As some of u guys suggested, if my b/f is always busy then show him that u are busy too! So that he would learn to miss me, if everytime i go after him that wouldn't give him a chance to realize how much he needs me and loves me! But there are 2 problems, 1st of all it is hard to be quiet without talking to him/calling him 2nd i tried but it's not that useful as it should be (or as i expect) he will keep calling that whole day if i don't answer but then next morning he'll go back to his own life....that's not worrying 'how come she's not answering my phone calls/have i lost her' or something like that! My BIGGEST QUESTION IS how can guys in general or at least my guy who's going out with me more than 3 years can concentrate on other stuffs and can never think of me when i don't talk to him....i think due to his busy life he's not realizing it now, may be when he's free or later in his life he'll be more relaxed and have time to spend with me....i have no idea!! What do u guys think!
2007-01-27 04:50:45 · 8 answers · asked by Girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
3 years? and he's pretty much unconcerned about you....this may sound mean and I might be wrong but sounds to me like he just calls you and sees you when its convenient for him or he has nothing better to do. even if his life is busy he would make more time for you if he loved you....how old are he and you? if he's young he might change down the road as many men do but it is unlikely the two of you will be in the same place then. are you willing to put youor life on hold waiting for him to put you first? it could be years or it could be never....take care :)
2007-01-27 05:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by donnyschick33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he trusts you and is comfortable in his relationship with you. You on the other hand sound like you have doubts about him. After 3 years of being together I think it is really time to have a "sit down" with this guy and clean the air. Find out exactly what you need to know. Or else I'm sorry to say, for him, it's mundane and the relationship is one of control and ownership. You're more like his possession than love interest. LOSE HIM, you can do better if this is the case. For your sake I hope it is not, but don't over look the possibility. Don't blind yourself to the truth. You'll be better off in the long run.
2007-01-27 05:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by G V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will always be second in his life get use to IT or find someone where you come first.. If you want more then what you got now then look around, your life with him is not going to get better, but may get worse, do you really think he is worth? it I don't
2007-01-27 05:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by larry B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without marriage. Do not have kids out of wedlock.. Do not marry someone if you can see problems in their character. Sounds to me like you need to find a new b/f...
2016-05-24 05:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and my hubby stopped paying much attention to me after a month of our marriage.I tried making him think that i'm busy with other things,i hang out with my friends more but he wouldn't even say a thing about it.it didn't even occur to him that i am trying to get his attention by doing that.i guess they just dont really think how we think and they are too confident because they have us so no need to give us anymore attention
2007-01-27 05:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by up4anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need a vacation alone with just girl friends. have a good time enjoy your self, don't answer calls. this could be a long weekend.
When you get back giggly and refreshed he could and should be jealous that you had a good time without him
2007-01-27 06:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl....
it shouldnt be this much work. something isnt right here. you sound obsessed!
he would probably be more attracted to you if you developed your SELF instead of obsessing on him! it probably creeps him out.
develop yourself! enjoy yourself! find out what makes YOU happy OUTSIDE of this guy!
if things are meant to be...they will happen in the right time.
2007-01-27 05:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to go a step further and break up with him tell him he leaves you no choice and until he can make time for you you arent going to be his girl!
p.s. it usually works!!
2007-01-27 04:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋