It just seems to my husband and I that she doesn't want to grow up and earn a living for herself so she has fained a string of bodily aches and pains and after 7 doctors said nothing was wrong with her (their findings based on CAT scans, MRI's, and blood tests) the 8th doctor actually performed surgery and even did a useless procedure. Now she is on about 10 different meds for pain and mental conditions. She sweats profusly when she eats and shakes uncontrollably (seems like symptoms of overdose or medication when no medication is needed) It seems the meds are actually GIVING her mental illness than helping something. Aren't medications supposed to help her function? Am I missing something here? I wonder if she would actually faine mental illness to this point for attention and avoidance of living life. Real life isn't as bad as what she is doing to herself, which is starting to make me wonder.
2007-01-27 03:51:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
She is 27 years old and has only lived away from home when she was in college for 6 years getting an associate's degree in commercial art. She still lives at home and dictates almost everything that goes on there. Dad is miserable, but deals with it because mom says to, and mom is just at her every beck and call. I think mom is afraid of the 'empty nest' what do you think?
2007-01-27 03:52:09 · update #1
When it attaches to my children's grandparents and sence of FAMILY, it IS my business. Can I have some intelligent answers please or even other people who are dealing with something similar in their lives?
2007-01-27 04:09:12 · update #2
It could be that she has some sort of psychiatric problem,it even sounds a bit like Munchhausen's syndrome where they are convinced that they are ill
2007-01-27 04:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is not your place to meddle in, if you can keep your own family at home and away from them more power to you, but what you might end up foolishly doing in the long run is losing your own family over all of this. Why can't you just accept your sister in law and try to give her some real guidance and support to do the right things, maybe she is having a hard time getting a job and this is the only way she kinows to survive right now. It is wrong that is true, but what you are trying or wanting to do is not helpful.
2007-01-27 14:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my sounds like my sister in law for years she has had problems and been to many different doctors with no known cause she has never worked since she and my brother have been married all this time i just thought she was a hypochondriac until recently now she has been diagnosed as having fibromyalgia
and I feel really bad I know some people don't think this is a real condition but I now believe it is here is a link to facts and info about fibromyalgia
http://health.yahoo.com/ency/healthwise/hw196365
2007-01-27 12:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by youhoo it's me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you have described to us, she is probably both mentally and physically ill. (And the physical illness might very well be making the mental illness worse or the mental illness might very well be making the physical illness worse.)
This girl is very lucky that she still has her mother and dad around to support her and watch over her. I mean no disrespect here but you need to back off. I hope that this girl's mom and dad have thought about how she will be taken care of once the are no longer on this earth. If I were her, I would not want to be under the domination of somone who is ignorant of mental illness.
This is your mother-in-law and your father-in-law's business, not yours. That girl is not your daughter.
You should be concerned about the well-being of your own immediate family and your husband.
Are you really interested in the well-being of your in-laws or the possiblity that they will be financially responsible for the care of this girl? And that in turn would have an effect on your husband's inheritance in the future?
If it is mental illness, the possibility exists that it might appear in one of the girl's siblings, like your husband. Watch over your husband's physical and emotional well-being.
2007-01-27 14:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
...it's obvious that you 'care',...and that 'you' have reached a conclusion drawn from resentments or doubts,.. and that some stress exists among your family members over your sis's health issue. Assumeing you have not exagerated your case or the situation, in the long haul, there is an inevitability....'sis' is sick, and will soon enough come to a culmination eather to undiagnosed problem, or medication consequence, or in-law support collaps...she is your brothrs wife, support him.
2007-01-27 12:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by olddogwatchin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of my in-laws are mentally ill! You did not marry his family, you married him. Support him, but let him handle it.
2007-01-27 11:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by bigtony615 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sure doesn't sound like she's in good shape. Since she's your sister-in-law, MYOB.
2007-01-27 12:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by poutine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋