We were visiting my husband's Dad, new girlfriend and 4 year old brother last night. I was in mid-conversation and this little heathen ran up and punched me in the stomach. I got pale and super hot, like I was gonna faint or vomit and had to run to the bathroom. The baby is moving regularly, and I haven't had any irregular symptoms. My question revolves around the way his Dad and girlfriend reacted to their 4 yr. old punching a 9 month pregnant woman in the stomach. How would you react if your 4 yr. old punched a 9 month pregnant woman in the stomach?
2007-01-27 06:43:41 · 22 answers · asked by **hope/faith**1744 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My husband's Dad's girlfriend sort of yelled at him. She said "You can't do that there's a baby in there". The little boy started crying and they totally coddled the kid and told him, Oh it's Ok and Oh don't cry. They tried making him apologize, but he wouldn't ! I thought the kid needed a good smack.
2007-01-27 06:52:54 · update #1
Well here is what I did, when my brothers 8 year old son punched me in the back. I turned around and hit him hard up side the head. I rang his bell and he cried and cried. He had been punching other family members and they told him to stop. Of course he did not stop. But you can bet your life he never hit me again. Of course the family was mad at me, and said a few choice words to me, I loved that Brother, but told him, you need to stop this kid from doing things like this.
OH, he never hit me in the back again. Once when he was trying to sneek up on me, I asked him, did you forget that I hit you last time, this time, you wont be standing.
End of story, You should of punched him back harder than he hit you. If his Mother said anything, hit her two. Again, hit harder than you were hit.
2007-01-27 06:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Though I generally don't believe in hitting kids, my HONEST first reaction to this was "Why in the hey didn't you smack this kid upside the head?" If it were my child, though, she (even at 2!) would be sent into the other room and banned from being with the adults until she could behave herself and come back and apologize. She would also have to sit through one of my (long, boring) lectures on what exactly is IN the stomach of a pregnant woman. (which I'm teaching her some of now if she sees prego women) She doesn't hit, though, because when she HAS, she's been properly punished (time out in another room with no toys until she can behave herself).
I would suggest that you go see your doctor and let him/her know about the incident, because they might want to watch the baby.
And I would sit down and have a talk with the parents and TELL them that this is NOT acceptable. That if they can not learn to control this child, then the child will NOT be allowed to be around the baby (or the adults who are WITH the baby). They can like it or not, but SOMEONE needs to teach this child some manners before he grows up to be an abusing and conniving adult.
2007-01-27 07:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4-yr-old and am 4 months pregnant, I have to remind him not to jump on me or to play rough but if he had dont that to another woman I would have grabbed him and told him that it is wrong to hit and why it could hurt the baby and then he would have spent a good long time cleaning something or sitting in timeout. You have no control over a child, even your own so many times you are reacting after the fact and it is hard to know what to do sometimes. Little kids do things to find out what it feels like and how people will react so it is sometimes hard for people who aren't yet parents to understand that the little ones aren't really evil demons, just being kids. You can explain to a child why it is wrong and that they can't play with you anymore but you have to let the parents be the parents and just try to be a good parent yourself.
2007-01-27 06:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have grabbed him by the little arm, jerked him to me face to face and growled "What ARE YOU DOING!?!?. Then I would have given him a little shake and maybe even a smack on the bottom and sent him to his room "until I tell you to come out." After about 1/2 hour I'd go in and lecture him about punching anybody, especially a pregnant lady!
But if you even think you "may" have any symptoms, call your doctor immediately and tell him what happened. And don't take your baby around that kid without keeping a very close eye on him.
2007-01-27 06:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would truthfully spank his little butt however that is not some would say it would be better to get down on his level and explain that it hurt when they punch some one especially in the tummy. Also explain that he could have hurt the baby and as the new babys uncle it is his job to be a big boy and try to protect the baby not hurt it. Maybe he was jelous of all the baby talk and attention going on.and was feeling left out.
2007-01-27 06:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny... that same thing happened to me when I was 7 months pregnant with twins... and it was a 6 yr old boy. If if were my kid the pregnant woman would get a sincere apology both from myself and the child and then that child would get a spanking and have a long talking to about why it isn't appropriate to punch ANYONE, especially girls, especially girls who are pregnant.
2007-01-27 06:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by babybunny729 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think i would raise my kid to hit women first of all, they need to realize that maybe they aren't the greatest parents. Otherwise since he actually did that, i would ground him to the corner of the wall for the whole day, only to get out to use the bathroom, and eat. I hope they also would have made him apologize sincerely, and send him home with you to do chores, hes 4 he can help with laundry! Sounds to me like he's a monster i hope your okay though!
2007-01-27 06:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Novak 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would make him apologize to the nine month pregnant woman. Then I would talk to him while he is sitting in a time out place to think about what he did and why he shouldn't have done it.
2007-01-27 06:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by April Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my kid did that, I would have made him apologies, sent him to his room until I cooled down enough to go an discipline him.
If it happened to me, I would have told that kid it is NOT right to hit people especially a pregnant person, then said something to the parents.
2007-01-27 06:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by jaamat6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would def smack him on the but and tell him that was wrong at 4 they should know anyway. then it would be off to the corner. i have a 3 year old brother and my parents always explain to him that you hav e to be easy with people and especially pregnant women
2007-01-27 06:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋