My child anger temp tums getting worst?

Question

Okay last night me and my baby were asleep my boyfriend comes in and lays down she wakes up and starts crying I get up I gave her the sippy cup then she purposly falls off the bed which is not that high we just have the board and the mattress we look at her and she see that we didn't get up immediately she's sitting down then she throws herself into the ground banging her head onto the carpet and there was my boyfriend hard hat and shoes How can I stop her from doing this I need some help I don't want to punish her yet She's one years old what did I do to her to act this way we do give her alot of attention mostly everybody does I know that she's sometimes spoiled but how can I stop her from acting spoiled and have some these temp tums

Please help me. I need your help

Answer 1

At a year old, a tantrum will occur because your infant does not have the language skills to communicate with you, so keep that in mind for the next one. I have worked with infants for the last three years and here are some tried and true tips that you my find helpful.

It is impossible to stop the tantrum once it has started so move your child to a place that is safe and don't feed into it, you could place a pillow under your childs head and wait for it to be over. I don't mean to walk away, but only look from the corner of your eye so to speak. The less talking and pleading for them to stop you do the quicker it will be over.

Then when they are done talk about how they were feeling give them the words to identify the feeling-"wow, you were really angry when you banged you head on the floor, that must of hurt, are you ok?" your infant won't respond and they wont tell you next time that they are angry it just isn't developmentally appropriate, but they understand more then we think they do.

Also talk about feelings regularlly sing "If your Happy and you know it" and use appropriate facial expressions. This will help your childs emotional development, as well as their language development. Also you could sign up for infant sign laguage you wouldn't believe the results in the decrease of tantrums! It's amazing.

And last but not least Stay Calm! If it is not a big deal to you it won't be a big deal to them anymore. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Your baby is trying to grow up. She is trying to exert some control over her environment. Your goal is to give her safe healthy ways to do that. Yur job is not to keep her from having a fit. Decide now that you don't care how much she screams. It really won't hurt her and you don't want to be ruled by a tyrannical toddler. We'll use last night as an example, she was just tired and reacted with anger. She chose to bang her head and act up and it wasn't safe, the hard hat and shoes were there. I would have moved the shoes and hat and pretended to go back to bed. Don't fall asleep or she will have free run of the house. But if her screaming has no effect, she will abandon it in favor of another more effective method. She would have eventually climbed back into bed to cuddle and get the attention she wanted. That is appropriate behavior so tell her, "Susie, I would love to cuddle you, thanks for asking nicely." (She couldn't use words but you are reinforcing that idea for later.) During the day when she is awake and playing and she tries that, simply move her to a clear safe area or clear the area and ignore it. She will quit when it doesn't get what she wants.
Know this, it will get worse before it gets better. Screaming has worked for a long time and so she will just try harder but eventually (if you NEVER give in) she will quit and find a new way. You can choose the new way by immediately responding when she behaves appropriately, lavish attention when she is being "big" and give her lots of kisses, hugs and other affection when she isn't asking for it so she doesn't feel she needs to ask.
I hope this helps. I have two very opinionated small boys and have tried a lot of different things but teaching wit love and respect and not harping on the bad always works.

Answer 3

If you abdominal pains or if you have the pain run all the way to your throat you have acid reflux.I have been diagnosed with acid reflux even though I do not do anything wrong yet have had to make changes in my diet.Second of all try a stronger medicine in the meantime if this persists.Third of all change your diet or cut down on the fat,fast food,sugar,so much processed food,spicy foods,caffeine,coffee,chocolate,tomatoes... fruits,soda,carbonated drinks,pickes,etc can trigger acid reflux as in my case.In the mean time try to reduce or eliminate some of these foods out of your life,including acidic things such as salad dressing,pickles,etc..do not give things up completely but if you have chocolate have one piece one a week,something in moderation. Lastly,I would say that you might want to make an appointment with a GI specialist to see what is going on:you will tests,colonoscopies,endocopies,maybe given medicine to feel better if you do not feel better after changing the way you live your life/diet..My doctor also recommended that I eat small meals every 2-3 hours,I chew everything slowly,do not eat gum,drink water 1 hour before eating and work out to feel better as well as to eat 45 grams of fat per day.I hope this helps.

Answer 4

I have a 1 year old too. Don't worry she will outgrow the tantrums, I know it's hard, but you have to ignore the fits. Also try positive reinforcement. Praise her when she does something good and ignore the bad. Try it it works.

Answer 5

My son was about that age when he threw his self down and had his first temper tantrum. To my fathers amazement I walked off and ignored him. He learned fast that is not how you get my attention and that was the end of that.

Answer 6

First of all she SHOULD NOT be sleeping with you. You are spoiling her by letting her sleep with you. Also you are endangering her life because she could get rolled over on. Put her in her own bed in another room and stop letting her sleep with you.

Answer 7

You have to stop giving into her and she has to start understanding, even at her age, that there are consequences for her actions and behavior. You have to place restrictions and limits, even on others concerning her.