laughed at. thank you for your time.
2007-01-27 07:00:35 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Meet in a public place and ask a friend to come and watch from nearby and see what happens.
2007-01-27 07:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not her fault if she looks younger. Don't go and give her a hard time for it!
On the other hand I do understand your worries.
First of all, make sure you meet in a public place, and don't offer to buy her any alcohool.
Throughout the conversation, you should have a pretty good idea about what she knows about life.
If you realize that you truly like her and wants to see her again, then you just have to make sure that you take things very slowly.
On the one end, you are protecting your heart, on the other, you give her the time to trust you enougth to tell you anything she might be afraid of letting on should there be such a thing.
I'm 34, and gosh, people still think i'm in High School when looking at me.
It can be flattering but some push it by being a bit condescending. I make sure they know presto who they're talking to!!!
2007-01-27 15:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you know nothing about? Not very safe at all, however meeting someone off the internet you know A LOT about is much better, I met my gf on the internet, and we spoke for weeks, real in depth things about life and who we were and what we were doing, there were pictures and phonecalls (later on) and eventuallywe decide to meet up and things have been amazing ever since we have. But take the time, internet relationships are just like real relationships, take it steady and dont rush and scare people. If she's interested in you, she isnt going anywhere, so learn more about her and if you want to meet later on, good luck.
2007-01-27 15:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know unless you take that first step, but just meet in a public place where you can head for the hills if need be!!! I just went threw an internet relationship where I thought he was a very good person, but in reality he had severe emotional problems that I was never informed of, and needless to say, it is over. I have been chatting with other people and wouldn't be afraid of meeting someone in a public place. Good luck, hope she's "the one"!
2007-01-27 15:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not safe, but think of it this way, lots of people do it and some are even happy that they did! You could meet for a quick coffee in a public place and then see how it goes?
Probably no different to getting very drunk and meeting a stranger while out on a night out?
2007-01-27 15:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by extremely_confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting people on the internet in general can be VERY dangerous so if you do decide to meet someone do it the right way. Here are some helpful tips:
Meet in a public place and bring someone you trust (a friend, parent, neibor, cousin, brother)
Make sure they are who they say they are. Get there phone number first and call them. do you trust them? if not, meeting them may not be the best thing to do. Good luck!
2007-01-27 15:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by ilikelivinglife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting in a public area during the day would be the best, you could have lunch and then take it from there. What happens after that is up to you, with out any alcohol the mind has a clearer judgement to go on.
2007-01-27 15:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by kildarababe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be safe as long as you follow some guidelines to protect both yourself and the lady you are meeting, the number one rule is MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE. this protects you from any accusations of improper behaviour on your part and also makes sure that the lady feels safe.Rule 2 is to let somebody know where you are going and what you are doing (adults can end up disappearing to you know)
2007-01-27 15:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by CHRIS P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell anything for sure. Make the first meet in a very public place, say a popular restaurant with people all around. You'll know what to do or not do after that.
2007-01-27 15:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to your question if you have series doubts, then if were u i'd go with your gut feeling on this one. Delay the meeting untill your feeling a little less paranoid and if shes worth meeting she won't mind waiting a little longer, because your not feeling like this for know good reason.
2007-01-27 15:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋