he hasn't asked me out yet...does this mean he views me nothing more than a potential hook-up?

Question

Let me just clarify that we have not kissed yet (although he has tried many times)
So I've been hanging out with this one guy for maybe 1 and a half, 2 months. Basiclly i just go over to his dorm room and watch movies or telivision or we help each other out with homework. Sometimes play video games. I'm usually there 2 or 3 days a week until at least 1:30 am and we always just cuddle or spoon. I enjoy being around him. But he hasn't asked me out on a "real" date yet and i'm starting to worry that he only views me as a potential hook up (or make-out buddy). That's not what i want in him so it couldn't work out like that. I figure he has to know what I want because when he tried to kiss me I finally told him that i needed to get to know him better. I like him but i'm not trying to get myself hurt. Do i need to stop seeing him? And I'm not the type of girl that can just ask a guy out...I'm more old fassion when it coes to dating (i know i shouldn't be but that's just how I am)

So does he just view me as a challenge and once I make out with him it's over?

What does him not asking me out mean?

Also I told him that i like him so he knows

Maybe he's not asking me out b/c he doesn't have a car. but i have one so there isn't a problem.

Answer 1

He may think that watching a movie in his dorm is a date. If he doesn't have a car how can he ask you out to go anywhere? I know you are old fashioned, but if you really like him just ask. It really isn't that hard. You said you didn't want to get hurt. It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have been in love. How can you expect to fall in love if you aren't willing to open up and try??

Answer 2

I've used public transportation before it won't get you in the sack but it's the next best thing. Seriously, he's interested in you, physically, and he thinks you two have that chemistry, which you obviously don't because you have real feelings for him, so you need to stop spooning with him and leave him alone, because it's mixed messages, particularly in college when everyone else is getting physical with each other anyway.

I had a girl I did that with, some weird platonic zone that I was in, and we kept hanging around each other a lot for years and she always had issues when I was with other girls. But I wasn't really attracted to her like that, and she knew it; I may have pursued her one time I don't know but it didn't work out, but instead of going our separate ways it was back to sitting up and watching TV with her at 3 am. Of course if I had done it (physically), what type of relationship would that have been. Glad that I didn't; but that would have continued on until I'd graduated if I hadn't met someone else. I don't know what happened after that, but you get my point; if you're too comfortable physically in the beginning, the guy has no real reason to ask you for a relationship, and you don't have any real reason to believe that it will ever turn into one ...

Answer 3

hook up