Profiles on internet sites such as Match.com, singles.net, True.com and so, on with intentions just to look. And make FRIENDS, and even though they are friends they HAVE to be attractive. Also these sites serve the purpose of fullfilling the need that he has to find out why these woman find him attractive.
Also is this NORMAL, Do all guys in relationships were they are living together do this? Or is this somthing only a single guy should do?
2007-01-27 05:38:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he would never plan on cheating on me! But i know that the situation is not a good one and it could possiablly evolve into one by going to these sites wrather thats his entetions or not am I right or is that crazy talk?
2007-01-27 05:57:06 · update #1
Nope. It means that he's still looking. The girl/you should move out and onward. It will be painful, but he needs to make a choice. He might be just using her/you as a backup plan while he looks for his perfect woman. A lot of men have this image that the perfect woman exists for them (as if they are perfect themselves - ha!) and they "settle" in the meantime. A friend went through something similar. It will just drag out and he is wasting your time. He is not showing you any respect. It doesn't have to do with owning him - it's about respect for you as a person. He should want to be with you ...or not. He needs to choose, or you need to decide if you want to be used and devalued like that.
Don't get hurt because he is immature. Take it as a lesson learned and protect yourself. A little pain now is better than a lot of pain later. He is an immature jerk.
2007-01-27 05:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's normal, but I'd become very paranoid if you were my boyfriend and you had profiles on these sites. I've been cheated on in many of my serious relationships before, so I'd suspect that you were, too. Even if you weren't, how would I know?
Besides, why do your FRIENDS have to be attractive? That makes it all the more suspicious. And can't your girlfriend tell you why women find you attractive?
2007-01-27 05:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by bisous148 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't morally OK, but more than enough of us to do it for it to be considered normal behavior. Why is it that you think that his friends NEED to be attractive, it could be a coincidence or perhaps that's who he has stuff in common with. I have a lot of friends, far as I'm concerned they're all attractive I'm not so sure what the issue is there. He just wants to know that he still has it, which a lot of us don't especially after being tied down to one person over a year. If you think he's cheating there isn't enough evidence to really be concerned.
2007-01-27 05:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in a serious relationship, but he is not. He is not settled down, he is still playing the field, this is not normal, If a person has found what he loves, then it is no need to have him self out their on the net. You need to give him his walking papers, so he can keep on cruising the net. It may be hard for you, but their is someone out their, who only wants you!
2007-01-27 05:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not normal, in my opinion. Not respectful towards the relationship he is in. Seems to me like he's looking for the greener grass on the other side of the fence rather than tending to the grass on his own side. A good relationship takes effort and nurturing and total commitment. The grass isn't going to tend to itself and magically become luscious and green and beautiful.
2007-01-27 05:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not think it is okay for him to have profiles on these sites. First of all, it seems like he is trying to keep his options open. Secondly, he should not care why these women find him attractive-he should only care about what his girlfriend thinks.
2007-01-27 05:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like he's keeping is options open.
I wouldn't have much faith in the relationship. Are you sure he's being faithful to you now? I'd be very careful, and make sure he is using condoms.
2007-01-27 05:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, try this.
Get your own pages on these sites, and add him.
If he seems totally cool with it, he is just trying to prove his own virility to himself, perhaps trying to compensate for something.
If he freaks, you know that this is deeper than he says it is.
2007-01-27 05:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by sammbertt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, no and no way. The moment you started dating they should have gone bye bye.
2007-01-27 06:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a serious relationship with you not him talk to him.
2007-01-27 05:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by marynew8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋