I need to know....is it just lust on his part?

Question

I am having a tough time in my head at the moment. I have a f**k buddy. Been going on for a couple of months or so. I am a woman, I have started to develop feeling for him, playing it cool though. I can talk to him about anything and he is a really nice guy, I fancy the pants off him too!
I never text him or contact him until he does me, the texts run along the lines of what we are going to do when we meet up next but he also said that there is more to it than that....I am a good person and he always looks forward to seeing me. Its driving me insane, I feel the need to say something but do not want the big heavy relationship and dont want him to think I do. I like the pace for the moment....once a week or so. I just know if he meets anyone else it with bother me. Help please you guys, I cant think about anything else and am meeting him tomorrow.

Answer 1

talk to this guy,you said you can talk to him about anything,its plane to see that you are falling for this guy,even if you get a knock back you still would be mates and you would put your mind at rest,which is the most important thing of all,walking round with a messed up head for the rest of your life cause you didn't ask a simple question,trust me,you have one life,go for it,good luck with tomorrow

Answer 2

We don't have much information here on how he feels because obviously you don't know. How does he act when you're out, say if you get chatting to another guy? If he gets ticked or acts a little possessive, I'd say he fancies you, if not then he's just having his cake (his freedom) and eating it too (the sex).
Me old mother used to say, "Why buy the cow when the milk's free?" If he's getting sex as and when he wants it from you, and you "don't contact him till he does you" then obviously he's just using you as what you yourself call "a fu*k buddy." (BTW, are you aware of how demeaning of you both that sounds? Why not just say you're each other's call service?)
Yes, you're a good person but very confused as to what you want in life. You don't want "the big heavy relationship" and yet if he meets someone else it will bother you? You need to have a good hard think and decide what you really want, because if you continue to try to have it both ways you will end up with what you've really actually got, which is just nothing.

Answer 3

A relationship that revolves around sex can rarely ever turn into a real and meaningful relationship. Sex is the only thing keeping this relationship alive. I bet if you cut him off he would hardly ever talk to you anymore. The fact that his text messages consist mainly of the sexual things he wants to do with you next tells you that he is only in it for the sex and he is in lust. If you are both single and you don't mind using each other for sex then by all means keep doing it...but if it bothers you to be used or to be using someone else for sex...then maybe you should tell him you don't feel right about having relationship based solely on sex and find a guy who will be more into taking you out to dinner or even taking you out in public..to meet his friends and family rather then just taking you someplace to have sex.
If he really cared about you he would want to see you more then just once a week...you are a booty call plain and simple.

Answer 4

What i gathered that you got feelings for the guy as you started to get annoyed if he dates other girls but also want to keep it on the same pace not rushing into heavy relationship.

i suppose the big question now whether he likes you back or not and you need to do more.

Suggestions..
try to call him instead of him calling
get involved in activities not related to sex
ask him for an advise about anything

as a guy that what makes me feel am appreciated and needed as a person not just a f*ckbuddy so it might send idea across and most of the time guy is usually about the same thing as you but trying to play it cool.

You'll never know until you try so give it a shot and good luck

Answer 5

tell him you have more feelings for him than that of just a f**k buddy although you not wanting the whole big relationship at the moment tell him how you appreciate the fact he is easy to talk to and you look forward to your meetings, tell him you not looking for another man to satisfy any of your needs cos he doing a good job giving you what you want for now, he may then tell you he is not looking around either, bringing the whole converstion up will encourage him to say anything on his mind too, just be honest and dont fall into the trap of game playing if you wanna know how he feels ask him

Answer 6

Wrong answer on everybody. I knew a friend (guy) that had this kind of relationship. Once girl told him that she wanted to be more than physical, he took off and never looked back.

Man are different than female. When we have just physical relationship, then it really is physical relationship only. If he wanted to be more than physical, he would have said it or shown it by now. So if I were you, get out of this physical relationship before you get your feelings hurt. By the way if you want to be sure, tell him why you can't do this anymore and if he does care, then he will tell you don't leave, but he doesn't, then he will move on and try to find another sex friend to replace you.

Answer 7

You should listen to yourself!! Can you tell me something else about this guy. Where is he from? What is his favourite colour? He makes you crazy so what get a grip and stop stretching out your anatomy. No body wants a woman who gives it away, that guy probably has his his girlfriend and since he's f**king you, he can save her for that special wedding night. Do you really think he's looking forward to see you, he looking forward to that p. hole of yours!! I can bet that when he gets tired of you p. hole he'll leave, you'll be devastated that you were giving it all away just for the feel good. When you find that real man you'll be sorry because you won't be able to satisfy him. Please have a little bit of pride you make females look bad!!!! Any body else who says otherwise can take it up with me.

Answer 8

i got a pal who got a lot of f**k buddies told me to him sex does not mean love and once he realize that girl love him he will ends the relationship. personally i think dont meet him as he is taking advantage of u as he knows that u are falling in love with him..

of corse he can be lovey dovey but can u really trust this type of guy? when my mentioned pal approach me to be his f**k buddy, i tell him to go and f**k himself

we ladies cannot let guys have "free meals". There is no free lunch in this world... only u can help urself by controlling ur lust for him...

Answer 9

Sounds good to me .. why change it ... You'll only get bored if it does .. then you're gonna need another f...k buddy

Amazing the way you youngsters think that you can handle this sort of relationship ... then fall into the same old trap... of wanting to control someone else

you are watching too much $ex in the city , ally mcbeal, friends .. whatever... real life is different ..

people are not really that cool ... not even me .. ;-))

this is real life .. not entertainment ... grow up time..

good luck


Dr Bad

Answer 10

Just be cool and relaxed,show him with your actions and expressions and talks that your really having feelings for him,but don't be too appearent.Always be attentive of what he says and be slow to answer in whatever he is asking,like pretend that you are lost in listening to him.It seems silly but you will have to show him that you're sensitive towards him,and he knows that you like him,so take half a step forward.keep it normal and cool.