i go out with this boy and i think about him every day and it hurts to do anything bad to him. am i in love?
2007-01-27 06:20:39 · 16 answers · asked by Dani E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like i've said before you can't have someone else define love to you and you can't have a book definition of love. If you feel like your in love, then your probably in love. Only you can determine if you are, not any of us.
2007-01-27 06:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. I don't think it's impossible to fall in love quickly, but it's hard to know the difference right away. I'd say if it's been 4-6 months, you still think very highly of him, and you can't think of a good reason to end the relationship, you are probably in love. If you could still go on a completely innocent* date with him and have fun after that time, you're definitely in love.
*Innocent=like your first date may have been. You may have held hands and cuddled a bit, and maybe there were even a few short kisses. But you weren't making out or fooling around. I'm not saying that all of your dates should be like this, but that having one like that every so often is a good way to tell if you're really in love. If it doesn't work, you know your relationship is more based on lust.
2007-01-27 14:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by bisous148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's true that when you are in love, you think about the person all the time, that does not necessarily mean you are in love. It isn't just about not wanting to do anything bad to him - it's about caring deeply about him, things that matter to him, wanting the best for him, and about how he makes you feel when you are with him. When a person is really in love, they somehow feel a sense of security and completeness because that other person is in their life. I once thought about a boyfriend constantly and couldn't stop talking about him. I thought I was in love with him. Turns out I cared about him a lot, but he did not have the same feelings for me, and I sensed that and it made me insecure. That was part of why I couldn't stop talking about him. With my fiance now, I am so secure that I don't need to talk about him. I am so comfortable around him that I am relaxed and happy. I am very much in love with him. When I first knew I was in love with him, I thought about him constantly, but instead of worrying or wondering about things, I smiled every time I thought of him. I think when you are truly in love, versus just having a deep crush on someone, your heart will tell you and you will no. Nobody else can tell you if you are in love with someone. Only you will know.
2007-01-27 14:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My be or may be not.....the value of love is so deep... may be its ur mental state that u r being closer to this person who u r going out with... Going out means to become closer..coz there will be no factor to disturb you guys...may be u r in a crush or u r in some wonderful time..but always remember if u fall in true love...that means u will marry that guy and bear the family ...u ll die with that true love...as i have stated u have that feeling - state of mind..and this state of mind is just a reaction of ur brain..and this reaction can change in any moment...
u said u don't like hurting him..why shoud u do that....if u r jeolouse if he talks or hugs to another girl .thenit must be - u r attracted to him....but to have a love thing..u still have to pass time with him ...everyone is good and nice when they are in good mood...u have to decide if he or you will be angry once and after that what situaion will bring ....and yes- love those who loves you , better then whom u love....anyway ...best of luck to you and be happy..good luck.
2007-01-27 14:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say it but probably not.
Love is very complex.
Love is not a feeling,if it was we would be falling in and out of love every month or so.
Love is a PROCESS.
Love is unconditional.
Lust is a feeling.
The reason why we confuse love and lust is we think love is a feeling.
2007-01-27 14:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you like him. If it is just superficial stuff that attracts you to him, then probably not. But if you feel a good connection with him, then you might be in love with him.
2007-01-27 14:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by urbanguy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd know if it was love or not. Don't get it confused with infatuation or just attachment. If you want to be with him all the time, if he makes you happy, if you can imagine the rest of your life with him, then yes. ^^ Good for you, girl.
2007-01-27 14:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anodyne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Aspen. When I fell in love with my husband, there was no question in my mind. It sounds like you care about this person, but your not quite sure about what love is.
2007-01-27 14:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like him but, you're not in love.
You will know when your in love and you will not need to post the question here when it comes to it.
Good Luck
2007-01-27 14:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you wake up thinking about him first and go to bed thinking about him last? If yes... I guess you are.
2007-01-27 14:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋