Heres the thing...my bf ALWAYS goes to his momma (he is 32) when he needs something or money...and today while I was in the bath my bf was watching our son and when I came out he said " he kept saying momma, this has got to stop or he will be like me a mommas boy" I told him it was his choice at 32 to still be a mommas boy (his mther hit him as a child and stole his paychecks as a teen) he said no its not. Anyways, I said he might be jealous of te affection and love I show my son and he called me "psycotic"and that I was ******* nuts. I think he is jealous because I am a waaaay better mom to my son than his (bfs) mom was to him...Im not going to stop showing my son love because his dad is jealous...who is right??
2007-01-27 06:38:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your boyfriend may genuinely believe that your son is headed down the path to being a momma's boy. Don't assume that it is a situation where you are right and he is wrong or that he is right and you are wrong. Try to look at it as if you are both right. It wasn't very kind to tell him that he is jealous even if he is, I would have expected him to become defensive. Talk to him about how he thinks that you are "making" your son a momma's boy and talk about why you do what you do. Show him and his thoughts respect and you will find it easier to meet in the middle. My husband thinks that our older son is whiny but we have made some compromises and he is starting to see our son fo who he truly is. Our boy is sensitive and cares very deeply but he tends to react emotionally. Tell your boyfriend that the more he tells your son to stop asking for mommy, the more the boy will want to. If you assume that this is a situation where someone is right and someone is wrong, you set up a fight and ultimately, the boy loses. Find a way to parent together and you will all win in the end.
2007-01-27 07:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are jealous of babies in the being because they get all of your attention. And most men have an ego they don't like to get burused. My son is a momma's boy right now but, is slowly coming to sit with me because I play with him and spend time with him more now then when he was very little his 18 months now. But maybe all you need is Just to make sure both your son and you boyfriend get attention. Let mom watch your son one night and cook a dinner for you and your boyfriend play some music lite some candles fix a bubble bath and enjoy life like you did before you two had a baby and remember that your life with each other doesn't stop because you have a baby. Oh, and try not to fight over the little things and if you want to under stand each other more and fight less buy the book "men are from mars, women are from venus" read it and try it. And go to it any time you don't understand what's going on between you to. Then suggest that he reads it, If your problems haven't gotten better. Most fights persist because each person in the fight thinks they have to get there point across to they keep pushing until the fight gets even worse. You be the one to say I understand what you are saying but this is how I feel, Or you can say, This is how I feel how do you feel about ( insert question here). You both will open up so much easier this way to each other.
2007-01-27 08:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by ED S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are totally in the right you should not have to stop showing your own son how much you care just because your bf didnt get that when he was growing up its not your fault....and theres nothing wrong with your child being a mommas boy kids know how much their moms care...any way YOU are right
2007-01-27 06:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by cnwhab4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your BF is being tough on your son. Like a "don't grow up to be like me" type thing. Not so much jealousy. If he got upset every time you spent time with your son I would say he is jealous, but your BF is saying he doesn't want your son to be like him and be a momma's boy his whole life.
2007-01-29 07:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I really think you should reexamine your relationship with him. It sounds like he needs counseling to deal with what happened to him as a child. It is not right to be jealous of a child.
2007-01-27 07:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, thats a strange relationship. A grown guy ought to no longer likely by skill of laying in a similar mattress together with his mom. A fifty six year. previous female remains able to sexual emotions/emotions. If his mom have been 86, I perhaps ought to work out it, yet i'm fifty six, and that i nonetheless get emotions. in case you be attentive to what I advise. i think of you're able to be good. if it is the case, you may by no skill have him all to your self. sounds like his mom is jealous, very very immature and unfair to her son. subject is, mom additionally seems to be extremely manipulative. And he's falling for it. in keeping with risk yet another outsider/observer ought to p.c.. up in this and function a communique with him. yet another male buddy? i'm specific if yet another male buddy knew he grew to become into laying down in mattress preserving his mom, that he might think of it grew to become into very unusual and strange. sturdy success with that hun.
2016-09-28 01:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by intriago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love your child
2007-01-27 07:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by hanagal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you are, and yes it sounds as though he is jealous, and verbally abusive.
2007-01-27 06:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf is a wacko dump him
2007-01-30 22:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋