I've known this man socially for few months now. Two weeks ago that changed...he walked me to my car after social function and kissed me. We talked, shared more kisses. He calls me next day, e-mails me day after that saying "I'm still remembering your kisses". He expresses interest, yet in two weeks time has only called twice, e-mailed once. I've called him once, e-mailed once. He does clearly know of my mutual interest in him.
I know he is not married, don't think he is dating anyone else. Aware he has his own life, as I do mine . . . yet a couple with mutual interest I would think would make time to encourage further interest.
I'm 50, he's 48. I'm in shape, attractive, vibrant attitude with life, value myself and others . . . I find him to be attractive and of interest . . .
What is this thing that guys will do of seeming to have interest in a woman...yet not encourage that continued interest by not keeping in touch with the woman ?
Honest answers please.
2007-01-27 05:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by onelight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
" Maddie " . . . I don't agree. Men are NOT bastards. An individual (man or woman) may be a 'creep', but I don't generalize all men to be as you phrased. I adore, respect and value men. Just don't understand what I posed as a question above here.
2007-01-27 05:57:35 · update #1
" Jared " . . . great idea...Thanks !
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And, " G-Sizzle "...thanks for insight.
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2007-01-27 05:59:36 · update #2
No, I have not 'gone to bed' with him. Only shared kisses and conversations and socializing at functions we meet at with our social group.
2007-01-27 06:01:20 · update #3
" Dr. Lee " . . . Clear, honest answer. . . Thank you. I do have an interest to know more of this man and pursue a relationship. I appreciate the insight you shared. Thank you. And, by the way...I'm not the 'typical' woman out there who feel men are 'bastards'. See my other added comment above here. I value and adore men and am attentive to each man as an individual, not the "all men are creeps" attitude that is heard much these days from many (not all) women.
2007-01-27 06:12:53 · update #4
this guy might being screwing you, just for you to check, call him and see if he would like to go for a walk or something. Dont ask him for dinner or anything like that. But something like a walk. If he shuts you down alot then drop him.
2007-01-27 05:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by jared l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are asking the wrong people. i can tell you about me. But you want to know about him. (tell him you'd like to hear from him more often, pretend to ask him for advice, whatever it takes)
And what is it about women that requires constant non-contact hand holding?
Men build relationships by doing things together. Emphasis on the action verb. You have to act on the mutual interest. Talking, emailing, and otherwise chatting does not build relationship with a man. That's work for us. Walk somewhere together and chat on the way. Ask for his comment and actually value those comments.
Don't talk about (or plan) some mutual activity. Set a firm schedule and _do_ it.
That is, I am assuming you are interested in building a relationship with him. But if you really want a talky-feely, mutually supportive relationship, get a girlfriend. Otherwise, you're doomed to conclude men are bastards. Or go Hollywood and conclude that all good talky men are gay.
2007-01-27 14:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Most men are lazy. Also, men KNOW phone etiquette. Call them no less than 2-3 days after meeting but also before Thurs or Friday so that she hasn't made any plans for her weekend. Men do not want to come across as needy and they certainly don't want to hear from you first. It sucks, but its a power thing ... at its most insanely idiotic level.
2007-01-27 13:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by G-Sizzle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew, you know what? Sometimes is fear of not being enough, its incredible but true, the problem is that this is unconscious,,, so maybe he will find out years later, don’t get defined by his reaction, just wait, and try to enjoy life by yourself till something happens in his mind
The worst thing you can do is to gain weight or get depressed ,,,try to have a regular routine with female friends
Stay in form.Good luck
2007-01-27 14:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by monis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sad to say, but the myth in movies, books and all that, where the guy comes in a sweeps a women off her feet are pretty dead. If a guy trys to hard women to fast, we lose. So guys wait for a women to make moves, and then she doesnt think were man enough for them, and we still lose.
2007-01-27 14:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy seems to be not the auditory kind of guy.Talking on the phone is not very satisfying for a visual type person.... the fact that he said that he is still remembering your kisses hints that he is either a visual or/ and feeling kind of person.... someone who has to feel and touch.... and see.
2007-01-27 14:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you didn't go to bed with him, because if you did....then all this would make sense.....it was all he was after. In my opinion, you need to have a heart to heart talk with him and see what's up. If he's still kinda "so-so"......then move on. Life's too short for playing games. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-27 13:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh !!! Innocent victims of Cupid
remember this terse little verse
To let a fool kiss you is stupid
To let a kiss fool you is worse
2007-01-27 14:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Diogenes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEN ARE BASTARDS.
2007-01-27 13:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by augustina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋