and talking crazy about how much he loves me and how he dont wanna be with nobody but me for the rest of his life and he said he gonna propose to me on my birthday. and he said if im not able to see him on valentines day he gonna break up with me, but i got go 2 bible study and thats where i wanna go, but then he said he was playin. and plus my momma dont like him cuz he 20 and im 16, but age of consent in my state is 16 so its nothing she can do about it really. I think he crazy and he call me all day, but i love him so much. How do i tell him to cool it, we only been together since october 2006
2007-01-27 06:33:27 · 29 answers · asked by Hello!!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u r lucky ... thats good thing for you..tell him to wait untill u ll have right age.to cool him down.. u have to talk and make a very nice relationship ..the trust..tell him u will not go away ever never..assure you will be his only and will marry him ... give some nice kisses and hugs..best of luck.be happy.
2007-01-27 06:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be cautious beautiful, young girl. At 20 and 16 it is probably a safe bet to say you are still developing and will both be considerably different by the time you are 30, which is when most people start to get an idea of who they really are. I ma sure at 20 he has physical attraction to you that causes him physical discomfort, as young pretty girls have a tendency to do. If a man or a boy truly loves a girl or woman he will respect her and allow her to call the shots.
2007-01-27 06:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Gregory A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling and possessive and will make your life miserable. Ask yourself why a 20 yo man would want to be with a 16 yo. The answer is simple. He can control you but not a woman his own age.
Listen to what the tell you in Bible Study and get rid of this creep.
2007-01-27 06:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very strong feeling the guy loves you from the bottom of his heart, and that's why he expresses his true feelings to you with comments like those you showed...
It is also good to know it is a mutual feeling from your end in terms of love you carry in heart towards him as you said it yourself...
On the other hand
The very best way for you to deal with this is for him to realize his own words to you before passing some unmeaningfull comments like breaking up with you or so...
Remind him how he has always expressed his way of love to you, and just mean to show yourself as though you were inquiring / investigating whether or not he was really serious / joking about meeting on Valentine...
I can surely understand his feelings on Times like Valentine of course, and I cannot really blame him, but you could also act smartly telling him you thought all your days together were Valentine, and not only THE VALENTINE'S DAY....
You could further add saying you & him will be celebrating the occasion the day after (or before in that context) with no one else sharing you the sole & nice moments....!!!
I am sure out of those two ideas you will be able to win such a conflict-like situation, and he will appreciate it for sure...
Then and only then you will really come to know how much he loves and is willing to sacrifice his life for you...Understanding & appreciating are best ingredients for strong relations...
He who loves will always find a way of understanding the other, and I am sure he will act reasonably and rationally...
If it was a pre-planned session for you to attend a Bible Study, then stick to it, and you will get no harm..., BUT if there was a tiny opportunity that such a session will not be taken on that day, please go with your friend's wish, and let him show you his plans for you on that day...
Concept of the above paragraph should be passed on to him your own way...It is good to make him realize how eager you are to be with him on such a day had it not been for the Bible Study......Say it just for the sake of saying it...You will satisfy his ego,,,
I AM SURE YOU WILL DO GOOD, AND YOUR RELATION WILL FURTHER EXTEND & GET STRENGTHENED WITH THE DAYS YET TO COME...
Best of luck dear...
2007-01-27 07:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all 3 months dating is not enough for him to say he wants to marry you. u r 16 and he is 20 he is older and obviously more experienced. since you are so innocent he might want to use you. you look like a nice girl, you have to go to bible study so go. valentines day is a day of love, not for break ups, if he is threatening you in leaving you if u dont see each other he doesnt care for what YOU care. you dont say id die for you in 3 months. im sorry but i think he isnt legit. ive been with my gf for a year, talking 4-5 hours every day multiply that by 365 days a year = 1825 hours. we go out and we are sure of our love. in new years i proposed to her in front of of her family and they all like me. im 18 years old and so is she. we have everything clear and we know our studies are first. your mom doesnt like him and she is in her right to not like him. talk to your mom and ask what she thinks of him and then talk with your bf. ive never liked this type of relationship of being 4 years younger than the guy and you are just in high school, because those are the cases when the pregnancies occur. becareful and keep your dignity and self respect. good luck
2007-01-27 06:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, he's going way too fast for a 16 year old. the only reason a 20 year old would go out with a 16 year old is becuz he wants to control u. stop this relationship before stuff get worse. but then again, only u know what's good for u. rethink this relationship. if he really loved u he wouldn't dump u on v-day.
2007-01-27 06:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Summer l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!!!! No offense, but the only reason a 20 year old would be dating a 16 year old is emotional immaturity. He sounds possesive and controling. He is trying to guilt you into staying with him and doing what he wants you do. (If he loved you, he wouldn't threaten to break up with you - period) A guy like that isn't good for you, hun. Do the smart thing and get out now before it gets even worse.
2007-01-27 06:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by eurovac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be 16 again and know what I know now . He's to old for you and at age 20 it sounds like he has lots of maturing to do. I would think twice about where your headed . But I wish you the best and good luck .
2007-01-27 06:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was just joking, ok, not funny jokes, but ok. However, just in case, rent the movie "Down in the Valley". He said some crazy stuff too - guess what? Dude was CRAY-ZEE!!!!
Go to Bible study, maybe you'll me a nice, not crazy boy your own age.
2007-01-27 06:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's pulling your heart strings by threatening you.
Don't fall for BS, he's playing mind games.
You could very well be the first 16 year old to see though all BS, but that's a choice you have to make.
Good luck, kiddo.
2007-01-27 06:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋