I was in an argument with my girlfreind that turned physical. She is tougher than me and ended up taking me on while making me cry. I admit I am snotty sometimes and am tough to deal with. Now she always tells me what to do and says she will slap me up if I dont mind her. I like my girlfreind but sometimes she is hard to handle. Is this something we can work out? Should I continue to see her?
2007-01-27 06:46:53 · 59 answers · asked by timmy h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry. But what do you expect? A girl always wins!!!!! No matter what. I'm really sorry that you're @$$ got beat up by a girl.
2007-01-27 07:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jazmin 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Oh my goodness. I don't want to insult you because that isn't my intent, but because I am 45 and a mother, I am thinking by reading your question that you sound like a teenager or younger. If you are older than that, then I apologize. I want you to realize something: NOBODY should ever, ever hit, slap, control you or beat you up. I don't care if you ARE snotty at times. Nobody deserves to be treated the way your girlfriend is treating you. I can tell you that if you are a guy and a girl is beating up on you, you will be perceived as weak by other guys, and no girl will respect you. Stand up for yourself. Tell this girl that you will not tolerate that from her or any girl, and then dump her. You deserve better. No - this is not something you can work out. No -you should NOT continue to see her. She is trouble. She is mean and has a lot of growing up to do. She thinks she can boss you around and beat up on you when you don't do what she wants. In a relationship, if a person truly cares about another person, they don't try to boss them, control them, and they certainly aren't mean and physically abusive to them. Tell the girl to get a life and then move on with your own. If you are tough to deal with, then you can take a look at that. Perhaps it isn't that you are tough to deal with when it comes to other people - just when you are with her. You are better off without her. Nobody should be treated the way she is treating you. Lose her. You deserve better.
2007-01-27 07:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
timmy h, it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. Your girlfriend is verbally and physically abusive towards you, and this type of behavior can only escalate. It isn't healthy for either of you to continue seeing each other. Some one is going to end up getting hurt. The fact that you've admitted to you being ''snotty and tough to deal with'' at times, is not an excuse to be abused by any one, under any circumstance. This could be a learned behavior for her and unfortunately being abusive is the only way she knows how to deal with things. It's imperative that she seeks help to control her anger in order to avoid hurting some one or doing something she will regret later.
I think you should stop seeing her until she gets some kind of help. timmy h, no one, including yourself, deserves to be verbally or physically abused what ever the case may be. Take care of yourself.
2007-01-27 08:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cricket 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no you shouldn't.
Men are embarrassed when this sort of thing happens and are often unwilling to admit that they have been beaten up by a girl. But I know several men who have had this same thing happen.
Just like any victim of domestic abuse, you have been cowed by her behavior and think that this is the best you deserve. But you cannot let yourself be taken advantage of. Ask her to go to a couple's counsellor, and if she refuses then go find a therapist for yourself.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to break up with her. If she loved you she would never be able to bear the thought of hurting you physically. There are a lot of support groups for people who have been abused: talk to your therapist, priest, rabbi, whatever, and get yourself into one.
Good luck!
2007-01-27 06:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol i know the type of guy you are. at least the one you are describing yourself as. my advice to you is no. as a woman i can tell you the next thing that is going to happen is she will be cheating on you left and right and the only thing you are going to do is cry and break down. first of all if you need to hit some one then there is no point in being with them. people who hit means they have no control. controling a situation does not mean u should hit the other person. you are not a child you are an adult and she should treat you with respect. look for a woman who respects you as a human being . that sir is not respect good luck
2007-01-27 06:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by wedjb 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are wondering if you should leave her speaks more about you than it does about her. It should be a no-brainer to get out of this situation. Dump her, and find a good therapist that can help you get to the heart of the issue as to why you think this kind of female is ok. I think dealing with this issue is critical for you to live a long and happy life.
2007-01-27 06:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isnt cool dude, she is getting physically abusive and mentally abusive when she threatens to slap you if you dont mind her. Doesnt sound like the type of girl you wanna be with long term of even at all. Id advise you to talk it out, but if nothing changes, leave her, you deserve better.
2007-01-27 06:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like women if you are in an abusive or potentially abusive relationship GET OUT while you still can. By staying you are saying it is OK to be treated like sh*t. You cannot change her. You can only work on yourself. No matter how happy you try to make her you won't be able to. Find someone you can respect and who can respect you.
Good luck but get out of the relationship.
2007-01-27 06:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by lady01love 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Timmy, Timmy, Timmy... Just leave the deebo chick alone and do her friend. Stop being a wuss. You need to bulk up or get self confidence and stop being a snot. I was joking about doing her friend. Call the po-po and have ger *** arrested. SHe will learn not to fight anymore. Oh yeah. If there is something to salvage in the relationship, talk about it and move from there. If not, leave the behemoth!
2007-01-27 06:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by slbeezie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. Physical violence is never something that should be a part of any relationship, whether the offender is male or female. If I were you, I'd find a different girlfriend, one that doesn't resort to violence to make her point.
2007-01-27 06:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you still cry after physical punishment, you shouldn't be with anyone until you A: Grow up, B: Become a man and take your beating C: Quit your bitching.
Do yourself a favor, when you get to college devote 3 days a week in the gym, working out.
2007-01-27 06:51:35 · answer #11 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋