2 months ago,my boyfriend left me cause he started having feelings for one of his friends[CONSTANTLY all over him when we together]&didn't want to hurt me.They started going out afterwards.It hurt,but we still remain one of each other's best friends.One day he came up to me&said that he was gonna break it off with his gf soon cause he realised he still had stronger feelings for me.He told me he's been wanting to for a while,&I've noticed by the way he avoids her,but said that she's even more sensitive than I am&is obsessed with him and he's scared of what she'd do after the break up,espeically since it was related to me.It's sort of true,she already hates me enough&I haven't shown any malice or hate to her.She'sOBSESSED-she carved his name into her arm with a knife...despite that he said he wants to work things out with me.I still love him very much,but my friends think he's an ***&could hurt me again&then there's his crazy gf...I really love him, but I'm so scared. What should I do?
2007-01-27 06:15:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And for the record, I haven't displayed any sort of sign that suggested that I wanted him to leave her for me, or hit on him in any way, or displayed any special affection towards him. I actually acted rather apathetic when he told me, saying two word replies and trying to change subject. I have actually partially moved on, but there are so many asshokes who just won't STOP discussing the OLD news around me, so it's been holding me back.
I do feel sympathetic for her though, there's no doubt about that...but I honestly haven't done anything to her except going out with him way before any of these unfortunate incidents happened, and I don't get why she thinks I'm out to ruin her world. I guess it's her love for him too.
2007-01-27 06:44:29 · update #1
First off... love shouldn't hurt! Therefore, I think that is a sign that this guy is NOT the guy for you.
Secondly, it sounds like this guy has the best of both worlds - he has a girlfriend, who loves him so much that she self mutilates (cuts herself) his name into her body... which sends up BIG PSYCHO FLAGS! On the other hand... you are still madly in love with this guy and are just waiting for him to "get up the courage" to do something about it.
If you ask me... (which you obviously did - seeing as you posted the question)... this guy is loving the attention and things aren't going to change.
If he left you once for someone else... he'll probably do it again!
You sound pretty young... so the best advice I can give you is to allow time to help you mature and you will find a young man who is so in love with you that NO ONE will be able to pull his attention away!
Good Luck!
2007-01-27 06:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Glory 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him! If he left you for a girl, he'll do it again! True love never dies! And so he preferred someone else that to be with you. He got what he wanted and now he regrets it, it's too bad. If you want to be friends with him, I'd advice you to stay away until this girlfriend of his is for sure history. Then be his friend. But for now, you're asking for BIG trouble even being seen with him, if she finds out! Do yourself a favor, meet other people and don't get yourself involved in something that will only hurt you more!
2007-01-27 06:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i've gone through something similar, except the guy didn't go as far as to carve her name into his arm. Love is really strong and hard to avoid, but considering you've all ready seen him with this other girl and have had sometime to start moving on you should really ask yourself one question: is being with him worth the possibility of being hurt? I mean you've taken steps to moving on and its really up to u whether or not you should go back. Some guys do learn and other don't so its really based on how u feel. i personally say give him another chance and as far as the girl goes, he should just sit her down and be honest. He seems like a good guy because he did tell u he had feelings for another girl and was straight up, rather then going behind your back with her. hope this helped. good luck.
2007-01-27 06:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by Hurt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him, you don't need him, he broked your heart once, are you going to let him do it again. you need to find a guy that is going to give you the respect you need and won't hurt you. and why would you want to get involved with someone that broked off with you and seeing this girl who is insecure. think of what might happen if you did. trust your feelingand stay away. so you don't have to be scared. later if hes been away from her for a very long time and you two still have feelings then go for it. right now I'm sorry I wouldn't get involved in it.
2007-01-27 06:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great way to get your ex back is https://tr.im/Pl0eK
They might realize they need you and come crawling back!
If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-02-02 12:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, this girlfriend is very emotionally unstable ,,,so why did your boyfriend got trapped by her? And he was with you, so his lack of respect for you deserves an action, why would you want to be in the middle of the hell this tow people have created? Do you want revenge to her? I think, you should stand back, enjoy your freedom, and anly after a long time, if he learned the lesson, you can go back, I think at this time, you are not respecting yourself, he cheated on you, he needs time to grow up at least. Go out as friends with other people, healthy people. Maybe you find someone much better , and this girl helped you to get rid from someone very immature
2007-01-27 06:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by monis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if you love him enough to risk getting hurt again and do you really want to get in the middle of this thing with the other girl. I would say no because if he loved you , he wouldn't have left you in the first place. Also, it sounds like he still cares about her. You deserve a man that loves you and only you.
2007-01-27 06:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you love him, doesn't mean that you have to go back to him. It seems like you understand the possible consequences of trying to work it out with him, which is always good. Quite honestly, it doesn't seem like it would be worth it to try and work it out with him. He left you and hurt you once. That doesn't mean you should give him the chance to do it again.
2007-01-27 06:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one simple word with a huge solution, "NO". He's not worth it, he'll hurt you again and take the crazy psycho freak back (most guys love girls like that). If you do take him back, you'll have to relive this pain all over again.
2007-01-27 06:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did not steal him away from you, he left because he wanted to leave. Think about this before you even consider taking him back. things just went bad for him in his new venture with this other girl, now he wants to come back to you. I say no. You can love him but that doesn't mean you have to take him back. let him work this thing out on his own. Its his problem not yours. He should not want to put you in harms way if he cares at all. Let him end his relationship to miss psyco completely with out you in the picture. ( so she can not lash out at you) And if you still think your madly in love with him....whatever! : ( Think about this seriously. You can do much better.
2007-01-27 06:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋