I liked this girl when I met her briefly three months ago (she was visiting a mutual friend in my city). Now she's coming to visit again and I've agreed to let her stay in my place for a couple of weeks (her friends place is being renovated). Is this a good idea? I think I'd enjoy her company and I'm sure I'll get a few shags out of it (just to bring this question down to the base level!). My paranoid fear is that she might have her own plans to move to my city, and is hoping I'll let her stay for much longer than two weeks, long enough for her to find a job, her own place, and a new boyfriend. To put it in one sentence, I fear she might turn out to be a tramp who will be impossible to get out of my house.
2007-01-27 05:25:05 · 33 answers · asked by pantocool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think that it is a good idea to let someone you really don't know stay with you.
If it is not too late to tell her that you will not be able to let her stay, you may want to do that so that she can make other arrangements.
If you do let her stay, then make sure you politely tell her for how long she can stay and when she will have to leave. Make that clear up front, but do it in a nice way.
Oh by the way, I would not call her a tramp for what she might do, given that you are a tramp for what you hope to do. Namely get a few "shags" out of it. Don't be a hypocrite.
2007-01-27 05:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and probably you could get a few shags with her anyway. You don't know her, and can be dangerous. And then, it's very possible that if she's planning to move there, and don't has the money she'll try to get you into a relationship.
It's just not the best of the ideas, but is up to you, maybe you like her enough.
Help her to pay a hotel, and tell her your house got a plague.
Be careful.
xoxo
Gizeh
2007-01-27 05:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Gizeh Z. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow be so careful!
Every day or so make sure she understands this is only a two week stay. Do not expect anything from her! She give you ANYTHING she is going to expect more from you in return.
Keep all valuables locked up. Never give out keys or passwords. Heck I would not even let her touch the computers. Then again we would never do such a thing.
She may cry and put on the sob story act to get more out of you, do not let her manipulate you!!
Use your common sense, she maybe a nice person who will not steal or abuse you?
Good luck...
2007-01-27 05:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have a squatter. If you go through with this, lock up the nice jewelry. And don't be surprised if a few of her friends show up at your doorstep to hang around for awhile. I wouldn't stock up the pantry or the refrigerator either unless you enjoy feeding the masses. Come on.... have you really thought this through at all???
2007-01-27 05:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would lay down strict ground rules - and never expect anything in return - sure you are doing a favour but it could easily open up a can of worms. I'd feel very uneasy about letting someone stay in my apartment who I had only met once.
2007-01-27 05:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a really wise. You've only met her once, hey...she may be attractive to you but it is not wise for a lot of reasons but since u've already agreed...just do it cuz u dont want to hurt her feelings when u say "i changed my mind, u cant stay here, i've only met u once and i dont know if i can trust u"....if u really say that, it'll break her heart that u dont trust her. But u already agreed, so go for it.
2007-01-27 06:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sportacus,
It's best you talk to the "mutual friend" and get more info on her before deciding on your next step. Then write out the pros and cons of having her around. It's not a good idea to give someone, you barely know, access to your house. "Anything" could happen while you're asleep or out.
Take care.
2007-01-27 05:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dominic John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've already agreed, you're kind of in a bind. I'd guess if you renege on your offer, she will not want to hang out with you. But if you suspect she may be a tramp and just be using you, don't let her move in. I think it's awfully nervy of her to ask.
2007-01-27 05:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the down the rules and make arrangements that you expect her to be gone in the 2 weeks.
If she isn't out on her own volition, then pack her bags and set them outside.
Don't shag her - you'll be inviting trouble and she'll think that it's okay to stay.
You may need to talk to her before she comes out to find out her intentions - find out what she expects and also make it clear she is not to be a freeloader and you expect her to buy her own food, etc.,
Good luck.
2007-01-27 05:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is wanting to stay with you, and she has only met you once, and you let her, you are both nuts.
No self respecting person lets someone they barely know stay with them. It is even worse that you are planning to get sex out of it. Sounds like a form of prostitution to me. For both of you.
2007-01-27 05:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by sammbertt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋