why don't people think...?

Question

I understand "accidents" happen, but before conceiving why don't they consider all aspects, like the financial, instead of assuming they can depend on welfare? If you want to be a parent, then be a parent, just do it 100% instead of expecting others to pay for it. Kids can be expensive to get set up, clothes, furniture, car seat, food(if you don't breastfeed). Then there are issues such as how to pay bills while on maternity leave, how to pay for childcare. Your responsibility, not mine, my taxes shouldn't have to pay for your play time.

I may be rude but as a single mother who works hard to support her family WITHOUT welfare i feel i have the right to ask this.
I have 3 kids at home and two on the way. I support them 100% without funding from anyone else

actually it was well thought out. welfare as a temporary stepping stone, no problem, lose a job, use assistance while you get back on your feet, but then you dont use it anymore. wic, foodstamps, medicaid are all social services and here you apply for all but the wic at the welfare office, so those do qualify as welfare. there are things you can cut out of your life to make it easier to support your family, like internet, computer, cable. I'm speaking more of those that automatically assume they will get benefits just because they are pregnant and have kids.
i know how hard it can be to make ends meet. I am a single mom with 3 kids and 2 on the way. i work full time. i get no child support. i manage to pay rent daycare utilities etc on one income. i'm not being unrealistic. there are grants for people to go to school and get a better eduction so they can get a better job. that would be a time i consider a stepping stone for welfare use.

Answer 1

I do agree your question is rude, and you are not seeing it from everyone's perspective. I have one child. I have had a 3 jobs, so far. I'm 19. My fiance is 20 and has quite a few jobs himself. Do you not realize how expensive everything is in this day & age. We buy everything for our daughter except for formula. We get that from WIC. We get a Link Card which is food stamps. There is a difference between welfare & food stamps. Welfare is cash that they give to the females who sit around popping out kid after kid. I have never received welfare in my life. I get food stamps, medical card, and WIC. It is not only poor people etc. that get this. There is a broad income range to qualify. No one paid our bills while I was on maternity leave and no one paid for childcare for my daughter. I did, every week when I GOT PAID! The measley little amount of food stamps I get doesn't cover our food for a month. The WIC my daughter gets doesn't give her enough formula for a month. It's supplemental, it helps people who are out here genuinely struggling to make it. We try so hard and yes, I agree with you there are some people who don't deserve it. But when I had my child, I never assumed I could depend on welfare. Basically, your opinion is very biased and not very well thought out.

Answer 2

Because the maternal instinct, which is in all fertile females, has little to do with common sense or money. Human beings are the only living animals that employ birth control. All other animals mate when it is their time, whether they have a home, food, water, whatever. That's why unwanted (human) pregnancies either end up aborted (before the offspring is even recognized as a baby) or is kept, whether it's the best situation for the baby or not. What happens if you try to take a lion cub away from it's mother? Maternal instinct. Period. Above all else, we are the human animal.

Blessings

Answer 3

I get a kick out of people, I planned my children, I have no college education, I asked my wife not to work and stay at home, we each have a car, we had four children, though we are divorced now for the past year, they are now teenagers. We were never late on a bill, I paid for all of their hospital births, all formula, all food, cloths. We got no one penny from anyone. How did I do it? I have tremendous pride, I worked two full time jobs and one part time. There were weeks I worked 110 hours. I choose to have my children, It's my responsibility to raise them. I am divorced now, but still send $900.00 per month in child support, though I am only required to send $300. I can be done, you have to want to. I worked at fast food places, factory, whatever would let me work. I know people who sit at home don't work. I have a neighbor he goes out for about 20 minutes says he's looking for work, and comes home and plays play-station games the rest of the day. I do not feel sorry for them at all. I know own my own business and do better then when I was married, but I don't want my ex or children to suffer our divorce, and want them to have that same pride, I will always take care of my family.
If you can't afford them or wont go to all extremes to raise them on your own, I think a person should not bring in the world a child that someone else has to pay for.

Answer 4

My taxes should go to people who never worked(Social Security.) My taxes shouldn't go to causes I don't believe in(charitable contribution used as a tax write-off.) I don't fly and my taxes should support airlines(airline bailouts) nor do I use trains(Amtrack.) All of this is FEDERAL taxes. There is a "laundry" list of things that my money goes to against my wishes at just the Federal level. If you go to State and City level the list grows and gets worse in a sense. This is America though and like it or leave it. Oh and I'm sure someone will take offense at my comment on Social Security but truth is you DON'T have to pay in to get benefits. It isn't used the way it was meant to be. Things like SSI WEREN'T part of the orginal idea with as far as it has gone. Seriously I agree with the problem, but add that you can't really fix it.

Answer 5

I know where your coming from but on the other hand things happen in life that you never planned for. My aunt, who is the most amazing person that i know, has been taking care of herself since she was in her very early 20's, with college, paying her bills on time etc... but she became pregnant with her boyfriends baby when she was 31. Now, she has always been responsible and worked hard and a very smart, independent women. After their baby was born she found out her, then husband, owed the IRS tons of money. Everything that she had ever worked for, in the middle of buying her home, perfect credit was ruined all in one blink of an eye! She found herself broke, barely getting buy, losing everything she had ever worked for because this man wasn't honest with her from the beginning now my aunt had to pay for it. She had to seek help from Welfare just so she could feed her baby. Never in her plans, but it happened and sometimes it happens to the best people for all the wrong reasons! Now she's divorced and raising her baby's on her own and works her butt off to take care of them, no one else. She went through one of the worst times in her life and needed a little help, sometimes we all need a little help.
Some people take advantage but not everyone, so don't judge as a whole. Everyone story is different.

Answer 6

I don't get it either. I mean, I suppose teens don't really understand the entire process and may be looking for someone to love them unconditionally or it may seem fun, but they really have no idea what they're getting themselves into. How many of us tried to get pregnant in a loving committed relationship and thought we were prepared only to be surprised at how much work and money is involved?

Answer 7

problem is buddy, you dont' have a choice. your taxes will always pay for their support... plus when teens are f u c k i n you gotta be an idiot to think they are thinking about clothes, furniture, etc... they are acting their age as you are acting yours...

Answer 8

well i think ur just rude!!!!!!!