I love him and they don't understand that it's his personality. He's really sweet, but dresses very differently. My parents hate guys that wear baggy pants and shirts wayy to big, but i love it. =) what do i do?
2007-01-27 06:59:58 · 35 answers · asked by Lala 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
man i feel you...im thuggish and my girl friend's parents dont like me...but u know once u know me im a nice guy...i make others laugh and erry thing,back to da point,explain to ur parents about his personality...never judge a book my its cover u know what im sayen..and tell em to bring him for a dinner and den u guys can hav a nice evening if dat dont work out den i wish da best of lucks for ya girl...peace
2007-01-27 07:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL -- it's just a style. My kid was into that for a very long time. Gelled hair spikes, baggy crack-showing pants that drug the floor, the whole "look". It was just a phase. The underneath kid wasn't thuggish at all. He's always been a sweet loving kid. It was just a temporary style in his life. So I picked and chose my battles (and made him dress normally for family events). He's in the military now.....wears his pants up to the waist, his gig line straight, his hair cut indecently short. Maybe when your parents get to know him, their opinion will change. Hopefully your mom will give him a chance.
If he truly IS a thug, that's a different story.
(Frankly I thought that syle had gone OUT of style.....maybe it was just wishful thinking on my part, though)
2007-01-27 07:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to tell you something for your mother:
I am the mother of a now 23 year old, and he buys clothes way too big. When he grew up I noticed that he took his clothes off as soon as he came hom, just wearing a pair of shorts. I questioned him about this, because I thought it was ood---come to find out that my son hates to wear clothes at any time. He told me that if there was a society allowing nudeness, he would live there and that he does wear the clothes only when he has to. He buys them too big because he does not feel comfortable in clothes of regular fit. I didn't like that for a long time because of the negative association of being a thug, but my son is everything but a thug. He is a high school grad, a college student, and an Iraq veteran who got out with a medical condition(his back). So you can tell your mother from another mother that she might want to read this.
When I took my son to Germany at age 12, people there thought that his baggy clothes were a lot better than what the youth over there wore: skin tight jeans etc. So, it depends on what is fashionable in a society, and what it is associated with, that makes one look at your boyfriend as a thug, but maybe mom will read this one and back off from her judgement and give him a true chance....good luck
2007-01-27 07:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds just like my bestfriend/exboyfriend.. Hopefully boyfriend again. He's a TOTALLY sweet guy and he would never ever try to hurt a girl in anyway. He's always helping out other people and making everyone feel better. Just, he has a problem w/ letting his boxers hang out and that whole deal, but my parents hate it. You're getting older and it's time for you to make choices for yourself. Your parents will try to pick out what they think is best for you, but it's your heart. You should all do something together and let them to get to know him and that he wont hurt you. And ya, you know? They still might have a problem with him.. but hopefully they'll see he's more than his baggy clothes.
Good luck with everything!
Hope it works!
2007-01-27 11:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like you have to tell them what you just said here, and if they don't understand, make a choice: Keep him and deal with constant problems with your family because they don't approve, or let him go and find a boy that your parents approve of.
But parents' approval when you're still living at home is VERY helpful.
2007-01-27 07:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your parents are involved with you decisions, then obviously you are too young to be taking this boyfriend/girlfriend thing too serious. Just relax a bit .
Your parents are wise. Maybe they see things in him that you cannot.
Just take it easy. Maybe once your parents get to know him, they may learn to like him if he truly is the sweet guy you said he is.
2007-01-27 07:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old u are if u are of age then it's not thier say but if ur underage then it's thier rules if he really is a sweet guy show them that,maybe with a family dinner or some sort of sit down where they can get to know him better a person should not be defined by how they dress but who they are
2007-01-27 07:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminded me of that Parental Control TV show! LOL
well, that is your life and your b/f, I mean even tho they dont like him, there is nothing they can do, its your decision. If he is nice and sweet then I am sure your parents can find a way to like him, but if he was rude and mean to you or disrespectfull then there would have been a problem!
2007-01-27 07:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's so sweet then why did u call him a thug. He either is or he is'nt. If he is then you are an idiot to be mixing with him. Unlike your mother I would'nt have fainted, Oh no. I would have kicked his A** out of the front door and you with him..
2007-01-27 07:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only the clothes that is thuggish, I would continue to date him, but if he is a true thug (drug dealing, makin' babies and not takin' care of them) then you should leave him alone for real because your parents have a reason not to like him then.
2007-01-27 07:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋