Three months I've been seeing him, just friends at first. He boasts about how good looking, and how many boyfriends/lovers, his ex of 10 years, and mother of his 15 ear old daughter, has had. He also reminises about their sex together and how good it was on one particular occasion. When I confronted him abut it he was sorry, that I was the only one, and that he wasn't interested in her, said all he could do was ask her out to see how he would feel about it. So he did this and then told me how she said no and laughed and knew what it was all about, then he said they talked about it although he wasn't gossiping about me. I feel so humiliated, yet at the same time, as though I am an idiot. Help, I am a laughing stock, although he doesn't see it like that. I don't want to make a decision about him in my emotional state, so what do you think about this, and what the hell do I do now? Sensible advice only please.
2007-01-27 04:30:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me as if he is ironing his problems out by using you my dear. If it were me I would feel that I am being used. Dont take his problems on board have a break and dont be so hard on yourself. I hate being discussed especially to X.s and would drop them so quick, more so if as urs has come back and told me.
2007-01-27 04:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would worry about is the fact that he is so brazen about his past relationships. Is he trying to make you jealous? Some men (and women) make a habit of it, so as to try and make you feel some what inferior. I genrally find that talking about past relationships with women only gets me a black eye and earache! I think the phrase "I think you doth protest too much!" is true on this occasion, with regard to him. His profane spouting about how many lovers his ex has had leads me to think that maybe he has had more than a monastic amout of "company". He asked her out? You actually said "Yes, of course you can ask your ex out."? You really must start being more selfish. I am a man (technically) and if my girlfriend (if I had one) asked me that I would have her bags packed before her nail varnish had dried (the Rimmel stuff, not the cheap tat!) and the taxi would set a new land speed record! In no way should you regard yourself as an idiot! You cannot believe that in the entire conversation he never talked about you once! Although it is your descision, and no one can trully advise you, I would suggest that you take some time out for yourself and consider if this is what you want. This will also give you the chance to calm down, so that he can't use the excuse "You're upset...You don't know what you are saying!"
I really hope this helps you!
2007-01-27 12:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is still in love with his ex and has no respect for you. He has no business discussing the details of his sexual history with you and especially making you feel like you come up short. If he cared about you he would not be looking to reunite with an ex. His relationship with her should be simple and only for the purpose of raising their daughter. Anything other than that is unfair to you as his new girlfriend.
Are these enough reasons for you to dump him right now? If not, consider your own well-being ten years from now, when you are still being compared to his ex and still being treated like an inferior creature. You are too good for that so move on NOW before you get in too deep.
2007-01-27 12:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a player and a user. Don't stand for a man who first compares you disfavourably with his ex and then laughs about telling her all about it! If you stay with this guy he will end up convincing you that his low opinion of you is your true value. Put on your boots and get walking, girl.
2007-01-27 13:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you hunni. Tell him to get lost, and then find someone who treats you with respect, and doesn't feel the need to talk about the sex with his ex. He is not taking your feelings into account at all, so drop him now!
2007-01-27 12:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be emotional. To me it sounds like he is still in love with his ex and maybe you need to talk to him about it. Give him some space to get over her or at least so he realizes that you are the one he wants to be with.
2007-01-27 13:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want sensible? i can only be straight. dump the moron! that guy is a joke. no man in his right mind would be bragging about their ex girlfriends or pulling stunts like he did if they were serious about being with you. trust and believe, there are much , much better men out there!
2007-01-27 12:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by number1dimes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was very involved with a woman who would tell me about her other ex-bf,lover's etc.it bothered me and was one of the reasons i quit seeing her.later i was told by her friends how much i meant to her and that she felt we were a match on all kinds of levels.i still think about her sometimes but i still don't want to be with her-it seems like hurtful game-playing.
2007-01-27 12:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by denny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to drop this loser,Get out and start enjoying yourself,Life is to short to be wasting on that loser,Be confident in your self,and best wishes,Go girl,
2007-01-27 12:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Theresa O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him if he is going to laugh about you to his ex about that then what else has he told her and laughed about or if you really like him confront him about it no one likes being made a fool of
2007-01-27 12:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋