So, my really good friend is in love with me and he keeps on acting weird. It's kind of freaky. I think he's going to ask me out and he is too good of a friend and if he did, i wouldn't want to break his heart and ruin our friendship. I'm just really confused . . . HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-27 05:22:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the base of every relationship is friendship.u r a lucky gal who has a chance to make a friend ,a boyfriend.my suggestion would be accept him if u r not in relationship with another chap.firstly u will fell akward but this feeling will die out with time.
2007-01-27 05:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this happen to me before, how I handle it probably was not the right way I ran off did not talk to him for almost a year because I was scared and I did not want to ruin the friendship. Thank god we are still friends today and we talked about this situation a couple days ago for the first time and what he told me is that he had wished I would have just been honest with him about the situation, instead of running away from it, which he is right. I think you should just be honest with him, if he takes it the wrong way then that is his fault, not yours. If he is really that good of a friend he will understand, and if he does take it the wrong way give him some time if he needs it, if he does not want to be friends anymore, then really he is not worth being friends with. Because true friends understand and they are there for you no matter what.
2007-01-27 05:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, you have to be good friends before you can even hope to have a good relationship. The fact that you're friends makes it a good possibility for you to be a good couple.
If you like him for his friendship then you need to tell him that but tell him you really value the friendship and you don't want to spoil it by dating.
Good luck
2007-01-27 05:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its really all up to you? Usually people say you end up with your closest friend of the opposite gender. Well your friendship is pretty much awkward now if you think that and its probaly gonna never be the same. However you can make it into something else good or bad depending on you. Determine your true feelings for him then think about this. "Never give up the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will give up you for the one he/she loves."
2007-01-27 05:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by §aD sMiLe §iLeNt TeArS™ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem!! I was upfront and told him that I would never like him that way. He said ok and that he would get over it.
To make a long story short. I tried to be friends with him, and I put up with him saying negative things about the people that I dated. When I got engaged, he got even worse, and I ended up cutting ties with him.
I'm not saying that this will happen to you, and I hope that you don't lose your friend. If you want to keep him in your life, watch for signs of jealousness if you date other people. If he starts being a jerk, and dosent stop after you talk to him take my advice and find another friend!
Good luck, I hope you don't lose your friend like I did.
2007-01-27 05:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by frenchie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That happened to me, a friend of mine text me saying "I LOVE YOU" I didnt know what to do, we got distant I and ended up losing one of my best mates, this happened about 7 years ago and i still regret losing him to this day. If i could turn back time i would have said something like, 'Your my best mate i love you to but just as friends, i wish i did feel something because your great but the chemistry is just not there.'
Hope this helps and Good Luck.
2007-01-27 05:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by MissY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive been in this situation with a best friend. It got kind of akward and i ended up breaking up with him.
But if you say yes then it ruins the friendship it will show you that he is not your real friend.
2007-01-27 05:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of expected because a really good friend who is a boy usually already likes you. If you don't like him you're just going to have to tell him that .it doesn't mean you can't be good friends.
2007-01-27 05:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!
I have the same problem. See I have this friend Josh that really really likes me. He's even told his family that he loves me but we're not going out. Anyways just say "Can we just be friends for now?"
If he's mad then you'll feel gulity but he'll bounce right back.
If he's a real friend then he'll understand.
2007-01-27 05:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Dr.DRE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him back, then just break it to him really easy, and he will get over it, then he will just need some time. Then you can see if he still wants to be friends.
2007-01-27 05:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋