me and my son lives with my mom due to financial bind. I take care of my son, I give the best way I can twards the house according to my paycheck, I help in any way to keep up the maintenance of the house(cleaning,paying bills, groceries, etc.)My mom does help me out with my son since I'm a single mother on top she does deal with diabetes and arthirritis. Even though she is functional,she has her moments when she doesnt feel good and I feel she tries to make me responsible in making her feel better. If she is hurting no mater what time of day or night if im sleeping or what ever im doing she wants me to massage her. That is just one thing I dont like to do but for the most part I just do it because I dont want to hear her mouth, she gets upset and try to put a guilt trip on me and makes sure she brings up the things that she has done for me and make me feel like Im disrepecting her because i dont want to do it. am I wrong because I dont like massaging her, Is it a sign of disrespect?
2007-01-27 05:25:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your situation is definitely not an easy one. Being a single parent, you often have to rely on parents until you can get back up on your own feet. Use the massages and guilt trips to motivate you into getting on your own even quicker. When you are tired and frustrated, just remember having to massage her, you will find more strength to do what is necessary to get out on your own. It is not disrespectful that you don't want to do it, but feel you have to do it to avoid the guilt trips or an extended argument. Do the massages and while doing them think of extra ways to save money or make more, whatever, to get your independence back. Good Luck!
2007-01-27 05:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. You have a right to feel and think independently. Don't let anybody even your own mother blackmail you emotionally. May be it is time that you told her how you feel. By the way if you are concerned about diabetes why don't you try visit this link.
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2007-01-27 17:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Karunya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not a sign of disrespect however she is your mother and
you in this world will only have the one so love her enought that whatever she asks of you you don't mind doing it one day she will not be here for you to massage and believe me you will miss it and her as far as the guilt trip only you can make your self feel guilty reach deep down inside you and see just where that feeling is really coming froom love your mom as long as you can
2007-01-27 14:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by bonestra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a massage therapist and i never massage anyone unless i feel like it .
there are massage chairs available and if financial reasons make a massage chair impossible, then you mother must learn that you need your sleep and to wake you up is not acceptable.
if she's in pain then she should use a pain pill or a stretch exercise that is even better for her and you will be free of being her personal slave ad odd hours
2007-01-27 13:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by search 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe...that is the best answer. You sound like you are in a tough spot. Your Mom needs attention to, so she turns to you. Work out a compromise if you can, and if not do your best to move out or deal with the massages. You are in a bad position. Change it or deal with it. Those really are your two choices.
2007-01-27 13:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not wrong, it seems to me that she is taking advantage of the situation by making you feel bad to make her feel good. I know she's your mother and everthing and she brought you into this world, but you can't spend your entire life repaying her. It needs to stop somewhere, I think you should tell her how you feel, and ask her to stop trying to make you feel guilty!
I also suggest that you start saving to move out and live in a home for your own someday, this will give you a little breather.
2007-01-27 13:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its all the same everywhere. Please respect your elders and give love. The outcome will be for sure something which you 3 deserve. Try this out as many times as possible.
2007-01-27 13:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by vjkiran 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one can say whats right in this situation.. the answer is within you.
2007-01-27 13:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋