Sick of Dealing With My Sister's Bitchiness!?

Question

I love my sister, but she is so moody and controlling. The thing is, she can be in a bad mood whenever she wants, but no one else can. She does things that she would get on me about. Like as soon as our mom gets home from a long shift, she demands, "I want us to go shopping." That's the type of selfishness my sister loves to rag me about. My sister ALWAYS has to be the one who's inconvenienced or the one who is scolding, not the inconveniencer or the one being scolded. A few months ago, she accused me of having a bad attitude about her borrowing something of mine (you can't do anything with her unless you're kissing her *** to the extreme). She overtalked me and slammed her door in my face. I threw it open and she attacked me. She shoved me against the wall and slammed my head against it. I had hair missing. I love her and we have good times, but I'm sick of her hypocrisy and unwillingness to ever be wrong. It's starting to put a strain on me! What should I do? She's 23 and I'm 19.

Her mean nature is a big deal in our family. We all joke about being dominated by her. This isn't just an issue I have with her. My sister often hurts my mother's feelings and my mother confides in me about how hard she is to handle!

Answer 1

I cannot believe that there are people that act the way that your sister does? why, does your Mother let her get away with the things she does and does not tell her how she is acting is wrong, If as you say she is 23, what is she doing dominating everyone who lives on your house, My advice to you is to tell your Mother that if she does not put a stop of her bullying you and even her, something is going to happened at your house that one of you might get injured by her or by you. I can tell you to move from your house if you think that you can support yourself, but your Mother will be alone with your sister and you never know what will happen. I hope you can come to an understanding with your problem.

Answer 2

she is old enough to be on her own and that is what your mom should tell her. she couldn't fuss with you or your mom if she had her own place. Can she afford to do that if not maybe you could but then your mom would still be taking the abuse from her.She needs to be told how your mom and you feel about this but stress to her you love her. We are going through a similar problem in our family and I say the abuser should be told .