Our daughter isn't ready to be potty trained yet, but is able to let us known when she needs/wants her diaper changed. My husband is usually home with her. He lets her keep playing till she asks to be changed. Sometimes, by the time she asks, her diaper is saturated, or has been messy for an hour (RARELY had any leaks). He's tried asking her sooner, and she'll say it's fine. She shows no signs of diaper rash or discomfort. If she's not getting rashes, and isn't bothered by it, does her diaper need changing right away?
2007-01-27 05:16:21 · 28 answers · asked by Amy Z 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When she's got diarhea, she asks to be changed right away, and we do.
2007-01-27 06:42:13 · update #1
I have read that what your husband is doing for her age is the way to do it. At that age it's a great thing to give them choices. It makes them think and feel a little more independant. As long as there is no diaper rash or anyting else that may harm/hurt her I think it's fine.
2007-01-27 05:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by 10 pts for me? 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
You gotta ask yourself if you would want to sit around in a dirty diaper for an hour!! Also when they are real wet the diaper is like this big swinging bag between the legs and it looks like it would be uncomfortable. Just because she does not have a rash does not mean it's OK. She has no idea what is good for her or not so don't rely on her opinion. That is not a good idea. You also don't want any poop to get into her vagina or her urinary tract. This will cause a bad infection that will require a prescription. So be smart and change the diaper as soon as she poops, and before it's full of urine.
2007-01-27 08:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine_rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's asking to be changed, then she's ready for at least the first step of potty training. She can get a rash or UTI from staying in a wet/soiled diaper for that long each day, and usually girls are much easier to train than boys (I have only boys). I would take the other girl's suggestion and buy her underwear, not diapers or pullups. I did the pullup route with my oldest, and he just thought it was another diaper. If a dirty diaper isn't bothering her, then that won't work for training her. Usually it will bug them and they'll want to go to the bathroom, but apparently that's not happening here. With underwear, there's no absorbency, so she will instantly want a clean pair and can understand within a couple of weeks that she will have to go potty so she will not wet herself so often. Save the pullups for night.
When people advocate leaving a child in a wet diaper as "potty training", they usually only mean for up to 5-10 minutes, after that, you change them and stop buying the diapers and get underwear.
2007-01-27 05:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
True, she might not be getting rashes but she may develop an infection or have major discomfort in the vagin area. Especially if she poops...that has to be changes right away because if that gets around her vagina area she can get infected. That's why they teach us at the hospital or parenting classes to always wipe them from front to back.
And if she's pretty much ready to be trained, I'd say, just hid the pull ups. Let her pick out some new panties, she'll have lots of accidents at first. Just be patient with her, and eventually she'll clue in that when she has that feeling she has to go to the potty or toilet.
2007-01-27 05:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Liz B 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
A little wet for a short time won't hurt. But it does need to be changed before it's saturated. That is where diaper rash comes from.
2007-01-27 05:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I always waited about 20 mins. after just to let them 'finish' I always hated changing my daughters diaper and then 5 minutes later she was soiled again! But things happen! I think an hour is too long, but as long as she isn't getting any rashes or anything go for it.
2007-01-27 06:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your potty trianing just put her in underwear. DOnt waste time with pull ups or going in and out of diapers. Let her pick out pretty princess undies or whatever she likes and then let her wear them. Yes leaving a child in a soiled diaper will give them a rash and they will be raw which makes diapers and pullups even worse!!! Cotton underwear is the best.
2007-01-27 05:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
my daughter would sit in her diaper FOREVER if i let her. she just did not care, and was more interested in playing with her toys..she just couldn't be bothered for the 2 minutes it takes to change a diaper. as long as there is no rash, you're fine, and maybe that'll get her to start wanting out of wetness, and help with the potty training.
2007-01-27 06:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that you are on the right track with trying to encourage her to have responsibility for her bowels but she seems to need a little more instruction first. Instead of asking her if she needs to be changed, say somethig like, "Susie, your pants look full and they smell like poop. Lets change them to keep your bottom clean." So she understands that the goal is to be clean and dry. Helping her learn about clean and dry lays the groundwork for potty training and she seems to be getting close. If she refuses to be changed, then tell her she may have another minute to play then change her. She may be saying that she's fine because she doesn't want to stop playing, this will cause problems when she has to leave her play to use the potty, help her to leave for a minute and go right back so that she can learn. Don't listen to those who tell you you are a bad parent, I can see where you are going. Your daughter needs to have responsibility for herself and you are letting her practice. I just think she needs a little more teaching before she is ready for the responsibility.
Good luck
2007-01-27 05:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You should always change a diaper immediately. If a child is still in diapers it is the parents responsibility to take charge and get it changed. If she is old enough to tell you it needs changed she is old enough to potty train.
2007-01-27 05:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋